AngelRho
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13 Apr 2018, 6:19 am
nick007 wrote:
elsapelsa wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
Honestly, if some guy passed me a note asking to be friends, I'd be weirded out.
Passing notes is something middle-school kids do, not adults.
Passing notes is something middle-school kids do, not adults.
Quite a while back when I was buying a book I noticed the bookshop person being particularly friendly. Later when I was on the tube I noticed he had put a note inside my book asking me out and leaving his number. I was not particularly weirded out. I text him to say I had a boyfriend and he just text back saying something like "I had to try" and that was that. That is quite a while ago now and maybe things have changed but I don't think the note thing is odd. I think not responding and blanking someone is odd.
On the other hand, if she’s a George Strait fan, you BETTER write that note.
Even better: take your gf to a concert, write “will u marry me? Chek yes or no” with a crayon, take care to reverse your r’s, and have the ring ready.
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asp159
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16 Apr 2018, 1:42 am
She was there at the group yesterday. She just acted totally normal. The group leader put everyone into groups of two for something and of course I was paired with her. But we just talk normally. I didn't make much eye contact or smile at her though. 
Gues she's just being the typical NT teenage girl still, only accepting prince charming and won't settle for reality. Still would think she'd be fed up of waiting by age 22.
16 Apr 2018, 2:59 am
asp159 wrote:
She was there at the group yesterday. She just acted totally normal. The group leader put everyone into groups of two for something and of course I was paired with her. But we just talk normally. I didn't make much eye contact or smile at her though.
Gues she's just being the typical NT teenage girl still, only accepting prince charming and won't settle for reality. Still would think she'd be fed up of waiting by age 22.
Gues she's just being the typical NT teenage girl still, only accepting prince charming and won't settle for reality. Still would think she'd be fed up of waiting by age 22.
The way that reads is "She won't do any better so she should just settle for me," and to that I have a few things to say.
1. Your attitude is devaluing of her. And to that I say good for her for blocking you because she does not need someone in her life who is going to devalue her for their benefit. Maybe she will find her prince charming and maybe she won't but it's not for you to say.
2. Your attitude of yourself is devaluing. You see yourself as someone to be settled for. Maybe though you are someone else's prince charming. Would you really want someone who has just settled for you rather than be alone when there may be someone out there who would feel like the luckiest person in the world to have you?
asp159
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16 Apr 2018, 3:23 am
Chronos wrote:
asp159 wrote:
She was there at the group yesterday. She just acted totally normal. The group leader put everyone into groups of two for something and of course I was paired with her. But we just talk normally. I didn't make much eye contact or smile at her though.
Gues she's just being the typical NT teenage girl still, only accepting prince charming and won't settle for reality. Still would think she'd be fed up of waiting by age 22.
Gues she's just being the typical NT teenage girl still, only accepting prince charming and won't settle for reality. Still would think she'd be fed up of waiting by age 22.
The way that reads is "She won't do any better so she should just settle for me," and to that I have a few things to say.
1. Your attitude is devaluing of her. And to that I say good for her for blocking you because she does not need someone in her life who is going to devalue her for their benefit. Maybe she will find her prince charming and maybe she won't but it's not for you to say.
2. Your attitude of yourself is devaluing. You see yourself as someone to be settled for. Maybe though you are someone else's prince charming. Would you really want someone who has just settled for you rather than be alone when there may be someone out there who would feel like the luckiest person in the world to have you?
I'm not devaluing anyone. I mean there is no such thing as prince charming and if you dismiss everyone in your life you will never find anyone. I believe both me and her deserve a good relationship and until recently I thought she was pretty amazing.
16 Apr 2018, 3:50 am
asp159 wrote:
Chronos wrote:
asp159 wrote:
She was there at the group yesterday. She just acted totally normal. The group leader put everyone into groups of two for something and of course I was paired with her. But we just talk normally. I didn't make much eye contact or smile at her though.
Gues she's just being the typical NT teenage girl still, only accepting prince charming and won't settle for reality. Still would think she'd be fed up of waiting by age 22.
Gues she's just being the typical NT teenage girl still, only accepting prince charming and won't settle for reality. Still would think she'd be fed up of waiting by age 22.
The way that reads is "She won't do any better so she should just settle for me," and to that I have a few things to say.
1. Your attitude is devaluing of her. And to that I say good for her for blocking you because she does not need someone in her life who is going to devalue her for their benefit. Maybe she will find her prince charming and maybe she won't but it's not for you to say.
2. Your attitude of yourself is devaluing. You see yourself as someone to be settled for. Maybe though you are someone else's prince charming. Would you really want someone who has just settled for you rather than be alone when there may be someone out there who would feel like the luckiest person in the world to have you?
I'm not devaluing anyone. I mean there is no such thing as prince charming and if you dismiss everyone in your life you will never find anyone. I believe both me and her deserve a good relationship and until recently I thought she was pretty amazing.
