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04 Dec 2020, 11:46 am

I apologize, I have categorized aspies based on my dating experiences by saying 'when dating aspies'. There are many different aspies out there, and someone's situation may seem like my exes but may have different workings at its core.



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04 Dec 2020, 11:54 am

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I agree with you in that this personality-type lives in this concrete world called Earth...And explores it through all of his or her senses...It must be FUN to have around someone of this personality...

Your observations of your best friend further confirm to me that we do not share the same personality...As i am not S for SENSORIAL but N for INTUITIVE...This means that i do not live in this concrete world but instead i live in the abstract world, the world of ideas and concepts...I live in my brain more than in my body--quite the opposite of your best-friend... :wink:

No wonder I relate to you though, I'm your exact personality with an I in the front. But I can't really relate to either of those concepts. My friend tells me I rely on feelings and I notice compared to him how I perceive the world through the feelings, but also make stories about what people may be up to and why, much based on how I would feel and feeling experiences, or instinct feelings towards what's happening to them or try to find out. Then process it in logical ways.



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04 Dec 2020, 12:25 pm

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Why do some Aspies here love proof that Aspies are emotionless nerds?

I'd better start adding love hearts to my posts, as I don't want to type the Aspie style (whatever that is).


:heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:



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04 Dec 2020, 1:03 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Joe90 wrote:
Why do some Aspies here love proof that Aspies are emotionless nerds?

I'd better start adding love hearts to my posts, as I don't want to type the Aspie style (whatever that is).


:heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:



Oh no, Spock does not approve.


I am definitely not a nerd nor emotionless. I think everyone here knows that by now. :wink:


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04 Dec 2020, 3:58 pm

Rexi wrote:
Clueless2017 wrote:
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I agree with you in that this personality-type lives in this concrete world called Earth...And explores it through all of his or her senses...It must be FUN to have around someone of this personality...

Your observations of your best friend further confirm to me that we do not share the same personality...As i am not S for SENSORIAL but N for INTUITIVE...This means that i do not live in this concrete world but instead i live in the abstract world, the world of ideas and concepts...I live in my brain more than in my body--quite the opposite of your best-friend... :wink:

No wonder I relate to you though, I'm your exact personality with an I in the front. But I can't really relate to either of those concepts. My friend tells me I rely on feelings and I notice compared to him how I perceive the world through the feelings, but also make stories about what people may be up to and why, much based on how I would feel and feeling experiences, or instinct feelings towards what's happening to them or try to find out. Then process it in logical ways.


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If i understood you correctly, you are INFJ...???...Did you take the free test online???...What was your result???...INFJs also have an extraverted feeling, like me, but their INTUITION is stronger...My beloved (Aspie) husband is INFJ, the rarest personality type...There is one of them for every 200 people...The experts say we need more like them...As they are the silent heroes...I know i am very blessed to have him...By the way, one single letter difference changes everything...And so, we are not much alike nor as compatible as i would like for us to be...Anyway, interesting topic... :wink:



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04 Dec 2020, 8:22 pm

Clueless2017 wrote:
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Clueless2017 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Hadn't anyone noticed how the writing pattern on WP is so strikingly different between NT women vs Aspie women?

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???...???...???...
Would you please elaborate???...What difference???... :?: :?: :?:



Well, like the above exactly. :lol:

It wreaks with emotions.

Most Aspie women on the other hand, tend to write like the men here; at least here on WP (I never observed Aspie women on other medias so I dunno if it differs).
There were other NT ladies came and went here over the years who write so much like you.


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LOL ...Please forgive me...I don't understand what you are saying; but i still find your observation amusing... :D :D :D


He is a fish.
I don't expect much from fish.
I suggest you take this on board, also. 8)



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04 Dec 2020, 8:31 pm

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You see when i was thinking im nt and joined a site where i found people much like the person on the spectrum i loved, i was really nice and invested in them automatically. I knew they have a big challenge in life. And I knew I could trust them. I knew they are great people who can be attractive and valuable, even if they couldn't believe so. I wanted to heal them, to show them its possible. To love them. I wanted to ignore if they were blunt even if it hurt me in a time when I was crushed. I didn't show any negative feelings though, I quite bottled up knowing that they have some hardship with speaking in a sensitive way and other things.


Most people don't try to understand people, behind their words.
The intention is very important.



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04 Dec 2020, 8:34 pm

Pepe wrote:
Clueless2017 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Clueless2017 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Off-topic:

Hadn't anyone noticed how the writing pattern on WP is so strikingly different between NT women vs Aspie women?

