Finding a Girlfriend

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unfortuneately, having resentment is worse in men than it is in women

Yes, it is as simple as saying "hi." Make small talk. Compliment her.

"Hi. I couldn't help but notice your..."

"Nice hair/dress/outfit/shoes/etc..." (Whatever it is that you notice about her)

Or simply: "Hi, my name is..."

If you can't come up with anything to compliment her on, make small talk. Something as simple as "Boy, I love this weather" or "The food is really good here." Sometimes the simplest of comments can lead to a good conversation. When you realize that things are going well (she is looking at you, continually engaging you in conversation), then you can pull out the "I really liked talking to you. Do you think maybe we could go out some time?" or "Let me give you my number and we can continue this conversation some other time." (that last one would work especially well if one of you is having to leave.)

So yes, it really is that simple. Women aren't as complicated as you're making them out to be. You said you had male friends, right? How did that happen? You two struck up conversation, you at some point shared a common interest, right? Well it works the same way with women.

Well if i'm honest i had this male friend called Luke. But he has been very difficult and controling. He hates getting on buses alone and i can't leave because he would get upset. I always have to pay for everything.

To me this isn't what friendship is about and i don't have contact with him anymore.

So i know this is sort of repeating myself but how do i know if the girl actually wants to talk to me. If i like her how to i know/ask if she is single.

What would be the time frame because like i've said i am 23 and not getting any younger. soon i won't be able to have kids or get married

I've been single for a year, almost all the single women I have interacted with are crazy, though nothing compared to the one's who 'have a boyfriend' , then proceed to describe what can only be described as a toxic relationship where they are made to feel unhappy.

I have come to the conclusion that most people in relationships actually dislike each other as there is no other way to describe their interactions.

Dating sites are useless for us, I'd just get used to being alone.

But my Stepbrother and stepsister get on well with their partners. And other people i know get along with their partners.

I don't want to be alone

No-one wants to be alone, everyone wants someone at their side to hold onto and face life together.

It's just easier if you prepare for being alone and learn to accept it, this is the wrong planet for us in every way.

I'm just very worried about how my life is going to turn out. All i would like is to find a gf who i can look after, have her meet my parents and the other way around. to get married and have kids.

I just am not sure how/where to start. Sure you say talk to a girl but how the hell do i know if she's single. Most girls will have boyfriends when out and even if they don't how do i know if they are interested or single.

and then how do i ask if shes single, if she says she's not do i start again or keep the girl as a friend. If she is single how do i know shes interested in me and what would be the time frame to ask

I think you may be going about this wrong.

You have to spend time with someone to get to know them, otherwise you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

I know you want the companionship, the feeling of being with someone, the house, the kids, and of course the sex.

If you haven't spent time getting to know someone, how can you want those things with them?

Do you want those things with every woman you find yourself attracted to, even before you have interacted?

I will admit neurotypical women are exceedingly unskilled in conveying their thoughts to men with our condition, but there are a few signs of disinterest you can count on:

1. If she only speaks in reply to you/Never says anything except to answer questions from you, she is disinterested. If she is mentioning details about herself (interests and such), it's much more likely she is interested in you.

2. If she mentions her boyfriend, stop immediately. Conversely, if you speak for a good few minutes and she doesn't mention a boyfriend, it indicates she at least isn't threatened by you (neurotypical women will mention their boyfriend, whether or not they actually have one, immediately upon feeling in danger).

Only a minority of neurotypical women fulfill the "cold-hearted b***h" stereotype it can be easy to apply to them from men with our condition. More often than not, the women I approach are friendly and kind to me for the duration of a few-minute conversation, and seem to be in some way flattered that I approach them, even if they decline to give me their numbers.

I would discourage online dating. It takes out the nerve-wracking stress of having to approach someone in person, which I feel is an absolute necessity to suffer through in order to earn a good relationship.