24 Dec 2020, 8:32 am
KT67 wrote:
Rexi wrote:
KT67 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Now I am curious to see this perfect person.
She's curvy, her dad calls her fat but she's not fat cos fat in women would be settled in other places. She has wavy blonde hair, not curly. She's short like 5"2. She's got blue eyes that are somehow lighter and brighter than mine. She reminds me of like a fairy tbh. She has a pixie nose like a fairy and blue sparkling eyes like a fairy.
The one imperfection she has is that she barely reads anything. I'm a book nerd. And I once lent her a book and she stole/lost it. I specifically told her 'I'm giving you this book for two weeks'.
And she's giddy sometimes which is annoying because I want to date a woman and I view that kind of behaviour as belonging to a child. I'm very serious minded. Things I want to be sensible for, she'll be silly about because it's funny to her, not noticing/caring that it annoys me. I only ever like silliness when it's a child having fun or it's a genuine comedian who's a professional.
It sounds like you crave a deeper serious connection with her and she was too playful to take it seriously. I usually need to balance between the two. It drains me if things are too socially superficial and giggly and can't keep going for long. I notice the depth and serious topics are usually encountered in people on the spectrum on another level.
What kind of things did you want to discuss with her that she sorta shot down?
Things like if I want to play a board game with her which requires knowledge, she says deliberately stupid answers esp in a group.
Or if I talk books with her or philosophy. Or anything else along those lines. She'll make jokes when I'm trying to be serious.
She must be intelligent. She has a degree & a postgrad qualification. But it's like she's trying to hide it.
It doesn't sound like you two are compatible, personality-wise.
She seems more like my type, err, personality-wise.
24 Dec 2020, 8:34 am
Folks find ways to ignore ME without any help. 
So...surely you can find ways to ignore this gal!
24 Dec 2020, 8:35 am
nick007 wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
I must be perfect since I get ignored all the time 
I hear ya 
Her personality sounds pretty cute to me
I think in words so I cant really visualize her looks to well but she could look cute too.Is she bi?
24 Dec 2020, 8:43 am
Rexi wrote:
KT67 wrote:
Rexi wrote:
KT67 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Now I am curious to see this perfect person.
She's curvy, her dad calls her fat but she's not fat cos fat in women would be settled in other places. She has wavy blonde hair, not curly. She's short like 5"2. She's got blue eyes that are somehow lighter and brighter than mine. She reminds me of like a fairy tbh. She has a pixie nose like a fairy and blue sparkling eyes like a fairy.
The one imperfection she has is that she barely reads anything. I'm a book nerd. And I once lent her a book and she stole/lost it. I specifically told her 'I'm giving you this book for two weeks'.
And she's giddy sometimes which is annoying because I want to date a woman and I view that kind of behaviour as belonging to a child. I'm very serious minded. Things I want to be sensible for, she'll be silly about because it's funny to her, not noticing/caring that it annoys me. I only ever like silliness when it's a child having fun or it's a genuine comedian who's a professional.
It sounds like you crave a deeper serious connection with her and she was too playful to take it seriously. I usually need to balance between the two. It drains me if things are too socially superficial and giggly and can't keep going for long. I notice the depth and serious topics are usually encountered in people on the spectrum on another level.
What kind of things did you want to discuss with her that she sorta shot down?
Things like if I want to play a board game with her which requires knowledge, she says deliberately stupid answers esp in a group.
Or if I talk books with her or philosophy. Or anything else along those lines. She'll make jokes when I'm trying to be serious.
She must be intelligent. She has a degree & a postgrad qualification. But it's like she's trying to hide it.
People with good grades usually have some sort of personality disorder, statistics say. Then again studies intelligence doesn't magically give empathy or interpersonal skill.
Sounds like that is more fun to her than conversations. Not a match on that. She also seems a little of a center of attention, perhaps through jokes she gets it in groups.
Generally though people can't read your mind, won't know if something they do bothers you. That's why you have to tell them.
That is a deal-breaker, for me.
I hate people who joke all the time.
24 Dec 2020, 8:55 am
KT67 wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Rexi wrote:
People with good grades usually have some sort of personality disorder, statistics say. Then again studies intelligence doesn't magically give empathy or interpersonal skill.
The survey of Mensa's highly intelligent members found that they were more likely to suffer from a range of serious disorders. The survey covered mood disorders (depression, dysthymia and bipolar), anxiety disorders (generalized, social and obsessive-compulsive), attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder and autism.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/arti ... telligent/
It's almost like she's anti aspie which is why I'm putting a lot of this down to 'muse' or 'opposites would attract in a rom com but real relationships might be a bit harder'.
She's dyslexic which is probably an explanation when it comes to reading but doesn't explain why she can't have intelligent conversations.
I'm dyslexic, and that is why I don't read books.
KT67 wrote:
Being aspie makes me take everything seriously. Otherwise I lose track of things and get sensory overload. Esp if I'm in a quiz type situation - I have to compete and get the right answer or I'm stressed and I can't cope having a team mate who's not trying their hardest too.
Me being an aspie, with ADD, makes me want to joke all the time.
Some people have noticed this about me.
If you meet one aspie, you meet one aspie.
KT67 wrote:
I told her that I found it annoying when she was being silly. She was quiet after that but kept giggling.
She called me NT just because I'm not dyslexic. She didn't say 'NT' she said 'boring normal person'. I'm not normal, at least not in that kind of insult way, I'm aspie.
