Interaction with a couple at the library

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She regrets having children herself and wanted to squelch any parental aspirations in my siblings as well as myself. She also thought I was “disabled” and wouldn’t be able to handle being a parent. She was actually paranoid I was going to have sex in college and get decked with child support payments. I couldn’t even get a date in high school and college was no different.

Don't worry, he knows you're not doing okay.

If you can't think of an appropriate thing to say, just smile and give a little nod. And if you have to think "Is this an appropriate thing to say?" It probably isn't.

The correct response is:
“Depends on who’s asking. Do you have plans tonight?”



Why, no, but I’m open to the possibility. Say, what are you doing for the rest of my life? Perhaps we can discuss that over dinner.


Not yet, but not for lack of trying. Hey, I get off work at 5. Let’s meet up then and I’ll buy you dinner and we can talk more about that.

Pro tip: Never meet positivity with negativity. The expecting couple are excited and expect everyone else to be happy for them. All you had to do was smile and say congrats.

Check out Objectivist philosophy sometime. People tend to embrace expected outcomes and flee the unexpected. They expect a healthy baby after a successful birth and nothing weird along the way. Anything less than that demands immediate correction.

Expecting great things from yourself means reflecting a positive attitude in your interactions with others. The best outcomes for yourself mean that others experience the best outcomes. The golden rule is not for “good people,” but for RATIONAL people only looking out for themselves. It won’t work if you never value another human being. For people like me and you, empathy is a LEARNED habit, something we have to practice. Keep interactions strictly positive if you’re expecting positive outcomes. You will always get what you expect. Expect greatness.

This decade was my worst. Why am I even still alive?

There's a new decade around the corner and I want to see us all do better.

To be fair this has been the worst decade since the 40s.

I am in my 30’s now. If I reach 40 and things aren’t better, I won’t hang on any longer.

2020 New Year's resolution for AngelRho & Co.: expand the menu.

Step 1: Set goal.
Step 2: Follow through.

Just something to think about.

Amended:

Step 1: Set Attainable Goal.
Step 2: Plan for Success.
Step 3: Follow Through.
Step 4: Repeat from Step 1.

The key to successful goals is making them quantifiable.

"Obtain girlfriend" is the larger goal.

Break it down into smaller quantifiable goals, such as:

Talk to one new person per week

Start chat with two new girls on dating site per week (does not matter if they reply or not)

Visit one group social outing per month (such as a con or club)

Ask one person per work shift "how is your day going?" While you are checking out their books for them.

I realize all of these suggestions seem far from what you want, but they are small and easy to access, and they will eventually add up.

Of course, adjust as needed to your own energy levels and ideas.

I sincerely wish you a happy and productive new year

Normally I’d agree. But I think the time has come to think in terms of no looking back.

Except maybe for the satisfaction of watching a bridge or two burn.

Marknis has unintentionally served as a strange sort of negative inspiration for me. I’ve encouraged Marknis to just up and leave, and he’ll say he’s trapped and can’t. I can imagine a specific set of circumstances that would keep him trapped with parents (i.e. the parents ARE the problem). Make no mistake, I have no means whatsoever to pack up and leave. But I’ve been homeless before. So I can either be without a home and content or I can stay here and be miserable. My point is I’ve reached the place where I’m waaaaay past the point of needing a sure fire plan.

You know where I am right now? Missouri. I’m in freakin’ Missouri, where the landscape actually changes every couple of miles. I kinda like it. I might even stay. Or I might go back to Mississippi, pack a few things, turn around, and drive until I run out of gas. Where I end up from here is anybody’s guess.

Time to take my own advice. If I can preach that Marknis should do it, I should be willing to do it myself. Maybe my next WP post will be from Austin! XD

I don’t know what to say anymore. I also can’t say anything without a certain someone making stupid assumptions about my life even though he claims to hate my posts (not talking about AngelRho). I am not going to let him dictate to me, though.

Good! No one should dictate you except yourself.

Happy new year btw!

Getting a girlfriend is easy.

Marknis has specific tastes though, so that might be difficult.

Something similar happened again two days ago. I was at the comic book store and a “geeky” couple came in. Both wore glasses, looked happy together, and they had a toddler with them.

^^ Cool, so it sounds like it's possible what you're looking for, even in your area. Figures.

Now go on out there & mingle a little bit, on your terms, until you find a girl and then do it on her terms if she's reasonable, and you two can start a nice friendship. I tell you, Marknis, if I was down in Texas we'd have to meet someplace & go travel round and see if we could find somewhere conducive to you finding more people to be friends with.