Why would any women want me?

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is that code word for nematodes?

thanks for overlooking my misstated sentence "could give a f**k'd-ness". you correctly identified that i meant "couldn't"

anyway, the homunculus is indeed a representation of sensitivity to touch, but i had a discussion with my psychiatrist wherein i was enlightened about the other considerations pertaining to the homunculus.

there are efferent and afferent neurons, and they are connected to complete a circuit.

afferent neurons relay impulses from sensations to the brain, and efferent neurons relay impulses back to the site of the afferent origination.

so, the representation of the "statue" is a pictogram that shows the system in "normal" individuals.

when one receives more afferent signals from areas of the "statue" that are shown as diminutive, then one feels a sense of imbalance in that area.

for example, if one feels more afference from the leg parts, they may incorrectly believe they have fat legs.

2 major problems arise from a distortion of the homunculus state in our brains.

1 is my health anxiety. i have a fixation on my right front incisor tooth somehow becoming loose for no apparent reason.
i feel if it is loose maybe twice per hour.
it is always rock solid and i am relieved, but i feel the area so intensely i have to recheck it very often.

my doctor said it is because i have fixated on that area and the homonculus state is disproportionate in that particular area, and it has become disproportionate due to the energy infused into that connection path by my fixation.
it becomes difficult to ignore.

2. dysmorphia (which i do not have) is also apparently caused by a similar imbalance. an extremely thin emaciated anorexic may feel that they are still fat, and that belief is not dispelled even by what they see in the mirror.

so someone who infuses a lot of energy into thinking about the parts of their body they find displeasing, will compound it until it is impossible to ignore.

as far as the OP is concerned, he fobs off all consolation (which is understandable), but there is a kind of spiritual stench that surrounds people who are wallowing in their sense of inadequacy.

it shows that you are beaten. you lost the fight against your adversity.

i have never been physically remarkable, so i have never experienced societal reaction to serious physical disfigurements.

a seriously lopsided face or some other unattractive thing may indeed be a hard reality to conquer, i so i am not an ideal person to provide council for his plight.

i will say however, that i have seen some seriously ugly men with very beautiful girlfriends, and these men seem to be quite confident and unconcerned about their appearance.

i also have never been able to be intimate with any girl because it is just too much for my brain.
too close.
too personal.
too little oxygen in the air they exhale when my lips are close to hers.

but when i did have a sex drive, i just wanted to have sex with hot sluts who were not in it for the relationship.

i never needed intimacy or companionship, but the OP has a more romantic outlook and may suffer more if it is unfulfilled.

a good attitude won’t solve his flaws but a few of said flaws are permanent, and theres nothing he can do about them (low iq? saliva leak?) so what else is one to do, there besides learn to live with it.

he could try harder, i think, to fix what’s wrong with him physically but attitude can’t be totally discounted - its one of the biggest factors that determines whether or not someone wants to be around someone else IMO.

His low self esteem and his attitude didn’t just come by chance.

People seem to discredit the sheer merciless onslaught being perpetually single has on one's self esteem. Imagine, everyone else around you can attract people, but you can't. Why can't you? What have the others got that you don't? Why can so many different people all have this one "x-factor" that you lack? It's maddening.

from my personal experience I can tell the OP that he'd immediately profit if he promptly stopped putting women on pedestals.

Kiprobalhato is unable to relate to this matter (honestly like most women here except few), she surely was never in this situation by choice for long - so there's no use to argue more than that, it's totally out of her scope in life experience.

I still seem to lack this "x-factor" honestly, but among my ethnicity, my people - I simply don't seem to be able to attract local women of my own culture; but when I talk to foreigner women from different cultures- especially Asian women - the way how they react to me and how so easy-peasy I can incite their interest feels as if like I have suddenly been transferred to another planet with different species. Hell, I even had Moroccan and Latina admirers but they are so few here.
But yeah, I always keep asking myself these questions too when it comes to local women.