How to find a Girlfriend

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First you need to lose fat, you need to do gym, you need to do something about your facial acne;
you need a job, you need to show off less your geeky interests.
You need to become sexier, more interesting and try to look and sound less geeky(hide your geekness).

and then we talk about profile's content.

WPers, stop fooling the poor guy for gods' sake!
Stop the sugar coating and be honest.**throwing tomatoes**

But thats just me. I don't want to go to the gym or be sexier. I just want a girl to like me for me. My Step Brother is fat and has a disability and he still manages to find a sweet girl

maybe you need to aim more realistically.
Does your step bro's gf is also fat and has health issues?

Also on dating sites you would be ruled out for very visual reasons, it is not like real life.

His Girlfriend is very nice looking and not fat at all. You are not being very helpful. I Want a girlfriend to like me for me, who i can watch movies with, listen to music, go on trips. but its not working.

They are skype screeshots. The girls aren't stunners just normal average looking girls

How did they meet, what are his qualities.
Do a comparitive listing.

That's not too bad....only thing is you talk more about yourself than why you want to get to know a girl you message or meet them. Might be better to start with something on their profile like 'hey, i noticed we have a similar taste in movies I am into such and such to.' then from there maybe suggest meeting in person and maybe getting together to watch movies. Basically you want to engage the other person before talking about yourself...like give them something the two of you have in common and can relate on and then maybe say a little bit about yourself.

Sam, you have been trying for over a year and you got one reply only - do you think you can change the outcome without changing anything, especially in yourself?

Be logical, please.

Its hard to find a gf when you are looking for one. Girls tend to avoid guys who are looking and they can tell. Its easier to find a gf when you are not looking for one.

Are you active and doing things that bring you in contact with other people? The more people you meet the better your chances of coming accross someone you get along with well.

But what do i need to change about myself. Are you saying all girls like are muscles and being fit. I want a girl who likes me for being me.

I Mean where do i start without using the dating sites

When you say get active what sort of things could i do. I can't drive and live in a place with my mum/stepdad as i don't have the money and i don't work at the moment due to family.

What can i do to find a girlfriend without online dating as this isn't working. No one is replying to my messages and i'm doing everything people say. I'm saying more about me, my hobbies and asking questions.

What else can i do?

It may seem like a flippant answer, but the best think you can probably do is enjoy your life and be happy. You will meet and attract people and be able to select the best partner for yourself. If you view dating as a system or game, I think you will only end up disappointed (either with or without a relationship). If all we had to do was figure out the right formula to attract someone, none of us would be on here confused and looking for advice. Online dating can certainly work--try it if that's what you want to do. You will probably be happier joining groups and going out to do things you like. That way finding someone is a bonus, not an objective. You will be happy for already doing what you like, and a relationship will be something extra. Knowing what you want in a partner helps, too. Focusing on that rather than the more general "relationship" may be helpful.

An active life usually includes working, perhaps school or training, recreational activities, social activities, maybe volunteering.

No one can tell you exactly what to do, as no one is in a position to know what is possible or what you are capable of doing. So basically come up with goals and get your ball rolling and keep it rolling.