What are your thoughts on Polyamory or Polygamy?

Page 3 of 11 [ 171 posts ] Go to page Previous 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 ... 11 Next

Joined: 4 Oct 2017
Age: 42
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,022
Location: England ^not male but apparently you can't change it

17 Mar 2021, 5:22 pm

A steady relationship with multiple people would still presumably spread less STDs than someone going round having loads of random one night stands though.

_________________
Silence lies steadily against the wood and stone of Hill House. And we who walk here, walk alone.

kraftiekortie
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Feb 2014
Gender: Male
Posts: 87,510
Location: Queens, NYC

17 Mar 2021, 5:45 pm

I just don't like the idea of "going out" with more than one person.

Velorum
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 11 Mar 2020
Age: 66
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 1,363
Location: UK

17 Mar 2021, 5:55 pm

It doesnt appeal to me at all. Introducing more people into my life regardless of the nature of the relationship isnt for me. Aside from my family I only have two friends (known them since Primary School) that in normal times I see once or at most twice a year. Adding more people in an intimate way in addition to my wife sounds like hell.

_________________
Diagnosed: ASD, hEDS, MCAS, ARFID
Retired specialist neurodevelopmental clinician
Member of Autistic & LGBTQ+ communities in South West UK
Trustee at Cornwall Pride charity & Coordinator at Kernow Neurodivergent Artists network

Mona Pereth
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 11 Sep 2018
Gender: Female
Posts: 9,145
Location: New York City (Queens)

17 Mar 2021, 6:59 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

A whole nested polyamorous society would lead to a STD pandemic disaster.

There’s no guarantee that one of the 3-4 poly circle wouldn’t have a relation with someone in another poly circle and so on.

Depends on what kind of erotic activity the partners engage in, in the first place, as well as on whether they take the relevant safety precautions, e.g. condoms.

Some poly people do PIV and/or oral sex with just one partner, and do other kinds of erotic activity (kink/fetish) with other partners. Such arrangements are equivalent to monogamy as far as exposure to other people's body fluids is concerned.

_________________
- Autistic in NYC - Resources and new ideas for the autistic adult community in the New York City metro area.
- Autistic peer-led groups (via text-based chat, currently) led or facilitated by members of the Autistic Peer Leadership Group.

that1weirdgrrrl
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 19 Jul 2017
Age: 45
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,090
Location: Between my dreams and your fantasies

17 Mar 2021, 8:45 pm

Mona Pereth wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

No PIV or oral (they also couldn't kiss)..... then what do they do?

_________________
...what do the public, the great unobservant public, who could hardly tell a weaver by his tooth or a compositor by his left thumb, care about the finer shades of analysis and deduction!

Pepe
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 11 Jun 2013
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 26,635
Location: Australia

17 Mar 2021, 8:50 pm

Texasmoneyman300 wrote:

robotrecall wrote:

What are your thoughts on non-monogamous relationships? Polyamory is a more recent term that means numerous loves. Basically, a married couple can have a gf/bf or numerous gf's/bf's. Non-married couples can have numerous partners as well. Usually the relationships aren't just sexual; they're also romantic and emotional relationships. Any sexual orientation can be Polyamorous; usually the most common sexual orientations that are polyamorous are bisexual, gay male/ male homosexual, and heterosexual. Polygamy is usually one man many wives, or one woman many husbands, but I can see homosexual polygamous relationships being a thing, if it wasn't mainly a religious thing. Usually Mormons or Muslims are the groups that marry different women or men. Even though Christianity looks down upon this type of relationship, Mormonism is the only sect of Christianity that practices Polygamy. There's also different types of non-monogamous relationships like swinging, which is usually a couple having sexual relationships with other couples. Open relationships are different, which is a main couple having a relationship with another another person, which is a secondary relationship. Discuss your opinions here.

Polygamy sounds really appealing to me but I would never do it personally.

Being autistic, I would find being polyamorous mentally exhausting.
Not interested.

Pepe
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 11 Jun 2013
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 26,635
Location: Australia

17 Mar 2021, 8:55 pm

MidnightRose wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

https://www.nature.com/articles/ncomms11219

I concede that people that engaged in polyamory back in the day would be spreading STIs, because they lacked the knowledge we do about STI transmission, outside of the fact that sex was involved. But can modern people, who are properly educated, safely practice polyamory? I'd argue yes.

