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The_Face_of_Boo
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15 Jun 2018, 6:14 am

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In other terms, Tinder is more “real” while Okc is more fake.

Tinder is more mainstream and suits more people (more people are primarily superficial than primarily sapiosexual, for example).
I didn't think OkC was ever designed for the mainstream. It has always attracted outlying groups. First nerds/geeks, then hippies/vegans, more recently it became more mainstream but now it seems to attract the genderfluid and polyamorous. Those are my very generalised observations anyway.
I've had more "real" experiences using OkC than Tinder because it's more my style and has had a higher ratio of neurodiverse people. Most people would have more "real" experiences using Tinder because it's most people's style and has a higher ratio of normal people in it.

"Sapiosexual" is a very stupid, unscientific and pretentious label.

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15 Jun 2018, 6:16 am

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Tinder is for hookups. Not relationships. It doesn’t paint a real picture of a person. Using it for anything except it’s intended purpose will likely result in failure, unless you get lucky.

OH PLEAASEE STOP repeating the same myth over and over and over and over again!!

Did you ever take a look at the women's profiles on tinder, did you? 90% of them say they're there for serious relationships and NOT for hookups.

Why do you think they feel the need to state that?

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15 Jun 2018, 6:18 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

yellowtamarin wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

In other terms, Tinder is more “real” while Okc is more fake.

"Sapiosexual" is a very stupid, unscientific and pretentious label.

Okay, great. Thanks for your wonderful insight that was completely relevant to the point of the post :roll:

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15 Jun 2018, 6:19 am

yellowtamarin wrote:

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hale_bopp wrote:

Tinder is for hookups. Not relationships. It doesn’t paint a real picture of a person. Using it for anything except it’s intended purpose will likely result in failure, unless you get lucky.

Why do you think they feel the need to state that?

Because Tinder was largely promoted and thought at first to be a hookup app before due to its father gay app, Grinder.

But the large heterosexual women demography changed the game, now Tinder is being promoted as a regular dating/social app, in other term the women forced them to change the tone in order to be more appealing for women.
hale bopp is still stuck in the past.

Women, hetero women in particular, don't really need apps to find hookups if they ever wanted so.

Also you can see the same on okcupid, many women on okc make it clear that they're not seeking for casual sex in their 'you should message me' part, why don't you accuse okc of being a casual sex app?

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15 Jun 2018, 7:19 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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Tinder is for hookups. Not relationships. It doesn’t paint a real picture of a person. Using it for anything except it’s intended purpose will likely result in failure, unless you get lucky.

My arse they are. If it didn't work, guys wouldn't even bother. It's not anyone else's problem women don't want to jump into bed with you.

It damn well works for a lot of guys, and well.

What people say and what people do are two different things.

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15 Jun 2018, 7:43 am

hale_bopp wrote:

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hale_bopp wrote:

Tinder is for hookups. Not relationships. It doesn’t paint a real picture of a person. Using it for anything except it’s intended purpose will likely result in failure, unless you get lucky.

It damn well works for a lot of guys, and well.

What people say and what people do are two different things.

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My arse they are.

Yes, they are, I have met women through tinder and none of them were searching for a quickie.

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If it didn't work, guys wouldn't even bother.

Many guys are desperate and remain on the same apps for years even if there's zero result; we have seen many examples even here on WP. "Being bothered" doesn't reflect real results, plenty of guys keep trying because they have no other choices, despite the lack of results.

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It's not anyone else's problem women don't want to jump into bed with you.

Ahh I see, you want to shame me because you're angry and frustrated. I feel you're trying to shame my sexual value, is that it?

Look...It's not my problem that I am in relationship with a girlfriend (>1 year relationship) while you are a forever alone with no boyfriend at all.
People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, you get it? So refrain from this shaming and mean tone, and I ll be nice to you, deal?

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15 Jun 2018, 9:12 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

why don't you accuse okc of being a casual sex app?

You mean the app with the DTF advertisement? I don't see how anyone could view it as a casual sex app.

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15 Jun 2018, 10:02 am

https://www.vice.com/sv/article/8ge4kz/ ... they-do-it

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15 Jun 2018, 10:08 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

https://www.vice.com/sv/article/8ge4kz/we-asked-young-women-who-do-no-hookup-tinder-about-why-they-do-it

Really? Vice? Oh my. :lol:

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15 Jun 2018, 10:10 am

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog ... hookup-app

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15 Jun 2018, 10:40 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/close-encounters/201706/is-tinder-really-hookup-app

Alright, but have you ever considered that today many people engage in casual sex without realizing it? So many of these Tinder things only result in a date or a few more which in the end makes them easily comparable with casual sex. I don't really see much of a difference. Another reason is that these days people first have sex then start wondering if the other person is interested in a romantic relationship, or often have sex without really being much interested in their date.

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15 Jun 2018, 10:42 am

Peacesells wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

https://www.vice.com/sv/article/8ge4kz/we-asked-young-women-who-do-no-hookup-tinder-about-why-they-do-it

Really? Vice? Oh my. :lol:

Look, Tinder dominates already over 70% of the dating market according to several 2017 usage stats, there’s no way in hell that all these people use it for hookup.

And tinder is so linked to facebook, you can even see how many mutual fb friends you have with profiles, it’s too non-anonymous for hookups, that’s why it really doesn’t work for hookups among the heterosexuals where the word hookup itself is so frowned upon it.

In reality, okc is a better app for hookups.

Think logically.

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15 Jun 2018, 10:45 am

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/close-encounters/201706/is-tinder-really-hookup-app

There’s a huge difference.

Some relationships don’t survive long but that doesn’t mean it was a hookup/casual thing, it just happens.

Hookup means the someone is intending from the beginning to only wanting sex and nothing more.

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15 Jun 2018, 11:59 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/close-encounters/201706/is-tinder-really-hookup-app

I wasn't talking about relationships, I said "things". I believe that people have sex sometimes before agreeing to a relationship and I think most of the times it doesn't get to a relationship or even a few dates.

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15 Jun 2018, 7:11 pm

Boo what percentage of women’s profiles you saw mention men needing a good job, car place or hav their life together or have their c**p together etc?

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16 Jun 2018, 3:05 am

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Boo what percentage of women’s profiles you saw mention men needing a good job, car place or hav their life together or have their c**p together etc?

Rare... but I am sure most act on it because it’s the very first questions they ask.

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