Would You Date Someone Who Wanted To Wait Till Marriage?

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I am saving it for marriage so of course

Sorry about the seeming to assume thing. That is why I preceded my first post with “your statement simply provides a reference point.”

If there was an option I would choose "I'm a man and maybe."

But leaning towards no. What if you marry and then find out on your honeymoon that you are completely sexually incompatible? You try and work on it, but you just don't work well together in that way. So what, you're both stuck in a sex-less marriage until you die or go through a divorce? Not to mention, I'm an agnostic leftist, and "wait 'till marriage" types generally (not always) also carry strong conservative and/or religious beliefs that would probably lead to some heated disagreements.

Sexual incompatibility was never important to me. I care about substantive things instead like mutual respect, commitment, trust, trying to the support each other when a problem arises, & such things. I'm an agnostic leftist as well & one piece of advice I've gotten very often was to look for women at church. I guess it made sense in a way cuz on top of not being into casual sex I was also straight-edge but the idea of faking something I'm not to meet somebody & get to know her a bit seemed like a recipe for disaster. I was willing to be with someone who was a religious right-winger but I would need her to respect that I am not as I would respect that she was. I'm originally from a very hardcore conservative area so ruling out those types woulda been another extremely limiting factor for me. I'm a walking contradiction to most stereotypes. On the surface I appear one way but there's something about me that goes against it. NTs claim that us Aspies have black & white thinking but NTs think that if I am not this then I must be that. It is either/or & no room for any middle ground or outsider perspective. I cant fit all nice & neat in any box. Probably why my own experiences contradict most of the dating & relationship advice I ever got.

For me it would be necessary to more rigorously define "waiting for marriage". At one time I dated a young woman who said she was saving it for marriage but her definition of what she was saving was extremely narrow, so I it was not a sexually frustrating experience for me.

Maybe there should be more choices.

Without getting too graphic, I enjoy sexual experiences and while it isn't the only, or most important thing, it is still a big thing. I definitely wouldn't call good sex an insubstantive part of a relationship. But I have pretty high drives I guess.

Who on Earth could afford to pay for all those weddings & divorces?? Lol, imagine being married to everyone you ever hooked up with.. crazy.

I guess what I mean is that good sex in a relationship can fluctuate & may not last. People can develop health issues, get stressed out by things, get busy with life stuff, & have kids & get no privacy. Also some guys say that women quit liking sex 1ce they get married & get back home form their honeymoon

Some women do stop liking sex once they "get back from the honeymoon."

Most don't stop liking sex, though.

No.

This is why dating in Houston sucks.