Tell it to Charlie Sheen.

auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 115,295
Location: the island of defective toy santas

17 Mar 2021, 10:28 pm

in a more exalted extra-dimensional realm, i hope to be a permanent part of a ménage à trois.

The_Face_of_Boo
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 16 Jun 2010
Age: 44
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 33,688
Location: Beirut, Lebanon.

18 Mar 2021, 2:08 am

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:

Mona Pereth wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

No PIV or oral (they also couldn't kiss)..... then what do they do?

Praying lol.

Like seriously, maybe condom is most useful for men having sex with prostitutes; ham bam finish... no kissing, no touching, no oral, how boring. Also useful for pregnancy prevention without a pill (still risky).

While some STDs are basically transmitted via sperm, it’s not realistic to see sex with condom as totally safe unless the only allowed activity is penetration.

Still exclusivity is the best prevention, even within a poly relationship - though it’s harder to maintain it in one.

Gentleman Argentum
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 24 Aug 2019
Age: 56
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,019
Location: State of Euphoria

18 Mar 2021, 2:16 am

auntblabby wrote:

in a more exalted extra-dimensional realm, i hope to be a permanent part of a ménage à trois.

Ambitious! My hat's off to you, I can't even fantasize about more than one at a time.

_________________
My magical motto is Animus facit nobilem. I like to read fantasy and weird fiction. Just a few of my favorite online things: music, chess, and dungeon crawl stone soup.

Gentleman Argentum
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 24 Aug 2019
Age: 56
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,019
Location: State of Euphoria

18 Mar 2021, 2:22 am

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:

Mona Pereth wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

No PIV or oral (they also couldn't kiss)..... then what do they do?

Mona mentioned kink/fetish, and I took that to mean, spanking, bondage, dom/sub (D/s, or does that stand for discipline/spanking?). Offbeat practices that are not commonly done for sex. Kink is more about psychology, head-trip and role-playing but it can really mean a great deal of things, it's a difficult word to pin down on UrbanDictionary. Yes, pretty much any real fetish would be safe sex, like you won't catch anything from bondage except maybe rope burn.

_________________
My magical motto is Animus facit nobilem. I like to read fantasy and weird fiction. Just a few of my favorite online things: music, chess, and dungeon crawl stone soup.

auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 115,295
Location: the island of defective toy santas

18 Mar 2021, 2:50 am

Gentleman Argentum wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

in a more exalted extra-dimensional realm, i hope to be a permanent part of a ménage à trois.

Ambitious! My hat's off to you, I can't even fantasize about more than one at a time.

IOW when i'm in heaven i'll have a harem. not saying i can do that while occupying the present wetware.

Gentleman Argentum
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 24 Aug 2019
Age: 56
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,019
Location: State of Euphoria

18 Mar 2021, 4:59 am

auntblabby wrote:

Gentleman Argentum wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

in a more exalted extra-dimensional realm, i hope to be a permanent part of a ménage à trois.

Ambitious! My hat's off to you, I can't even fantasize about more than one at a time.

IOW when i'm in heaven i'll have a harem. not saying i can do that while occupying the present wetware.

Until then, here is some food for thought. :jester:

_________________
My magical motto is Animus facit nobilem. I like to read fantasy and weird fiction. Just a few of my favorite online things: music, chess, and dungeon crawl stone soup.

auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 115,295
Location: the island of defective toy santas

18 Mar 2021, 5:01 am

^^^purty pics :heart:

magz
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 1 Jun 2017
Age: 41
Gender: Female
Posts: 16,283
Location: Poland

18 Mar 2021, 5:39 am

auntblabby wrote:

IOW when i'm in heaven i'll have a harem.

72 virgins?

_________________
Let's not confuse being normal with being mentally healthy.

<not moderating PPR stuff concerning East Europe>

auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 115,295
Location: the island of defective toy santas

18 Mar 2021, 5:55 am

magz wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

IOW when i'm in heaven i'll have a harem.

72 virgins?

420

Page 3 of 11 [ 171 posts ] Go to page Previous 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 ... 11 Next

Jump to:

What are your thoughts on Polyamory or Polygamy? Post Reply New Topic

What are your thoughts on Polyamory or Polygamy?