Just got rejected, and it is getting odd

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17 Jul 2016, 7:40 am

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If a woman starts dating you to "give you a try," it will always be unsuccessful.

This! I don't know how many guys have asked for a chance, but I already know it's not going to work out. It's just gonna waste both of our time. You can't force sexual or romantic feelings for someone. I've tried, it doesn't work. You're better off just saying no, so the other party can move on faster.

Also it's rather hypocritical to be upset that your feelings "don't matter" to someone but then to spin around and try to convince someone to date you, which shows their feelings don't matter to you. I've actually seen guys with so little self awareness that they actually said I was being unfair and treating them like their feelings don't matter for rejecting them, and then tried to pressure me into dating them even though I said no and indicated their continued attempts were making me uncomfortable. I get the impression here that there is someone who doesn't care about the other person's feelings, and it's not me!

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17 Jul 2016, 8:25 am

On the other hand, you don't need to be a hypocrite to want someone to care about your feelings when you don't give a s**t about theirs—you can be just an honest bully who openly refuses to treat the other person like an equal and overtly seeks to break their will and subjugate them in the name of your petty selfish interests alone.

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17 Jul 2016, 8:31 am

Oooo, so I am an hypocrite, but you didn't say the OP of the other thread is hypocrite.

Instead, some users there called the guy an a**hole and crazy just because he rejected her and no other girl wants him.

Why?

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17 Jul 2016, 8:34 am

lidsmichelle wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

If a woman starts dating you to "give you a try," it will always be unsuccessful.

Does her rejection justify the way she treats me tho? I did say she is ghosting me.

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17 Jul 2016, 9:04 am

It would be proper if she contacted you, and not ghost you. Especially since you were friends previously.

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17 Jul 2016, 11:54 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

lidsmichelle wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

If a woman starts dating you to "give you a try," it will always be unsuccessful.

Does her rejection justify the way she treats me tho? I did say she is ghosting me.

The less contact you have with her, the quicker your feelings will evaporate. Seems like she's making that part easy for you. Isn't that a good thing?

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17 Jul 2016, 11:56 am

Sabreclaw wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

lidsmichelle wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

If a woman starts dating you to "give you a try," it will always be unsuccessful.

Does her rejection justify the way she treats me tho? I did say she is ghosting me.

The less contact you have with her, the quicker your feelings will evaporate. Seems like she's making that part easy for you. Isn't that a good thing?

Oh...but what about the friendship?

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17 Jul 2016, 1:43 pm

Just say you would like to continue the frendshp, and that you will restrain your romantic feelings.

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17 Jul 2016, 6:42 pm

"He/She will get to like me if they gave me a chance" is a Disney/fairytale fantasy. It doesn't work like this and dating someone you're not really interested in is dishonest and always ends poorly. You probably won't believe me but her agreeing to start something with you despite not finding you attractive would end up creating more trouble and grief for you.

Her ghosting you and getting angry with you sounds like she's misreading your intentions and not really valuing your friendship.

You should protect yourself and cut contact, not seeing her or following her online is your best chance to get over the disappointment and this "crush" quickly. Don't dwell on it and don't feed feelings that are not shared, it will only bring you more pain.

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17 Jul 2016, 6:52 pm

Is this actually a serious thread, or just a troll topic because you're ticked-off about the "I Was Rejected by a Desperate Guy," thread?

Currently, I have very little patience for troll threads.

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17 Jul 2016, 9:42 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:

Is this actually a serious thread, or just a troll topic because you're ticked-off about the "I Was Rejected by a Desperate Guy," thread?

It seems like it.

But I want to believe it's not a troll thread, because I think Boo's better than that.

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18 Jul 2016, 1:38 am

Accusations...accusations...

just close this thread.

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18 Jul 2016, 1:52 am

You should stand up for yourself. The mods have reasons to be suspicious given the circumstances, and you haven been naughty at times, but making up such a story and pretending to be in pain would show pettiness, deep-rooted dishonesty and lack of character. I think you should defend yourself of such accusations, implicit or explicit.

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18 Jul 2016, 2:22 am

BenderRodriguez wrote:

I will not defend myself against anything because it's a moot debate. Just close this thread - as the OP of this thread, I guess I have the right to request that without giving any reason why.

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18 Jul 2016, 2:31 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

lidsmichelle wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

If a woman starts dating you to "give you a try," it will always be unsuccessful.

Does her rejection justify the way she treats me tho? I did say she is ghosting me.

Yes and that is rude imo. However you can't force attractions.

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18 Jul 2016, 8:10 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Sabreclaw wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

lidsmichelle wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

If a woman starts dating you to "give you a try," it will always be unsuccessful.

Does her rejection justify the way she treats me tho? I did say she is ghosting me.

The less contact you have with her, the quicker your feelings will evaporate. Seems like she's making that part easy for you. Isn't that a good thing?

Oh...but what about the friendship?

In my opinion a friendship cannot continue when one party fancies another. It'll just lead to negative emotions. Best to bury it.

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