I'm too weird to date

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I can get one, but i can't keep one. There's a very big difference between the two. After a few months they more or less run for the hills aside from the abusive guy.

I'm very fit and also chesty. I get called gorgeous and pretty when i don't wear makeup. I am a fitness competitor, well once lol. My ex said i'm what many guys would call a '10.' Looks aren't the problem.

I also would counsel you to avoid dark topics such as serial killers. Try to find a positive interest and build friendships based on them. My interest in tennis led me to sign up for lessons. I like the players and wanted a more active lifestyle.

If everyone shunned dark topics there'd be a lot less historians in the world.

Chesty... hmmm...

Definitely. One of my other interests is dance. I took my first ballet class-as an adult. Im also looking to take my first circus arts class. All of a sudden i became interested in makeup. Most of my interests arent so macabre, thankfully.

I also get really into things overnight. Im sure many here can relate.

True lol
If i could handle college, I'd be a criminal profiler or something like that. Its hood money esp if you work for the fbi.

Of course, dark topics cannot be avoided from a historical perspective. I studied about countries that I wouldn't want to live in because life is so awful in them.

I can't even get to message women none less date. I'd love to have a girl for few months that'd be amazing

A lot of guys get turned down a lot, if that helps any.
I would trade if i could. Im about done with dating.

It looks like guys get to know me a little then run to another woman. That hurts.

That comment is not adding up with your story. Many guys would put up with straight BULLS**T to be with a girl that's considered a '10'.

You yourself said that you could get a guy in your gym easily if you wanted to, so my question: how is it that you can only get abusive men if you're so sure you can get anybody? These guys dated you and they run away once they get to know you. I am pretty sure all of them were not mean.

Honestly now you sound like those people that get mad at their dates because they don't fit this specific mold of a partner that they want, so they make it sound like they're just weird and nobody likes them. These people do like them but they are so shallow that they only see what the other person doesn't have on their list.

You are assuming a man would do anything and everything just to be with a woman who looks good. Maybe for sex, yes, but not necessarily for a relationship. It is just that, an assumption. In fact, the women who get chosen over me are often average. One guy who put me on the backburner for years and only wanted sex (then came around to wanting more ) is now dating a woman who is very, very plain. The other woman he chose over me was very plain as well. This is from a man who still calls me beautiful.



Most women are attracted just fine to most women of childbearing age. He doesn't have to be with a 10 or someone superhot for physical satisfaction. Women, esp younger women, are rarely unattractive. Heck, I know women who are kind of unattractive, and they have kids and boyfriends. A woman being sexually attractive to a man isn't an achievement tbh. My ex said i'm better looking than one of the girls who he said was "so thoughtful" until she turned gold digger. This ex says many men would call me a 10.

As for abusive men, I don't know. I guess the abusive ones are the only ones who will stay with me for any period of time no matter how short. Also, I could try to talk to men at my gym or anywhere, but I don't want to. I feel very done. There is only so much dating drama I'm going to put up with. When I'm single I get to be myself.
I bring out the worst in nice guys, apparently, because they flat out dump me for other women, too.

lol @ me making up being weird. I've never fit in. I have a long history of having 0 friends (i'm 30 and never had a real friend), can't keep a man, saying and doing weird things, being stupid smart, but yeah, I'm just making it up. At least i'm willing to admit I'm strange. I flat out get called weird and strange,but i'm making things up. Ok.

Yes, I can get a man very easily. It's a difference between getting them and actually keeping one.

Not everything is about how you look.

You and my mother could be twins. My mother says many of the same things you do and when my mother and someone broke up, I guarantee you it was never her fault! She always never took the good with the bad, it was either good or nothing.

You want a person that is fit like yourself but don't want to put in the work to keep them. My mother also said she couldn't be herself with other people when in reality what she was saying was "I will not change for anybody, everything I do you have to accept and I will not compromise one bit!"

She was too stubborn to realize that you will have to change at some point to keep a relationship! She herself is also single and sometimes says she wish she could find love. If you aren't willing to change and compromise with your (boy/girl)friend then keeping a relationship is pretty much not going to happen!

She also said that she only likes the beginning of relationships when you are all starry eyed with the person and learning about them but, once you know pretty much everything there is nothing interesting. It's like she wants all the benefits of a relationship but none of the problems. Which=Impossible!

I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just giving you an idea as to why you may not be able to keep the guys you are dating, remember it takes two to end a relationship. You may just be doing something subconsciously that you aren't realizing that's making men leave. But, unlike my mother you can change yourself and fix this problem! Don't just write yourself off as weird and undateable because you clearly are dateable!

Maybe there's something that makes them perceive you as a f- buddy material but not as marriage material.

Did you have a promiscuous past?

So you think i'm blaming other people, how? I've basically roasted myself. *confused*
First post of the thread, I said in my last relationship, there are things I wouldve done differently. That being said, everybody has faults, but i don't know any other women who get dumped so consistently.

Since it's not about me being weird at all, I'll go on some dates and start talking about serial killers and contortionism and see how that goes. It's not something I can just change. No one can just stop being weird. I can hold it in for awhile, but it always comes out. I'm getting older, and it's getting more difficult to hide.

Abusive guy was nerdy, and he dumped me. The other ex was kinda nerdy and certainly not a fitness freak, he still dumped me and left for another woman.
Oh trust me, it only takes one person to end a relationship. The one who wants it least has the power. You can't make someone stay with you.

At this point in my life, I'm tired of being dumped. I'm tired of being dumped no matter what I try. I want to be myself, have any interest if i want, lay in bed and be quiet if i want, etc. If men and people in general don't like me, that's ok. I don't want a life of being dumped, dumped, and dumped again.

Nope.