Is there a way for me to know that my Aspie BF values me?

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cberg
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06 Apr 2017, 1:22 pm

No one reaches a consensus on accepting theories of mind simeltaneously because everyones' respective theory differs.

Still not watching that movie, we get plenty of negative reinforcement here. Nope. Workout time, I'm grabbing skis. Life's pretty easy when I make efforts to show love for everybody.


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06 Apr 2017, 1:35 pm

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Just watch the movie. It's not a happy ending. The thing is if this subject isn't discussed, nothing will improve. Both NT and Aspie have to work at it and be willing to do extra things (whatever that may be) otherwise it will not work out.


I did watch the movie and I thought the exact opposite of the ending. Adam gets to do what he loves but that's not your point I know.



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10 Apr 2017, 3:54 pm

I think finding ways for any & all parties to do what they love is pretty integral really, often when interests & obsessions clash it's the cause of people distancing each other & considering completely different ways/places to live. Learning more about how to speak casually of my work or hobbies helped me realize I needn't distinguish said work by jetting to strange cities for 6-18 months at a time just for a resume as cool as a master's degree for that stuff might be. It's important for anyone to stay calm about the pain points of their own interests so people can get along simply enough to stay close.

At the moment I'd practically have to mail a postcard 30 blocks to her cats but all the same I'm working on a birthday gift for someone really important & we do at least keep up with each other. We're adapting to creative, familial life & reconciling with a loud city so I think patience is really important to show her (NT) she's worthwhile.


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