I think finding ways for any & all parties to do what they love is pretty integral really, often when interests & obsessions clash it's the cause of people distancing each other & considering completely different ways/places to live. Learning more about how to speak casually of my work or hobbies helped me realize I needn't distinguish said work by jetting to strange cities for 6-18 months at a time just for a resume as cool as a master's degree for that stuff might be. It's important for anyone to stay calm about the pain points of their own interests so people can get along simply enough to stay close.
At the moment I'd practically have to mail a postcard 30 blocks to her cats but all the same I'm working on a birthday gift for someone really important & we do at least keep up with each other. We're adapting to creative, familial life & reconciling with a loud city so I think patience is really important to show her (NT) she's worthwhile.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
