Proof that it’s all down to looks!

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Here's a true story: Let's call them Michael and Elaine. Michael has asperger's but is drop dead gorgeous. Elaine is NT and is drop dead gorgeous. After about five years of marriage and one two year old child later, Elaine files for divorce because she's met a man who is NT and wants to stick around. She's riddled with guilt because Michael has no one. Elaine has lost all respect for Michael because of his aspie ways BUT at the same time wishes he would find a "temporary" love interest in case it doesn't work out with her new lover. Also, so she could alleviate her guilt because Michael did nothing wrong. She explained to me that he had to be taught too many things and had dirty habits, he was also sexually aggressive and would at least try to defend her out in public even if he got beat up. She was the one who got him a diagnosis because she wanted to find out what was up with him. He wasn't evil, just that he wasn't like everybody else in her social world. She could not stand it anymore. He ended up with a nice looking aspie woman and had another child. They stayed together. Elaine stayed with that other guy. In the beginning, Michael was a piece of property to Elaine. He didn't cheat on her and did what he was told. He was willing to be molded. Michael was a safe haven until she met someone she really wanted. End of story: the settlement was in Michael's favor due to the fact that guilty Elaine was actually very wealthy. Michael's new love was actually an aspie "Elaine". I couldn't believe my eyes.
Aspies need to find other compatible aspies. Personally, I find NT's exhausting to be around. I would need medication around them (only to realize, through medication, that I need to exit.) That goes to show you that it's an internal thing and has nothing to do with "training" a person. We are what we are. Medication makes this very clear. It won't make you social, it gives you the power to leave if you are uncomfortable. Otherwise, you'd just sit there and take social punishment. "Wherever you go, there you are."

Aspies be with aspies, I say.

I think female asd are often under/mis diagnosed, so they don't know what is wrong with them or that they may get on very well with asd men.....