What comes next after acceptance?

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Thinking about it is what’s wrecking his life, though. I agree with Boo on lots of things, but Hale’s got it this time. His gottagettagf obsession is creeping girls out.

Better to focus on things within his control and start making life really happen, like hale said basically. That puts you in a position in which the extra benefits such as relationships “just happen.”

I think Mark might find a place to fit in better if he moved elsewhere, but that won’t really fix the problem. Part of it is Mark views people around him as sub-human. Relationships happen faster the less you hate other people. My advice in the past has been if you are stuck somewhere with only one type of girl, pursue who you have available to you. Make her interests your interests. Learn to communicate and share. Make those people and their interests more important to you than your own. And then ACT to show people you love them by doing little things to make them feel important.

Moving away won’t fix the underlying unattractive attitude. Those problems follow you no matter where you go. SOME things will be easier when you escape local culture, but not that one. It will catch up with you. You’ll end up either finding ways to hate people where you move or you’ll become so depressed you’ll give up and hate yourself and end up even more frustrated than you already are.

I’m not saying NOT move. I’m just saying don’t have unrealistic expectations. You do better to just stop hating people.

Why else do you think I argue here? To mine bitcoins?

I didn't take myself off the market because I didn't feel like dating, I took myself off the market because I was getting into a slump. My health was deteriorating and my attitude was taking a hit. I was no longer in the right physical or mental state to put the best me out there and be fully open to accepting a partner into my life. I needed to work on getting myself into a better place rather than turning into some of the people I see on this site - depressed, overly negative, feeling undeserving of love, etc. I was indeed much less "dateable" than I am now that I've taken that time to focus on other things.

Seems a bit sad that you come here to argue and play the whole women vs men game, as opposed to trying to help the op. Get a life.

I've found posts on WP to be helpful. I think I was buying into the men vs women thing but it's looking like just toxic nonsense when I take a second look.

Dramatic much?

I try to stay impartial in discussions and just see what they're saying, maybe ask them questions. I feel like there's the potential for learning from almost every person or at least a good majority. And it benefits them to discuss it too since questions/discussion about it could help them understand their experiences more deeply or from a new perspective.