For a happy relationship it's important for people to have mutual attraction and mutual compatibility. It can be upsetting when we find someone we really like and they don't reciprocate those feelings but the way I look at it is, they were 50% of the right person but not 100% of the right person. They were someone who resembled the right person but was not them. It was mistaken identity and given that she is the type of person to block someone so quickly, aren't you glad you found out that she's the wrong person sooner rather than later?
A lot of people really hate being alone such that they will take just about anyone but the relationships are full of discontent and drama. Personally, particularly being on the spectrum, I would rather be alone than with the wrong person because the lack of mutual compatibility would cause too much stress in the relationship for me. Perhaps she is the same way. Anyway I think she has some problems and you should just be glad they aren't your problems and move on until you find the real deal.
asp159
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16 Apr 2018, 4:13 am
Chronos wrote:
asp159 wrote:
Chronos wrote:
asp159 wrote:
She was there at the group yesterday. She just acted totally normal. The group leader put everyone into groups of two for something and of course I was paired with her. But we just talk normally. I didn't make much eye contact or smile at her though.
Gues she's just being the typical NT teenage girl still, only accepting prince charming and won't settle for reality. Still would think she'd be fed up of waiting by age 22.
Gues she's just being the typical NT teenage girl still, only accepting prince charming and won't settle for reality. Still would think she'd be fed up of waiting by age 22.
The way that reads is "She won't do any better so she should just settle for me," and to that I have a few things to say.
1. Your attitude is devaluing of her. And to that I say good for her for blocking you because she does not need someone in her life who is going to devalue her for their benefit. Maybe she will find her prince charming and maybe she won't but it's not for you to say.
2. Your attitude of yourself is devaluing. You see yourself as someone to be settled for. Maybe though you are someone else's prince charming. Would you really want someone who has just settled for you rather than be alone when there may be someone out there who would feel like the luckiest person in the world to have you?
I'm not devaluing anyone. I mean there is no such thing as prince charming and if you dismiss everyone in your life you will never find anyone. I believe both me and her deserve a good relationship and until recently I thought she was pretty amazing.
For a happy relationship it's important for people to have mutual attraction and mutual compatibility. It can be upsetting when we find someone we really like and they don't reciprocate those feelings but the way I look at it is, they were 50% of the right person but not 100% of the right person. They were someone who resembled the right person but was not them. It was mistaken identity and given that she is the type of person to block someone so quickly, aren't you glad you found out that she's the wrong person sooner rather than later?
A lot of people really hate being alone such that they will take just about anyone but the relationships are full of discontent and drama. Personally, particularly being on the spectrum, I would rather be alone than with the wrong person because the lack of mutual compatibility would cause too much stress in the relationship for me. Perhaps she is the same way. Anyway I think she has some problems and you should just be glad they aren't your problems and move on until you find the real deal.
Maybe, maybe not. We'll never know. Neither of us knew enough about each other to decide. Always happens. Just seems silly to me.
16 Apr 2018, 4:50 am
asp159 wrote:
Chronos wrote:
asp159 wrote:
Chronos wrote:
asp159 wrote:
She was there at the group yesterday. She just acted totally normal. The group leader put everyone into groups of two for something and of course I was paired with her. But we just talk normally. I didn't make much eye contact or smile at her though.
Gues she's just being the typical NT teenage girl still, only accepting prince charming and won't settle for reality. Still would think she'd be fed up of waiting by age 22.
Gues she's just being the typical NT teenage girl still, only accepting prince charming and won't settle for reality. Still would think she'd be fed up of waiting by age 22.
The way that reads is "She won't do any better so she should just settle for me," and to that I have a few things to say.
1. Your attitude is devaluing of her. And to that I say good for her for blocking you because she does not need someone in her life who is going to devalue her for their benefit. Maybe she will find her prince charming and maybe she won't but it's not for you to say.
2. Your attitude of yourself is devaluing. You see yourself as someone to be settled for. Maybe though you are someone else's prince charming. Would you really want someone who has just settled for you rather than be alone when there may be someone out there who would feel like the luckiest person in the world to have you?
I'm not devaluing anyone. I mean there is no such thing as prince charming and if you dismiss everyone in your life you will never find anyone. I believe both me and her deserve a good relationship and until recently I thought she was pretty amazing.
For a happy relationship it's important for people to have mutual attraction and mutual compatibility. It can be upsetting when we find someone we really like and they don't reciprocate those feelings but the way I look at it is, they were 50% of the right person but not 100% of the right person. They were someone who resembled the right person but was not them. It was mistaken identity and given that she is the type of person to block someone so quickly, aren't you glad you found out that she's the wrong person sooner rather than later?
A lot of people really hate being alone such that they will take just about anyone but the relationships are full of discontent and drama. Personally, particularly being on the spectrum, I would rather be alone than with the wrong person because the lack of mutual compatibility would cause too much stress in the relationship for me. Perhaps she is the same way. Anyway I think she has some problems and you should just be glad they aren't your problems and move on until you find the real deal.
Maybe, maybe not. We'll never know. Neither of us knew enough about each other to decide. Always happens. Just seems silly to me.
Well sometimes people do silly things and sometimes it's because of them, not you.
