Yes, the looks is very important

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I think beauty* can be the deciding factor on whether someone is a friend or a lover.

But can't be the deciding factor as to whether they're a lover or someone you want to be a million miles away from.

If someone's sole reason to be dating potential is their beauty: stay away from them!

Unless it's a hook up you do not need bad people in your life! Esp as your significant other.

But I'm not going to date an ugly woman. She can be a friend instead. I don't have to kiss etc my friends. I don't fancy my friends (most of whom are guys) but I do see them as worthwhile people to be around

* Rugged good looks for those on the more masculine end of the spectrum

Most people are average-looking. Most people in relationships are average-looking.

The range amongst average-looking people is great.

Even many actors/actresses are average-looking.

Jennifer Aniston is a sex symbol who is pretty average-looking, yet uses it to her advantage. Meryl Streep is not all that great in the looks department—yet she was a sex symbol when she was younger. Their appeal just might be in their “averageness.”

It’s mostly “how you carry yourself.” I can be pretty darn ugly on my bad days.

I don’t really feel a raging desire for model types.

Looks are subjective.

Most people don't think their lovers started out average looking, at least that's what my guess is.

Of course most of my life is spent more in the world of books/art than in the 'real world' so maybe I'm tainted by that.

People go with people they're physically attracted to.

At least in the beginning - then they learn to accept their 'faults' if they love the person. Or they learn to love the way the person changes: going from pretty to classically beautiful or from beautiful to ruggedly handsome as the couple grow old together.

I can only think of one sonnet where the comparison is 'my beloved is ugly/average but I love her anyway'. Compared to lots about beautiful people. In the eye of the poet that is - we have no proof beyond that as to whether they were ugly by other people's standards.

I once had a crush on a woman who, objectively, seemed ugly. She certainly smelled good, though

That might not be a representative sample

^ first impressions = very good point.

And sometimes those can be wrong. Or.. change quickly, I should say.

Like, from a handful of photos and a few messages exchanged I might rate someone as an 8. Another several messages and I find out they’re super arrogant AND a trump supporter & Boom, my impression of them drops through the basement - ew, gross, would not f**k.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

Photographs frequently don't do people justice....

If my humble opinion matters, here it is: Physical beauty may be what initially attracts us; however, it is personality that will ultimately make us or brake us in our interpersonal relationships...

At least in my case, the moment someone shows signs of certain undesirable personality traits, no matter how physically beautiful he or she may be, i don't want them in my circle of friends!! !...

As a matter of FACT--not blind love for my husband--he is very attractive to women in general...Yet, i fell for his brain (higher intellect), elegant demeanor, self-confidence, and stubbornness or perseverance (he would not take "No" for an answer)...

I read somewhere that physical beauty on an "ugly" person is like a piece of jewelry on a pig...It is not graceful therefore unattractive...

However, i am a female NT...And females in general prefer personality over looks...Women in general like men who give them a sense of security, someone who makes them laugh, and most importantly someone who they can admire...