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Aspie1
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30 Jan 2018, 10:00 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Women should respect their hubbies and men should love their wives.

I literally paused for 3 minutes reading this sentence, trying to compute the gender-based discrimination that it entails, shouldn't love and respect be mutual? Why women should X and men should Y?

Are you suggesting that wives shouldn't necessarily love their husbands? :?: :?: :?: wtf?
I think the inner quote came from the Red Pill, which says that men love women, but women respect men. (The statement "men love women, women love kids, and kids love cats" is from the same source.) Unlike the mainstream society, the Red Pill doesn't combine love and respect, and says that there's very little overlap between the two.



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30 Jan 2018, 10:44 pm

Aspie1 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Women should respect their hubbies and men should love their wives.

I literally paused for 3 minutes reading this sentence, trying to compute the gender-based discrimination that it entails, shouldn't love and respect be mutual? Why women should X and men should Y?

Are you suggesting that wives shouldn't necessarily love their husbands? :?: :?: :?: wtf?
I think the inner quote came from the Red Pill, which says that men love women, but women respect men. (The statement "men love women, women love kids, and kids love cats" is from the same source.) Unlike the mainstream society, the Red Pill doesn't combine love and respect, and says that there's very little overlap between the two.


Who are these "Red pill" men to tell me as a woman what I feel towards a man? I wouldn't marry a man I didn't love and I am positive my female relatives love their spouses.



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30 Jan 2018, 10:46 pm

I want to be loved and respected at the same time.

If I'm loved, and not respected, I would feel bad.

If I'm respected, but not loved, I would feel less bad.



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30 Jan 2018, 10:49 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I want to be loved and respected at the same time.

If I'm loved, and not respected, I would feel bad.

If I'm respected, but not loved, I would feel less bad.


I would of course respect my spouse as well. Mutual love and respect would be important to me in a marriage.



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31 Jan 2018, 8:33 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I want to be loved and respected at the same time.

If I'm loved, and not respected, I would feel bad.

If I'm respected, but not loved, I would feel less bad.


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31 Jan 2018, 9:31 pm

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She is so very stressed out by everything; work, money...

I caught her gaslighting me last week.

See, when I request intimacy, she'll refuse on the grounds that I always want to take it further.

BUT

when we're getting all hot and heavy AND when I make it clear that I probably can't tonight because of a (legit) tension headache, she insisted upon "taking it further".

So it's always been HER who's been wanting to take it too far!

For years, I kept trying to convince her that I can control myself and that being physical doesn't have to end in sex.

I've been gaslighted by my wife. I have to digest that for a while.


She's your wife, and while she shouldn't be objectified, you should be able to have sex with her on a regular basis. Since I read in another post about her hygiene, that leads me to believe she might be depressed. Ever thought about asking her to see a psychiatrist? Maybe she needs antidepressants.