FoBAF (Fear of Being Alone Forever)

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I know how you feel OP. I had NO luck at all getting women online even thou I was trying every site I could think of. I also had NO luck but bad trying to get women offline. I was trying since I was 20 after my 1st realtionship ended till I got in my 2nd at 28. I got in my current realtionship shortly after the 2nd ended. I met all 3 of my girlfriends on online forums. My personality comes off well to certain women after they've gotten to know me. I express myself better online but I don't make good 1st impressions & I look bad when my stats are listed on a profile so that's probably why dating sites never worked. I would of gone the male-order bride route if I had the money & resources & I would of took in a woman who needed a place to stay if I had my own place cuz it would of been a hell of a lot better than being alone for 8 years.

I definitely know how the OP feels. Hopefully, you'll get over it at some point. I used to definitely be afraid I'd be alone forever, but eventually, I accepted it and feel better.

I am fearful of being alone, but I have to get used to it. The friends 'without' benefits senario is no fun believe me.

Im not prepared to look or even try to get together with another aspie man because inevitably they just want to be alone and your left hanging onto the threads of the masking you believed in the honeymoon period.

Whether thats true for how men see us women I dont know, but I just know If you try to accommodate your aspie man, to alleviate the asd probs, you end up alone anyway so whats the point.

ITTHAU MFBC, EOL FOBAF imo.

Exactly.

You could end up with someone and still be a bitter old man. Or end up with no one and be perfectly happy. Don't let society determine what's right for you. Looking to someone else for happiness will always be risky. They could die. They could want a divorce at 70. You just never know. If you think you are going to get too old and ugly, that starts to matter less and less as you age.