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28 Mar 2018, 7:40 pm

I welcome you! Hope you stick around and gain alot of from this group. I know I did.
Why not ask him out- something like "I really enjoyes your comapny tge other night, I hope to continue. Would you be willing to have coffee?"
Unfortunately, there a couple of red flags here regarding what he thinks.
He never really asked about you, he simply answered your questions, although not a bad idea ot implies his interest is not there except for entertaining you.
He is not even responding to your text, this is a biggie. For whatever reason he is choosing not to communicate with you. Ask him the question, than I would drop it and moce on.



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28 Mar 2018, 7:51 pm

Ahoy there! Read a couple of posts previous to this one. I've got a date with him tomorrow. There was just a bit of error in communication on both our parts. :)
Thank you for the advice. There are some really nice people on here and I look forward to chatting to lots of you :)


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28 Mar 2018, 8:02 pm

BayeuxTailor wrote:
Ahoy there! Read a couple of posts previous to this one. I've got a date with him tomorrow. There was just a bit of error in communication on both our parts. :)
Thank you for the advice. There are some really nice people on here and I look forward to chatting to lots of you :)

You're right, I did not read that oops! Congrats. And good luck on your date!



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28 Mar 2018, 8:32 pm

I hope the date goes well.

You should wear a medieval-type dress. Look like a pretty version of Katherine of Aragon.



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28 Mar 2018, 9:21 pm

Thanks Redbrick :)


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28 Mar 2018, 9:24 pm

I truly do hope the date goes well.....



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30 Dec 2018, 4:49 am

something you don't expect, because despite how modern human society has become, women are still stubborn and adamant about feeling its the mans job to be the initiator, make the first move, because they argue and say because "men are hunters, he's the hunter", or "men court women, because he's the man, he has to court me", etc.



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30 Dec 2018, 12:02 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
something you don't expect, because despite how modern human society has become, women are still stubborn and adamant about feeling its the mans job to be the initiator, make the first move, because they argue and say because "men are hunters, he's the hunter", or "men court women, because he's the man, he has to court me", etc.
You do not know all women, so you cannot know what all women are like.

Maybe the ones you know use that excuse to avoid feeling obligated to invite a man on a pity date.



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30 Dec 2018, 1:04 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
something you don't expect, because despite how modern human society has become, women are still stubborn and adamant about feeling its the mans job to be the initiator, make the first move, because they argue and say because "men are hunters, he's the hunter", or "men court women, because he's the man, he has to court me", etc.

Women don't need to argue anything because there are enough men out there willing to make the first move that women don't have to, and if you as a man never make the first move on a woman, then another man will and she won't need you. Your real beef is with other men who make the first move. If men suddenly just stopped making the first move then women who were interested in said men would have no choice but to initiate themselves or go single.

Also, it's not unheard of for women to initiate, but generally they're either chasing after a higher-value man or they're exceptionally assertive women. If you want a woman to make the first move on you, then you've got to out-compete all the men who are asking her out and make yourself available for her to do so.



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30 Dec 2018, 9:06 pm

was just speaking with sarcasm



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30 Dec 2018, 9:31 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
was just speaking with sarcasm

Then you're not very good at it



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31 Dec 2018, 10:58 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
was just speaking with sarcasm

Then you're not very good at it


how has your dating life been?



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31 Dec 2018, 4:32 pm

OK, I am a little lost here. The original post by BayeuxTailor began 26 March 2018 and subsequent posts went to 28 March. Then nothing until now, 9 months later.

Isn't the relevant question for BayeuxTailor -- "How did your date go?"


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31 Dec 2018, 5:41 pm

well I had been away for a long time from this site