Great examples of subtle hints from females

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The coffee = sex is a very well known euphemism though.

There's a whole Seinfeld episode about it.

Yeah, but you've got to be stupid if you don't realise that someone consistently and repeatedly expressing interest in you and deliberately seeking you out doesn't have some kind of interest in you.

Take at work for example. Most people are genial, but the guy who finds excuses to come over and chat to you on a regular basis, he's looking for a bit more than friendship.

Right! Also, if someone’s interested in you, they will attentively listen to what you have to say even if it’s really boring.

They also might smile more, make more eye contact, and laugh more at your jokes. This stuff isn’t usually intentional. It just naturally happens when you’re in to somebody.

No doubt about that!

I was speaking, specifically of showing interest, in general, with what the other person has to say.

I never heard of it, but I could never watch more than a couple minutes of Seinfeld at a time.

Never heard that....shows how much "behind the times" I am......

In my mind, coffee could certainly still just mean coffee. It's too ambiguous for me.

"Would you like to come over for coffee or whatever?" "Would you like to come over for coffee or not?"

Those to me seem a bit more clear that the "whatever" or the "or not" could mean physical intimacy.

I think it's more a euphemism for an informal type "date" than a euphemism for sex.

Even in the 1970s, asking a girl if she "wanted to go for coffee" had a "date" connotation. In the movie "Saturday Night Fever," the main character played by John Travolta asked the older dancer, whom he had a big crush on, if she "wanted to go for coffee."

I agree with you if it's asking someone to go out for coffee, but I think asking someone to your place for coffee wouldn't be asking them to an informal date generally.

An ex gf of mine winked at me when I walked past. I was still too reserved to try the direct approach so I got a female colleague of mine to get her number. It took about two weeks before I phoned her.

I thought everyone knew the coffee thing. I always tried reverse psychology... I won't ask you in for a coffee, we all know where that leads...

Come to think of it....yes.

If a woman asks a guy if he "wants to come up for coffee" (her apartment or house), it means, at the very least, that she wants to get to know the guy better. Perhaps much more than that.

Still, even in this situation, the guy shouldn't make an assumption that the woman wants to have sex with him. Though, it's quite possible that the woman is contemplating the possibility.

Exactly. It's ambiguous.

It's ambiguous---but it's a very "positive" ambiguous....

Neighbour: Can I borrow a cup of sugar.

Me: Yeah , sure , wait there *goes and gets sugar , gives sugar to neighbour*

My Brain: That's the 3rd cup of sugar she's borrowed , she sure is forgetful when she goes shopping

Yes, it is well known. It is common. She was autistic, young and not very experienced.
Women inviting a man to her room under some pretext isn't exactly rare or unknown either. The pretext in the OPs example is less indicative of sexual interest, but they were making out before she suggested going to her room and I can't remember that they did in the example of the autistic woman and the coffee (I can't completely exclude it either). If you're already making out any pretext to get to a private area is indicative of a sexual interest and I'd say more so than most even well known excuses are if you were not making out before.

That’s an awful lot of sugar. Hopefully, she offers you some fudge, a cupcake, or some of whatever sweet treat she’s making.