... ... ...
???...???...???...
Would you please elaborate???...What difference???... :?: :?: :?:



Well, like the above exactly. :lol:

It wreaks with emotions.

Most Aspie women on the other hand, tend to write like the men here; at least here on WP (I never observed Aspie women on other medias so I dunno if it differs).
There were other NT ladies came and went here over the years who write so much like you.


... ... ...
LOL ...Please forgive me...I don't understand what you are saying; but i still find your observation amusing... :D :D :D


He is a fish.
I don't expect much from fish.
I suggest you take this on board, also. 8)


He is a fish???...And you, a skunk...OMG!! !...Am i in Animal Planet :P



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04 Dec 2020, 8:35 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Joe90 wrote:
Why do some Aspies here love proof that Aspies are emotionless nerds?

I'd better start adding love hearts to my posts, as I don't want to type the Aspie style (whatever that is).


:heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:



Oh no, Spock does not approve.


:mrgreen:



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04 Dec 2020, 8:38 pm

Pepe wrote:
Rexi wrote:
You see when i was thinking im nt and joined a site where i found people much like the person on the spectrum i loved, i was really nice and invested in them automatically. I knew they have a big challenge in life. And I knew I could trust them. I knew they are great people who can be attractive and valuable, even if they couldn't believe so. I wanted to heal them, to show them its possible. To love them. I wanted to ignore if they were blunt even if it hurt me in a time when I was crushed. I didn't show any negative feelings though, I quite bottled up knowing that they have some hardship with speaking in a sensitive way and other things.


Most people don't try to understand people, behind their words.
The intention is very important.


The intention behind the words or actions is most important!! !...(Thumbs up!! !)



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04 Dec 2020, 8:59 pm

Rexi wrote:
Clueless2017 wrote:
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I agree with you in that this personality-type lives in this concrete world called Earth...And explores it through all of his or her senses...It must be FUN to have around someone of this personality...

Your observations of your best friend further confirm to me that we do not share the same personality...As i am not S for SENSORIAL but N for INTUITIVE...This means that i do not live in this concrete world but instead i live in the abstract world, the world of ideas and concepts...I live in my brain more than in my body--quite the opposite of your best-friend... :wink:

No wonder I relate to you though, I'm your exact personality with an I in the front. But I can't really relate to either of those concepts. My friend tells me I rely on feelings and I notice compared to him how I perceive the world through the feelings, but also make stories about what people may be up to and why, much based on how I would feel and feeling experiences, or instinct feelings towards what's happening to them or try to find out. Then process it in logical ways.


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Good night Rexi...For your information, I am no expert in personality-types...However, i was born with one type of intelligence called EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE...So, although i never studied psychology or human behavior, I am able to discern a lot about a person...My innate INTUITION helps me also...

The way that i would describe INTUITION is like working on a puzzle...As you put the pieces together, you begin to notice a pattern, the image that forms before your eyes gradually...And even before you have the whole picture, you are able to predict what it is...If we apply this to people and life in general, an intuitive person can 'see' things others overlook or simply do not understand...And the intuitive person is very good at predicting outcomes...Like those coloring books, wherein you connect the dots, number per number, until you finally give form to the image...However, even before you finish it, you already have a good idea of what the image wil be...This is how intuition works in life...Hope this helps...



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05 Dec 2020, 8:55 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Clueless2017 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Off-topic:

Hadn't anyone noticed how the writing pattern on WP is so strikingly different between NT women vs Aspie women?

... ... ...
???...???...???...
Would you please elaborate???...What difference???... :?: :?: :?:



Well, like the above exactly. :lol:

It wreaks with emotions.

Most Aspie women on the other hand, tend to write like the men here; at least here on WP (I never observed Aspie women on other medias so I dunno if it differs).
There were other NT ladies came and went here over the years who write so much like you.


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When you state, "NT ladies came and went", it saddens me greatly :cry: :cry: :cry: ...The only thing that would distant me from this beautiful community would be if my marriage to my beloved Aspie husband failed...And i needed time-off from this site to recover...Hopefully, that will never happen...God willing... :heart: :heart: :heart:



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06 Dec 2020, 12:10 pm

Joe90 wrote:
Why do some Aspies here love proof that Aspies are emotionless nerds?

I'd better start adding love hearts to my posts, as I don't want to type the Aspie style (whatever that is).


:heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:

I have ignored your post, because of the hearts. I thought it was expressions of thanks and love... xD

See what you have done?!