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arthur_arcturus
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29 Sep 2016, 5:40 pm

You are definitely better off without! So if you meet a good one send her to me :)



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29 Sep 2016, 5:45 pm

ProfessorJohn wrote:
Space wrote:
If you can find a partner who accepts you for who you are, warts and all, and doesn't harbour any secret hope to change you, then (and only then) the relationship has the potential for long-term success.



Such people do exist. I have been married to one for almost 17 years. I am now starting to see what a true blessing that is, because these forums make it sound like those are kind of rare people, at least when it comes to dealing with Aspies.

Yeah, I'm beginning to think the relationship I have with my partner is as rare as rocking horse s**t also.


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03 Oct 2016, 9:38 am

I'd say if it's a choice between being single, and settling for a miserable or dysfunctional relationship just out of desperation to "find someone", then yes.

I get the impression that just due to the biological drive to find a mate, a lot of people end up settling for dysfunctional relationships when they wouldn't put up with that kind of situation in a platonic relationship, such as a friendship. (I think this is why both religions and secular philosophers like Epicurus suggested that some people might be better off being single).



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07 Oct 2016, 9:16 pm

lidsmichelle wrote:
Depends on your personality. You might be able to maintain a relationship with someone who requires less personal time together.

It is hard to balance full time work and a real though when you're mentally ill lol. I work 40 hours a week as a cake decorator in a bakery and it's so mismanaged that I just come home feeling dead. My schedule also clashes with my boyfriend's schedule - he has community college classes in the afternoon Monday-Thursday and has Friday-Sunday off. I work Friday-Sunday consistently. I usually get Wednesday and Thursday off lol.

I do want to spend more time with him, but given our clashing schedules and the fact that I work like 10-7 most days I don't really see him very often. On the days I work 7-4 I go see him after work, but those are rare days.
Yeah, I've been in that kind of relationship too. I worked in the daytime and she worked evenings. Funny thing was, I think I actually need more time together to maintain that relationship.


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07 Oct 2016, 10:32 pm

As an extreme introvert, being around other people drain me completely. Will stay single for forseeable future.