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And then the woman feels hurt and gives up because you're not responding. You seemed to like her, but you don't really want anything and she just stops trying because she feels like she's made a fool of herself flirting and being obvious with this guy who seemed to be interested, but is about as interested as a rock.

And then she gets angry because she's hurt and she feels used and she started to care for and want to be with this man who led her on.

And she doesn't know where she stands. So she avoids talking to him because it just hurts and she's better of going cold turkey and trying to find someone who is actually interested in something more with her.

Never had anyone interested in me. You’d think out of the thousands and thousands of women I’ve liked on dating sites that Statisticly some would like me back, but non have. You’d think in 30 years a few women would have asked me out, but none have.
Quite the opposite they tell me they aren’t interested and that I’m not a real man.

I wish. It’s usually me . I think some lady likes me which is naive and so I get my hopes up and show interest in her only to be embarrassed when low and behold she doesn’t think I’m good enough or attractive.
If any were interested they didnt show it.
I don’t dare show interest or ask women out in person anymore.

Your lucky in that you think there others I know for me there’s no one so I don’t try with any women.

A lot of it is down to luck I think. At school I just happened to fall in love with somebody who, it turned out, was as messed up as I was and walked the same route home as me. If her house had been on the other side of the school I wouldn't have had a girlfriend in my teens and going into my 20's and I may never have had the confidence to try again.

As an Aspie I think you really do need that luck before you leave education, it's a lot easier 'dating' at school age when you have so much in common in terms of knowing everybody she knows, teachers, homework, kids TV etc. and you're not expected to 'go out' in the traditional sense, or have a job, be able to drive and so on.

Personally I've found that being persistent does not help at all to find the type of women I was looking for. It may work for someone very conventional, but did not work for a very weird aspie like me.

I had to be very creative and spend a lot of time to find very few (but really good) matches.

Going back to my high school days, I seem to lack the ability to meet single women. If there was a female I felt I had chemistry with, she'd already have a boyfriend/husband. The Seattle area is just terrible as well. I remember reading that thanks to Amazon and Seattle's big tech sector, for every 100 single women, there are 144 single men. That makes it really hard. I'll take my dog to the dog park and there will be 20 other guys with their dogs and no women. I'll take a class like cooking, photography or bonsai trees and there are a dozen other men in the class and the only 2 women are there with their husbands. It's ridiculous.

The world is really become a giant sausage fest, I always see way more men than women in most activities, and if there's any women they're usually with partners.

I wonder why us single women aren't doing courses and activities.

I'm trying to budget so not doing any group activities other than exercise classes. Light ones at the moment. I need to build my strength up. So classes with mostly women.

Not sure what reasons other women have for not doing group activities. Single women exist I know a lot of them.

They do group activities. They go shopping together & get manicures & get their hair styled together At least that's how it's portrayed in the media.

Single women work together as a team. Single men are less likely to work together in a team. Single men plot against each other and is more competition. I have choice not to play a dating game that I have no hope in winning. I am a gambler and I only bet on short priced favourites in horse racing and in sports bets.

Most of the time, people think it's the opposite.

It is often thought that WOMEN scheme against each other, and that men cooperate with each other more.

More often than vice versa.

I know no-one who does that lol.

Well I don't think there's any blanket group way of doing things.

I've had both helpful and scheming friends.

One lass would always interfere and try and sabotage things whenever I met a new guy.

She wonders why we're not friends any more.

I try and help. I don't matchmaker, but all the guys I meet now are too young to be interested in me, so I arrange group activities where my young male friends can meet my young female friends... and so far that hasn't produced any couples lol.

I don't get single millennials. They all seem too scared to make a move or they just aren't interested in each other. I don't get it.

I don't ever get anyone trying to matchmake me. Though i wouldnt mind a bit of help.

And yet where I live there are so many single women and so few single men.

I don't want to give my actual location away, but y'all gotta move here. I'm sick of the sight of women.

I work in a male dominated field and I mostly see women every day.

Here I come



Btw, don't you live in a volcano?

Well, I don't know statistics about virginity in aspies, but I think is for a simple reason: If you want to lose your virginity you need another person, since we usually tend to be quite lonely then we usually don't get relationships (particularly at young age), then we remain virgins for a long time.

In my personal case, I didn't have any girlfriend in my teenage years. But not because I tried and failed a lot, but because I didn't even knew any girl. Now I am 21 and I want to wait for sex after marriage (for religious reasons principally).