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02 Mar 2017, 5:21 pm

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Your posts are always the same.

The thing about truthful statements is that they don't tend to differ from one day to the next. Misogyny on a Wednesday is still gonna be misogyny on Friday.

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she doesn't know that the person who originally attacked, has the maturity of a 5-year-old.....

Dare I say you have the temperament to match?

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posting on a forum is very similar to walking into a party (in-person), where you WERE invited, but you don't know anyone there. Would YOU, Chronos, walk into a room-full of STRANGERS, and tell any of them, to their face, that they were wrong----that the conversation to which you weren't privy to what had been said before, or the relationship between the people, was, somehow, "not proper"?

If you have a problem with how she acted, take it to the mods. Don't keep bringing it up in an unrelated thread. You started this argument, and I'm finishing it. Knock it off.

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My impression is that MushroomPrincess was trying to reassure the OP and trying to make him feel better.

I was trying to be reassuring to Palmtoka, but also I was trying to reassure myself. I'm 5'10" and really self-conscious about being "too tall"

I didn't mean any offense.

Tall women are beautiful, Princess.

And besides,

5'10" isn't that tall. :wink:

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02 Mar 2017, 5:55 pm

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bossily tell members that have been here for YEARS, what the rules of this site, are; arrogantly call another member a misogynist;

She's done nothing wrong. Implying that women are "the more shallow sex" is misogyny; personal attacks are against the rules; the fact that the users in question have been here for years doesn't change that. On the latter point I can definitely sympathize, as the noxious aroma of misogyny has wafted into my nostrils the few times I've ventured into L&D. Had I been in her position I don't doubt I would have said the same thing.

Also while we're on the topic of misogyny, "bossy" is a sexist dogwhistle.

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and NOW, you've managed to be terribly insulting to a member from JAPAN by telling him that "5'10" isn't that tall", and I'm thinking it IS, for a male in Japan!!

Palmtoka doesn't need you to speak for him. Nobody likes a white knight.

If one says A isn't the bigger letter (out of A and B), then it's possible because A is equal to B.
Actually this what I actually meant- but of course, someone with certain thinking will project their own views unto others.

I don't think the OP felt insulted here; it wasn't an insult.

But I did think it's kinda silly to not consider the one's country when talking about what is considered tall.
5'10 in Japan is not as common as in the US or UK.

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02 Mar 2017, 6:01 pm

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I don't think she meant anything by it. 5'10" isn't that tall, and women don't usually go out of their way to catch the attention of male strangers.

you've managed to be terribly insulting to a member from JAPAN by telling him that "5'10" isn't that tall", and I'm thinking it IS, for a male in Japan!!

I think that 5'10'' for a Japanese male would be regarded as 'tall', I don't feel insulted by MP telling me what she did nonetheless.
Still, thank you for standing up for me.

You're quite welcome!!

Don't you wish you had women fighting over you, in person!! LOL j/k (wink)

Also, I forgot to say that I didn't address the OP, because I didn't have anything further, to add----as I agree with those who said it's quite possible that what they were saying didn't have anything to do with you.

Don't worry, I, and, maybe, every ASDer, here, can relate to "awkward"----and then, you throw-in "too tall" (or, whatever), and that can make situations that much more "sticky". I'm "too tall", as well, at 5'11"; but, when I realized there were many more people who were envious of my height, or that I could help by reaching things on the top shelf, I stopped being self-conscious about it.

Keep your chin, up----thanks, for responding----take care,

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I suspect she is an old member reincarnated to haunt us again - but I have no proof. ;p

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02 Mar 2017, 7:09 pm

^^ Ah, I'm glad you said that, cuz I was thinking the exact same thing.

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02 Mar 2017, 8:20 pm

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I did think it's kinda silly to not consider the one's country when talking about what is considered tall.

That's funny, coming from the guy who thought I was Iranian until I corrected him

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02 Mar 2017, 9:45 pm

Campin_Cat wrote:

palmtoka wrote:

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MushroomPrincess wrote:

I don't think she meant anything by it. 5'10" isn't that tall, and women don't usually go out of their way to catch the attention of male strangers.

you've managed to be terribly insulting to a member from JAPAN by telling him that "5'10" isn't that tall", and I'm thinking it IS, for a male in Japan!!

I think that 5'10'' for a Japanese male would be regarded as 'tall', I don't feel insulted by MP telling me what she did nonetheless.
Still, thank you for standing up for me.

You're quite welcome!!

Don't you wish you had women fighting over you, in person!! LOL j/k (wink)

I sometimes do, hopefully behind the curtain though.

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Also, I forgot to say that I didn't address the OP, because I didn't have anything further, to add----as I agree with those who said it's quite possible that what they were saying didn't have anything to do with you.

I see. Thank you.

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Don't worry, I, and, maybe, every ASDer, here, can relate to "awkward"----and then, you throw-in "too tall" (or, whatever), and that can make situations that much more "sticky". I'm "too tall", as well, at 5'11"; but, when I realized there were many more people who were envious of my height, or that I could help by reaching things on the top shelf, I stopped being self-conscious about it.

That makes sense.

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Keep your chin, up----thanks, for responding----take care,

I will. Again, thank you for your output. [/quote]

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02 Mar 2017, 9:57 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

5'10 in Japan is not as common as in the US or UK.

Not as common, at least around my area.

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02 Mar 2017, 10:05 pm

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I will keep that in mind...

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I don't think the OP felt insulted here; it wasn't an insult.

I don't think it was. I hardly imagined they would be on the same floor looking at the kind of stuff I was going to.

