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27 Mar 2018, 4:25 pm

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I think the best long-term approach is to apply yourself to succeed in life and lose your double chin.

Maybe if im lucky by time I’m 80/90 I’d be fit. If I live Thst long I doubt I’d be interested in anything if I haven’t lost my mind that is.



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27 Mar 2018, 4:43 pm

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People in China, India, and Africa get true love but we’ve lost our way


You’re so mistaken on that; the importance of status in men is the same everywhere.



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27 Mar 2018, 4:55 pm

You have to be strong to attain true love. There’s nothing untrue in that. It sucks if you’re weak, but this doesn’t make it any less true.


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27 Mar 2018, 4:57 pm

sly, you don't think you have any positive point about yourself? not points that qualify for a relationship – life is bigger than that. you seem to focus only in things that are deemed negative by society and are being dragged in some form of anger out of it, it won't help you.



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27 Mar 2018, 4:59 pm

If you don’t have at least the “positive” point of being determined to fight for success, you’ll end up having none at all.


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27 Mar 2018, 6:02 pm

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People in China, India, and Africa get true love but we’ve lost our way


You’re so mistaken on that; the importance of status in men is the same everywhere.

Then why do so many women in Africa live and have family with poor men who live in shacks in shanty towns?

But many women in the west coast are appalled at the thought of living in a decent one bedroom appartment.



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27 Mar 2018, 6:08 pm

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sly, you don't think you have any positive point about yourself? not points that qualify for a relationship – life is bigger than that. you seem to focus only in things that are deemed negative by society and are being dragged in some form of anger out of it, it won't help you.


Non that make up for being poor and low status. Everything good about me women seem expect from all men so why would they settle?
I use to think they were positive but women just told me so what all men should be that way.

So being playful, funny, loyal, compassionate, romantic and caring doesn’t mean anything since I’m poor and ugly. They epexct to be those things.

Life is not bigger then that life is all about relationships. Humans are social creatures. Everything we all is about relationships in some form or another. Very few people are made to be loners. I’m certainly not.



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27 Mar 2018, 6:09 pm

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You have to be strong to attain true love. There’s nothing untrue in that. It sucks if you’re weak, but this doesn’t make it any less true.

Doesn’t make it right. Doesn’t mean it can’t be changed either, just no one cares unlike about chubby women who started and pushed society to change.



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27 Mar 2018, 6:14 pm

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sly, you don't think you have any positive point about yourself? not points that qualify for a relationship – life is bigger than that. you seem to focus only in things that are deemed negative by society and are being dragged in some form of anger out of it, it won't help you.


Non that make up for being poor and low status. Everything good about me women seem expect from all men so why would they settle?
I use to think they were positive but women just told me so what all men should be that way.

So being playful, funny, loyal, compassionate, romantic and caring doesn’t mean anything since I’m poor and ugly. They epexct to be those things.

Life is not bigger then that life is all about relationships. Humans are social creatures. Everything we all is about relationships in some form or another. Very few people are made to be loners. I’m certainly not.


being playful, funny, loyal, compassionate, romantic and caring are great traits. maybe they don't make up to poor and ugly for all woman, but maybe they do for some.

i understand that an average of woman don't like an ugly minimum wage guy. but... this is just an average. on that there is woman who don't care about, woman who maybe will prefer a guy like that. and between this, woman who cares about the things you have to offer.

focus on it. be proud of it, emphasize this. don't minimize yourself and don't fall under those hateful, generalist thoughts about women.

human relationships are super important – i live a lot isolated and i know how hard it is. but you can make friends another way and you should always keep your hopes and keep in mind that whatever happens you're still a nice person.



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28 Mar 2018, 12:15 am

sly279 wrote:
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People in China, India, and Africa get true love but we’ve lost our way

You’re so mistaken on that; the importance of status in men is the same everywhere.

Then why do so many women in Africa live and have family with poor men who live in shacks in shanty towns?

Because those men work 80 hours per week to feed their families.



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28 Mar 2018, 12:16 am

sly279 wrote:
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People in China, India, and Africa get true love but we’ve lost our way


You’re so mistaken on that; the importance of status in men is the same everywhere.

Then why do so many women in Africa live and have family with poor men who live in shacks in shanty towns?

But many women in the west coast are appalled at the thought of living in a decent one bedroom appartment.


Maybe because they get what they can get. I don’t know much about african cultutes.

But the traditional Chinese /Indian marriage system is very very materialistic, and the status of man is not less important there than in the west.

Do I ever doubt that my status may what be part of what made my gf atttacted to me? Sometimes I doubt it, yes- even though it started purely sexual/fwb thing at first. But the fact that she asked me once to borrow money had made me questioning stuff. I hope it’s not all for that.

I have serious trust issues with women in general; and is getting worse with age and expriences.



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28 Mar 2018, 12:20 am

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sly279 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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People in China, India, and Africa get true love but we’ve lost our way

You’re so mistaken on that; the importance of status in men is the same everywhere.

Then why do so many women in Africa live and have family with poor men who live in shacks in shanty towns?

Because those men work 80 hours per week to feed their families.



A serious personal question to a married man:

Do you think your wife would abandon you if you lose your job or become incapable to work?(ie. accident)



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28 Mar 2018, 12:35 am

She may very well not be able to afford to stay with him. What if she has to choose between that and not letting their children starve?


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28 Mar 2018, 12:50 am

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She may very well not be able to afford to stay with him. What if she has to choose between that and not letting their children starve?



They don’t have children yet I think.



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28 Mar 2018, 1:01 am

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Do I ever doubt that my status may what be part of what made my gf atttacted to me? Sometimes I doubt it, yes- even though it started purely sexual/fwb thing at first. But the fact that she asked me once to borrow money had made me questioning stuff. I hope it’s not all for that.

Why is it bad? You have worked for your status. Would you feel better if she was attracted to your appearance?

Personally, I have no doubts about my attractive qualities. I am not physically attractive at all, but I have worked really hard. My wife recently had to tell me 5 things that make her proud of me. The first one was my masters degree and the second was my job. Her choice did not surprise me at all.



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28 Mar 2018, 1:20 am

314pe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Do I ever doubt that my status may what be part of what made my gf atttacted to me? Sometimes I doubt it, yes- even though it started purely sexual/fwb thing at first. But the fact that she asked me once to borrow money had made me questioning stuff. I hope it’s not all for that.

Why is it bad? You have worked for your status. Would you feel better if she was attracted to your appearance?

Personally, I have no doubts about my attractive qualities. I am not physically attractive at all, but I have worked really hard. My wife recently had to tell me 5 things that make her proud of me. The first one was my masters degree and the second was my job. Her choice did not surprise me at all.



I am 90% sure that it started as appearance because things started as casual sex - she could pick any other. But she insisted to become my girlfriend after getting me to know longer, maybe my career/degree played a role in her wanting me to be her bf but honestly she didn't really benefit from me financially so far and we have been together for 1 year.

And yes, I much prefer to be desired for attraction and lust rather than for my money and job.