She called me NT just because I'm not dyslexic. She didn't say 'NT' she said 'boring normal person'. I'm not normal, at least not in that kind of insult way, I'm aspie.
As I said, I think I am more suited to her, personality-wise, than you.
I don't think you two would be a workable match, based on what you have said.
Time to distance yourself from her, emotionally, imo.
24 Dec 2020, 9:04 am
Pepe wrote:
nick007 wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
I must be perfect since I get ignored all the time
I hear ya Her personality sounds pretty cute to me
I think in words so I cant really visualize her looks to well but she could look cute too.Is she bi?
Yes.
She has a boyfriend and she's had girlfriends.
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25 Dec 2020, 1:46 am
Pepe wrote:
KT67 wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Rexi wrote:
People with good grades usually have some sort of personality disorder, statistics say. Then again studies intelligence doesn't magically give empathy or interpersonal skill.
The survey of Mensa's highly intelligent members found that they were more likely to suffer from a range of serious disorders. The survey covered mood disorders (depression, dysthymia and bipolar), anxiety disorders (generalized, social and obsessive-compulsive), attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder and autism.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/arti ... telligent/
It's almost like she's anti aspie which is why I'm putting a lot of this down to 'muse' or 'opposites would attract in a rom com but real relationships might be a bit harder'.
She's dyslexic which is probably an explanation when it comes to reading but doesn't explain why she can't have intelligent conversations.
I'm dyslexic, and that is why I don't read books.
KT67 wrote:
Being aspie makes me take everything seriously. Otherwise I lose track of things and get sensory overload. Esp if I'm in a quiz type situation - I have to compete and get the right answer or I'm stressed and I can't cope having a team mate who's not trying their hardest too.
Me being an aspie, with ADD, makes me want to joke all the time.
Some people have noticed this about me.
If you meet one aspie, you meet one aspie.
KT67 wrote:
I told her that I found it annoying when she was being silly. She was quiet after that but kept giggling.
She called me NT just because I'm not dyslexic. She didn't say 'NT' she said 'boring normal person'. I'm not normal, at least not in that kind of insult way, I'm aspie.
She called me NT just because I'm not dyslexic. She didn't say 'NT' she said 'boring normal person'. I'm not normal, at least not in that kind of insult way, I'm aspie.
As I said, I think I am more suited to her, personality-wise, than you.
I don't think you two would be a workable match, based on what you have said.
Time to distance yourself from her, emotionally, imo.
I'm a mix with seriousness & joking. It partly depends on the environment & the people I'm around as to if I'm serious or joking. I joked a lot at times when I was working but I mostly only joked with others who were joking. My reason for being there was to work & I never lost focus on that. However joking with others while working can make things more fun. I would not joke if I knew someone was having a bad day or just not in the mood to. Working with people who wanted to clown around instead of working annoyed me & I would try to get them back on track. But I had nothing against having fun if we were getting our work done & someone was in the mood to joke while doing it.
When it comes to romantic relationships & attraction. My 1st girlfriend had dyslexia & ADHD & we connected really well, she was the 1st person I ever really connected with. She got things confused a bit sometimes & it was funny but could also be frustrating at times. My current girlfriend used to be majorly into stuff like reading & writing. She also got pretty good grades in school. She may have ADHD along with other various stuff. She gets distracted & loses focus & forgets very easily but I'm like that as well. She gets confused easily sometimes or says things wrong(like worded wrong or saying one word when she means another) & that can be pretty funny & cute but can be frustrating sometimes thou.
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25 Dec 2020, 2:27 am
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25 Dec 2020, 2:52 am
nick007 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
KT67 wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Rexi wrote:
People with good grades usually have some sort of personality disorder, statistics say. Then again studies intelligence doesn't magically give empathy or interpersonal skill.
The survey of Mensa's highly intelligent members found that they were more likely to suffer from a range of serious disorders. The survey covered mood disorders (depression, dysthymia and bipolar), anxiety disorders (generalized, social and obsessive-compulsive), attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder and autism.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/arti ... telligent/
It's almost like she's anti aspie which is why I'm putting a lot of this down to 'muse' or 'opposites would attract in a rom com but real relationships might be a bit harder'.
She's dyslexic which is probably an explanation when it comes to reading but doesn't explain why she can't have intelligent conversations.
I'm dyslexic, and that is why I don't read books.
KT67 wrote:
Being aspie makes me take everything seriously. Otherwise I lose track of things and get sensory overload. Esp if I'm in a quiz type situation - I have to compete and get the right answer or I'm stressed and I can't cope having a team mate who's not trying their hardest too.
Me being an aspie, with ADD, makes me want to joke all the time.
Some people have noticed this about me.
If you meet one aspie, you meet one aspie.
KT67 wrote:
I told her that I found it annoying when she was being silly. She was quiet after that but kept giggling.
She called me NT just because I'm not dyslexic. She didn't say 'NT' she said 'boring normal person'. I'm not normal, at least not in that kind of insult way, I'm aspie.
She called me NT just because I'm not dyslexic. She didn't say 'NT' she said 'boring normal person'. I'm not normal, at least not in that kind of insult way, I'm aspie.
As I said, I think I am more suited to her, personality-wise, than you.
I don't think you two would be a workable match, based on what you have said.
Time to distance yourself from her, emotionally, imo.
Sounds much like me o:
25 Dec 2020, 4:18 am