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03 Mar 2017, 1:35 am

Campin_Cat wrote:

Chronos and Campin_Cat wrote:

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I don't think she meant anything by it. 5'10" isn't that tall, and women don't usually go out of their way to catch the attention of male strangers.

My GOODNESS!! You've been here a whole three days, and you've managed to get yourself reported, more-than-once; bossily tell members that have been here for YEARS, what the rules of this site, are; arrogantly call another member a misogynist; and NOW, you've managed to be terribly insulting to a member from JAPAN by telling him that "5'10" isn't that tall", and I'm thinking it IS, for a male in Japan!! Are you this much fun, in person?

Did the OP feel terribly insulted by it or is that how you would feel if you were the OP?

No, I don't care what others think / say about me----but, I'll come to almost ANYBODY'S defense if I think they're being / could be hurt.

My impression is that MushroomPrincess was trying to reassure the OP and trying to make him feel better.

Another way it could've been taken, though, is that she was being snotty when she said "5'10" isn't that tall", and that she was saying "get over yourself"----and, now that she's said she's ALSO 5'10", that makes it DOUBLY possible, IMO, that she could've been saying "Stop feeling sorry for yourself, I'm as tall and a woman; I'M the one you should be feeling sorry for"; but, since she has said she wasn't doing that, I can accept that it's possible that she didn't mean it, that way.

Also, I was following the thread that MushroomPrincess reminded posters of the forum rules. Things were starting to get out of hand and she reminded people that personal attacks were against forum rules. How can anyone be out of line for that?

Yes, I've been following that thread, as well (even though I haven't posted, I've been reading, everyday), and things were NOT "starting to get out of hand", IMO. IMO, the person she was speaking to, had every right to say what he did to the person who had come after him (attacked him), and that's why what she did was out-of-line. She doesn't know either of those people----she doesn't know their history with each other, in that forum----she doesn't know that the person who originally attacked, has the maturity of a 5-year-old.....

Here's the way *I* look at it..... IMO, posting on a forum is very similar to walking into a party (in-person), where you WERE invited, but you don't know anyone there. Would YOU, Chronos, walk into a room-full of STRANGERS, and tell any of them, to their face, that they were wrong----that the conversation to which you weren't privy to what had been said before, or the relationship between the people, was, somehow, "not proper"? IMO, that's exactly what MushroomPrincess did; and, IMO, she was wrong, for doing it.

Forum rules are forum rules. Typically if I see someone break the rules I would report them to a moderator. If it were someone I was close with, I might remind them of the rules myself as I would not want them to get banned. Perhaps MushroomPrincess did not wish to see anyone get banned.

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03 Mar 2017, 2:10 am

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I did think it's kinda silly to not consider the one's country when talking about what is considered tall.

That's funny, coming from the guy who thought I was Iranian until I corrected him

Ahhh still having a grudge on that, eh?
Iranian or not, your views were very aligned with the Iranian sharia regime (and therefore their regional terrorist proxy groups) which is why I mistakenly thought you're a conservative Iranian ('Barchan' also sounded like a Persian name to me), before you leave Islam anyway - in my views, those with who your views were aligned with, are religious tyrants and killers and I couldn't respect that in you.

Now I have no idea what you think of them and what are your views on these same groups in the Middle East ; logically they should have changed significantly after finally denouncing islam altogether.

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03 Mar 2017, 2:35 am

Barchan wrote:

5'10" isn't that tall. :wink:

depends on those around you... :wink:

"kelp". "hugging a tree".

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03 Mar 2017, 2:36 am

palmtoka wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

5'10 in Japan is not as common as in the US or UK.

Not as common, at least around my area.

5'7" seems to be the average male height in Japan - so 5'10" for a Japanese male is certainly tall there, really tall.

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03 Mar 2017, 2:58 am

Chronos wrote:

Campin_Cat wrote:

MushroomPrincess wrote:

I don't think she meant anything by it. 5'10" isn't that tall, and women don't usually go out of their way to catch the attention of male strangers.

Did the OP feel terribly insulted by it or is that how you would feel if you were the OP?

My impression is that MushroomPrincess was trying to reassure the OP and trying to make him feel better. Also, I was following the thread that MushroomPrincess reminded posters of the forum rules. Things were starting to get out of hand and she reminded people that personal attacks were against forum rules. How can anyone be out of line for that?

Wil.....*cough* cough* oops, I mean MushroomPrincess is the one who made a very obvious personal attack by accusing me of being a potential abuser/control freak.

The mods agreed with me on that.

It's funny that you don't see that, Chronos.

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03 Mar 2017, 3:14 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Chronos wrote:

Campin_Cat wrote:

MushroomPrincess wrote:

I don't think she meant anything by it. 5'10" isn't that tall, and women don't usually go out of their way to catch the attention of male strangers.

I don't read every post, and do not recall reading that one, but I'm glad the moderators addressed the situation.

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03 Mar 2017, 3:40 am

Chronos wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Chronos wrote:

Campin_Cat wrote:

MushroomPrincess wrote:

I don't think she meant anything by it. 5'10" isn't that tall, and women don't usually go out of their way to catch the attention of male strangers.

I don't read every post, and do not recall reading that one, but I'm glad the moderators addressed the situation.

Maybe you are talking about a different thread then, anyway...../end of off topic.

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03 Mar 2017, 12:03 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Ahhh still having a grudge on that, eh?

Oh, there's no grudge. It's not an unreasonable assumption. The word "barchan" means a crescent-shaped sand dune, and I thought that was pretty so I used it. I only found out later that it's also the name of a town in Iran. Whoops!

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