do guys disliked girls who are sexual?

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How does someone cuddle, make out, and have sex with people they don’t have feelings for?

It's hard...trust me!

I can't cuddle with somebody I have no feelings for.

You can have feelings for someone without being in love...

Sure you could.

But when the feelings are sexual, I feel like it is "love" at the moment. It might actually be "lust." But it feels like "love" to me at the time.

my boyfriend told me that when we were having intimacy he felt like he loved me but it just fades afterwards. it was really frustrating.

Yep. That's how guys feel sometimes. When they feel aroused, they feel "love."

A guy who thinks, though, will still be turned on after he has an orgasm. A thinking man will realize that the woman values him. I know, with me, when a woman values me, I feel lust and love even after I have an orgasm. I feel like I want to cuddle with that woman after I'm satisfied. I want to cook her bacon and eggs, and watch TV with her.

Not in the way I mean feelings.

I wouldn’t say sexual attraction is feelings for someone, feelings for me means a strong emotional romantic connection.

Any heterosexual guy with a pulse like girls who are sexual.

Though it can send out some signals, like "Is she doing this as a one night stand? Will i never see her again?". I talked to one girl who said that all her friends slept with guys on the first date to make the guys like them (unfortunately for me, she wasn't like her friends) but i think that plan may backfire.

I would certainly think that a girl was only out for a ONS if she slept with me on the first date, unless she told me that she wanted to meet up regularly and continue those activities.

He probably just said it to make out with you - or confused it with sexual arousal. Love is something else, you know when you can't stop thinking of someone and you feel warm inside when you see them and all those crappy love songs on the radio make sense...

I will tell you a reality that may sadden you forever:

Most average guys do this.

You see, most average/ugly guys never have more than one suitor at a time, usually it’s null- or there’s the odd case who would accept him once in a blue moon.

It’s very very very rare to see an average guy who has more than one date prospects and at time and has to choose between them, it’s as rare as diamonds.

That’s why on dating boards, and not just on WP, you see plenty of guys posting threads like “A girl smiled at me, omfg what should I do???! !”; It is so common because it’s so rare in a guy’s lifetime- it is a very unusual event.

They may love her later but the starting point was “because she is the only one who accepted him” and not because “He picked her because she is special to him more than other girls”. Big difference, right?

I bet there are many many men who even got married to such one.

The 80/20 thing is very real, there was a chart on okc showing that women only see 20% of guys as attractive looking; on tinder it is even worse - in real life you notice in schools and colleges that only the very few hot guys get female attention, while most of the other guys just go for the one who said yes.

Most average guys have only two choices: staying single forver or to go for the odd case who accepted.

If female to male attraction was more “evenly distributed” then males can have options => more options => they can be more choosy- males’ standards would be much higher than just “she exists”.

But yeah, there’s nothing to be done to change human instincts.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 17 Mar 2018, 4:20 am, edited 2 times in total.

I learned the hard way women can lie about wanting to meet up regularly the. Disappear after sex.

Looking back it's probably a very good thing that I didn't have sex with anyone till my current girlfriend because I would of gotten really needy & clingy after sex for the 1st time & probably the next few times. I'm very needy & clingy within a realtionship anyway but it's more of a gradual thing than what having sex would of been. I'm not that needy & clingy at the beginning of a relationship, I'm more nervous about screwing things up. Having sex with someone on the 1st date or after a couple dates that I barely know would of really escalated my needy & clinginess & that on top of my other anxiety would of majorly screwed things up. If i was single & did have sex with my cousin's friend, I would of been desperately trying to get a relationship with her. If by some miracle she would of given me a chance, it would of very likely ended up a disaster because she was a party girl & I was very introverted(still am but was worse then) with major anxiety issues. I screwed things up with my 1st girlfriend because she had problems with drugs & alcohol & the friend had even worse problems.

So you mean how does one cuddle someone they don't love? That's a pretty high bar for cuddling. I meant emotional romantic connection too, just not to the extreme of love. There's such a thing as feelings without love. Love tends to develop over time for most people anyway, after they have already cuddled, made out, even had sex in many cases.

You can certainly feel affectionate for somebody without being in love with them. Physical intimacy between two naked people increases oxytocin levels that make both people happy. If two people are having sex for whatever reason, it should make them happy. The woman will enjoy it as much as the man, unless she has some sense of shame telling her that she shouldn't.

I only had one experience of genuine no-strings-attached casual sex which was with a school chum of my first girlfriend. It consisted of just two visits to her apartment in another city (an overnight train ride so not something that could have been done very often) and besides sex we just enjoyed pretending to be a couple, having breakfast together in the morning, and I suppose we snuggled in bed in addition to actual sex. OTOH we didn't walk down the street holding hands or sit on the couch watching TV with our arms around each other. Any touching we did was to some degree sexual in nature.