23 Apr 2018, 2:14 am
goldfish21
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23 Apr 2018, 6:27 am
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
WallKornexa wrote:
What's the point of this thread if it's not bragging?
This is a serious question.
This is a serious question.
I wrote it in the OP:
goldfish21 wrote:
Just thought I'd give y'all an entertaining glimpse into an entirely different world - one that's playing out just like this in every major city in the world right now. True story.
Just something different from the same ol’ heteronormative stuff in this forum, or countless threads about not being able to get a date or get laid. Just a different POV and perspective - one that others could learn from, IMO.
What is it exactly that others could learn from the fact that you're getting multiple offers from other gay men?
That getting dates/hookups is far easier than many think it is. And also the process of getting those dates. And any number of other things people may be interested in learning, like how to go about making oneself more attractive, or how to communicate with people online, how to behave when meeting someone, how to ensure you keep yourself safe when meeting strangers you’ve chatted with online etc etc. There’s plenty that people can learn from others who do things if they want to learn. Also, my different perspective on these parts of life is a real world example of just how much different/better someone’s dating life can be, and maybe that will help change some other peoples’ minds and they might begin to believe that they, too, can in fact get themselves a date. Sure seems like a lot better influence than reading ever more tales from others who can’t dates.
With all due respect I'd say comparing the hetero dating game and the gay dating game is comparing apples to oranges. Some similarities exist, sure, but I doubt you'd be having the degree of success you've been having if you were straight.
Your post was just about 3somes and hookups that you've had and turned down personally. Not much others can learn from that other than maybe it's easier to get hookups as a gay male.
I am a heterosexual male, yet I keep getting sex offers from gay men on dating apps - so yeah, obviously it's Light years easier for gay men to get sex and even relationships.
Are we gonna deny even that and pretend that it's not case??? (I know that women deny that they have it easier too, so yeah...we ended up pretending that it's all equal struggling you know, for PC and for avoiding to be called sexists, but come on....this too?).
I’ve already said, even in this thread, that it’s easier for gay men.
That doesn’t mean I don’t have anything to contribute to the forum/others in terms of general dating/communicating or hookup specific related info. Just because it’s easier for gay guys doesn’t mean I’m not particularly good at it all. Heck, there are apparently “incel,” gay men on these forums, as they’ve called themselves.
Nobody's saying you have nothing to contribute. I just dont see how you talking about all the sexual offers you're getting and turning down will help or teach anyone anything.
Depends on what someone wants to take away from it or learn by asking questions, really.
Also, as I wrote in the OP, this particular thread was intended to be an entertaining glimpse into a different world than the heteronormative (or asexual or w/e) non-sex-positive one that most people here live in. You're not obligated to want to learn anything from it.
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23 Apr 2018, 6:38 am
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23 Apr 2018, 8:39 am
23 Apr 2018, 9:08 am
I don't even get gay men hitting on me. While I don't swing that way, I'm still insulted that they don't find me attractive either. 
23 Apr 2018, 9:13 am
23 Apr 2018, 9:16 am
Sabreclaw wrote:
I don't even get gay men hitting on me. While I don't swing that way, I'm still insulted that they don't find me attractive either.
I don't get gay guys hitting on me either, but I'd rather they didn't so I guess at least that's going my way.
23 Apr 2018, 9:29 am
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23 Apr 2018, 9:41 am
23 Apr 2018, 9:44 am
nick007 wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
Gay men have hit on me thinking I was a gay dude.
I've chosen to view it as a compliment.
I've had more than a few hit on me on & offline. The problem I had is that some won't take No for an answer. I worked with one who kept hitting on me & other's but thankfully he didn't last too long probably cuz he was making others uncomfortable. I have NO problem at all with the 1s who respect boundaries but I kept running into the 1s who didn't for some reason.I've chosen to view it as a compliment.
Well, thankfully, the gay guys leave me alone when they find out I don't actually have a penis.
23 Apr 2018, 9:47 am
23 Apr 2018, 9:51 am
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23 Apr 2018, 11:29 am
smudge wrote:
I find this to be a bragging thread too, and it’s unfair to the people here who are suffering. It serves no useful purpose.
Is there some sort of rule that this forum is only for complaining?
Should anyone who gets a date/hookup/relationship be forbidden from posting about it?
My enjoying my dating life has nothing to do with someone else' suffering.
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