I hate being approachable

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It makes sense to filter when you get a lot of attention. Especially if you have very specific requirements for example.

Well why is it you choose to be mean about them here? I know there is the generalization that many with aspergers are seen as nerds/geeks and rather introverted....and you come here and constantly talk trash about nerds, geeks and introverts. Then seem perplexed when people think you're being a bit nasty when chances are there might be a higher demographic of nerds on here than sites geared more towards the masses.

What you say when you're venting is usually your true feelings—otherwise, you'd have nothing to vent in the first place. There's little point in pressuring the OP now to deny her disgust at neckbeards; if anything, it's only likely to further boost her disgust.

The amount of sheer contempt I've seen from DevilKisses about nerdy people on this site makes it very hard to believe she wouldn't, even if unintentionally, convey that in real life.

You could always give those less outgoing types a chance. Often times they're only shy because they feel they don't fit in; they're not actually introverts.

Yeah. Doesn't DevilKisses know that us nerds usually have well paid IT jobs?

this neckbeard feels thoroughly marginalized. even the female neckbeards look down on me.

I agree.

It's better to let it go

To think of it, the reactions of us geeks toward her expressed contempt is a living proof that telling upfront how much she hates geeks is the most effective way to make her totally unapproachable in the geeks' eyes.

I mean, I am sure none of the WP nerds/geeks/neckbeards would ever want to approach her if they see her in real life after reading this thread, because they already know they're not worthy suitors worthy of her attention, whether for friendship or dating.

On the other hand, cool guys who were used to mock or bully geeks/nerds back in high school, may like her even more after reading this.

They have an enemy in common.

Conclusion: That's what you have to do DK, that's the solution for your dilemma.

Aren’t ice queens adorable? “Think you can melt my heart? Let’s see if you have the balls to try, only to die frozen solid, like hundreds of foolish suitors did before you”.

If you have a round face and smile a lot you will appear cute and approachable. Lose weight until you look extremely skinny and try to have a cocky runway-model pout at all times. Also, put one hand on your hip and roll your eyes a lot. It's also good to use as much makeup as possible and wear expensive clothing. Try to look as stuck-up as possible. Also, try using a serious duck-face selfie as your profile picture.

My face looks round at all weights

Don't bother listening to them, they are mocking you because you dared to use the word "neckbeard". I don't think I am particularly approachable so I'm not sure I can relate to your post, but don't let these other people get you down just because they took personal insult in your OP for some reason even though you were talking about guys who approach you IRL and not on this forum. They are over-sensitive and take everything as a personal insult that isn't even directed at them. Don't let it get to you, their whinging is not about you but about their own insecurities.

The mockery is because she has frequently shown utter disdain bordering on hatred for all nerdy and introverted types (look at a lot of her past posts if you missed them), on top of trying really hard to be cool and edgy. That combination of being a tryhard and mean-spirited is the source of mockery.

Cute round faces trigger in some disgusting neckbeards an urge to kiss their cheeks and hug their owners. A spiky collar and vest might come in handy to keep ’em at bay.

I have seen many of her past posts, and what I saw was her saying things like she wished the sort of people she is not attracted to were not attracted to her. Aren't there people in the world you are not attracted to? Should we be chastising you for not finding those people attractive or desirable? The fact is, she doesn't have to like nerds and she doesn't have to pretend to like nerds just to avoid being mocked by you. Not everyone likes nerds and not everyone has to. Just because you have trouble getting people to approach you should not mean you attack anyone who does have people approach them when they don't want to be approached. It's wrong to project your issues on to her like that and then get mad at her for not behaving how you think she should behave with guys she is or isn't attracted to. She can chose who she wants to be around, that is her prerogative, and mocking her for that is assinine and childish.

ETA: she also requested yesterday in the Moderator Attention thread that this thread be closed because she regretted making it and thought her words were not well chosen and hasty. But I guess she deserves no quarter for that either.

Maybe if she wasn't being piled on by bitter nerdy types in threads like this she might be less averse to their company IRL.

You're cherry-picking. There is a big difference between not finding a demographic attractive and being flatout insulting. A recent post of hers referred to all introverts as "close-minded shutins", which is blatantly insulting generalization, and also hypocritical, as that is in itself close-minded. She opened this post by referring to neckbeards as "disgusting". A lot of the males on this forum are nerdy and introverted (often forced to be introverted simply because they don't fit in). Insulting a large amount of your readers and then asking advice is not going to be received well. You're also ignoring point that she is trying really hard to make herself look cool instead of just trying to be a normal person, talking about being seen as "edgy" and "icy".

You might care to notice that one of the people here who called out DevilKisses on her attitude was a non-single woman. Is she projecting her issues onto DevilKisses? Is she bitter? I actually gave serious advice on how to be more appealing to outgoing men; stop being so mean-spirited, stop trying too hard to be somebody you're not, and be more outgoing yourself.

Nobody here is projecting their issues on her, but you're just cherry-picking what you want out of the conversation and ignoring everything else. People will be more open and helpful to those that at least try to act like decent people; DevilKisses has not done so.