Would you be willing to enter a sexless relationship?

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I don't really have any severe sensory issues; though, at first, I was somewhat averse to being physically intimate with another person.

It would be pretty frustrating for me to be bereft of making love----but if I loved the person enough, I could handle this bereftness through other methodology (e.g., masturbation).

If ALL physical affection was withheld from me, then there might be more reluctance to commit to a marriage.

Sex doesn't have to be this thing which permeates my very soul. There's more to love than just sex.

And yet some people here want us to limit our dating pool in aspies only .

^ But to be fair , low T and ED are becoming more common among guys nowadays, so maybe that's why we are seeing more preferring sexless relationships?

I don't have "Low T." I'm 57 years old, and I can "perform" at a moment's notice.

I wouldn't. I always feel very awkward getting close to people and spending a lot of time with them, and exactly what I liked about the only relationship I had was because the sex created a sense of intimacy that I hadn't experienced before and because of that was a lot easier to be close to that person.

I've been in sexless relationships and it has been my decision.

For me I haven't felt comfortable with that sort of intimacy and i'm not sure I ever will but I feel more comfortable at the thought of it now than I have before. Plus i'm not asexual - I experience sexual emotions and desires and I don't wanna surpress them forever out of some kind of intimacy insecurity.

Here is part of my problem;
My non negotiables conflict a little.
Obviously no sex.
Most Aces are atheists, But I am only willing to date a Christian because of how I see relationships.
I want to adopt kids, so people would have to be willing to both have kids and no sex, which seems to be a hard sell.

I included women because I was curious how the answers would very, while I am attracted the same to men and women, because of religious reasons I am unwilling to date girls.

It is easier to win the lottery than finding someone with this combination.

Your list is impossible.

Not to mention that same person has to be willing to date me as well.

This is literally me lmao. Good luck though, most guys think with their dick (no offense)
I love that you want to adopt though There's so many kids out there that are just waiting for someone to love them

So basically you want things a very specific way, and all your way. Unless you're lucky enough to find a unicorn who shares the same desires as you to not have sex and to adopt, either you'd best not to bother with relationships or you'll need to compromise. Most men believe sex is non-negotiable in a relationship, so you might have to settle for being alone or adopting a few cats.

Maybe you could look for a paraplegic or other similarly impaired person??

Or she could just be a single mom.

Can single people adopt?

Those are my big three; I'm willing to compromise on a lot actually even my desire to move to a different country and he wouldn't have to be a vegetarian. Political opinions can mostly be different than mine as well.

If I don't find someone who fits those three and also wants a relationship with me, I will adopt as a single mother. It's just going to be a lot harder because of my disabilities.

For the most recent comment, yes, in the US single people and gay couples can both adopt, and discrimination based on disability is illegal.

I'm sure we all know that quite a few long-term marriages wind up "sexless" eventually.