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27 Jun 2021, 4:42 am

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Also, why would she lie about that?

Perhaps she is trying to make herself seem appealing by claiming to not be "used goods"

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27 Jun 2021, 5:05 am

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Well actually she told me on the last date that no guy has ever asked her out before, and I was thinking that's crazy, she's a 10/10 in the looks area, how could a guy never do that.

It's called lying ironpony

Maybe she’s too beautiful that all guys think they can’t have a chance with her, so they don’t even try to ask her out?

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27 Jun 2021, 5:12 am

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ironpony wrote:

Well actually she told me on the last date that no guy has ever asked her out before, and I was thinking that's crazy, she's a 10/10 in the looks area, how could a guy never do that.

It's called lying ironpony

Maybe she’s too beautiful that all guys think they can’t have a chance with her, so they don’t even try to ask her out?

That myth certainly does the rounds doesn't it.

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27 Jun 2021, 11:54 am

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ironpony wrote:

Also, why would she lie about that?

Perhaps she is trying to make herself seem appealing by claiming to not be "used goods"

But just because guys asked a woman out wouldn't mean I would think she was used goods, that just seems like a reach to assume a guy would think that.

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27 Jun 2021, 8:10 pm

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Oh okay thanks. For sure, I would definitely treat her the same as the rest for sure, with respect. Another thing I find intimidating though, is I am autistic and what does a woman this goodlooking want with an autistic guy when she finds out soon. So I find that intimidating, or is there any advice on how I should handle that problem I have?

If she is unaware of your diagnosis, then she didn't choose you for this reason. She chose you because something about you clicked with her. I don't think we ever really know why two people actually like each other once you get past their looks or their money or things like that, you know, the ones that actually like each other.
Advice? - none, sorry. Honestly I don't think that's a problem that you can solve. It's up to her to make her own decision when she is aware of that information.

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27 Jun 2021, 8:25 pm

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cyberdad wrote:

ironpony wrote:

Also, why would she lie about that?

Perhaps she is trying to make herself seem appealing by claiming to not be "used goods"

But just because guys asked a woman out wouldn't mean I would think she was used goods, that just seems like a reach to assume a guy would think that.

On the internet I think a woman like you describe is called a high value woman. In other words she has a high social value from other men.

I have read a little on this topic and also biographies of women who fall into this category. By about the age of 13 an extremely attractive girl will become aware of boys staring at her. By 15 she will notice grown adult men staring at her. School girls often get approached by adult men (this actually happened to my sister) and will be given phone numbers.

In highschool these girls realise very quickly this is an asset they can use. Unless their parents have religious or parental control over their movements, if they are provided social space they have boys/men in their social circles. When I was in highschool every single girl who I would have rated higher than a 6/10 had a boyfriend.

Therefore I just find it hard to believe when I hear stories of extremely attractive girls being left on the shelf. If this happens they would be in a small minority.

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27 Jun 2021, 8:29 pm

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She sounds like she wants someone she can be comfortable with and know you will appreciate her. The alphas can get great looking women any day of the week.
Feel free to appreciate her beauty - it’s fleeting for most everyone - but try to focus on the fact that she is as human as the rest of us and treat her with the respect you offer all your dates.

What makes a man alpha? I want hear it from a woman because most women deny its existence (Saying like “it was debunked in wolves”, while ignoring the fact that it exists in primates).

We all know who the alphas are - they exude control over the situation without really trying. They achieved their power through looks, strength, humor, money, title, fame, cunning, you know those qualities, or a combination.
I don't think a beta ever becomes an alpha so he had best find his own brand of happiness.
I'm pretty sure even science accepts the existence of the alpha male.

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27 Jun 2021, 10:28 pm

Well another thing is, is that this woman is 15 years younger than me and it feels weird and makes me feel old as a result. Is that weird?

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27 Jun 2021, 10:41 pm

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Well another thing is, is that this woman is 15 years younger than me and it feels weird and makes me feel old as a result. Is that weird?

15 years is not a large difference if you are both older than 30

I think where it becomes a problem is if the girl is young 18-20 and you are like 35 which means there's going to be quite a considerable gap in your expectations (she's into fluffy girly stuff which will eventually bore you to death and secondly she will lose interest in your special interests as her attention will be drawn to a wider range of superficial things girls her age are into).

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27 Jun 2021, 10:45 pm

I'm 36 and she's 21. What counts as fluffy girl stuff? I don't think there has been that so far.

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27 Jun 2021, 10:54 pm

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I'm 36 and she's 21. What counts as fluffy girl stuff? I don't think there has been that so far.

In that case (unless you enjoy the sex) there may be some challenges ahead.

She's 21 so she is still coming to terms with transitioning from being a teenager in highschool. Fluffy stuff is like social media, girlfriends (that's the worst), silly TV programs, fluffy toys in her bed and preoccupation with what he said/she said....it will drive you nuts.

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27 Jun 2021, 11:04 pm

Oh okay. Well so far some of her taste in movies and TV is kind of immature, but other things she watches is really good I find, so so far it's a toss up there. Haven't seen her bedroom yet, but it doesn't sound too bad from that description.

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27 Jun 2021, 11:08 pm

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For the moment see if your proximal goals (sex with a hot young girl with immature taste) override your distal goals (long term relationship with somebody who is a soul mate).

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27 Jun 2021, 11:13 pm

Oh well I would be in it for the long haul so I want her to be on the long term relationship page if that is what you mean.

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27 Jun 2021, 11:16 pm

what attracts me most, is "perfectly imperfect." that, combined with a winning personality and spiritual ethics. all that is extremely rare as a combo.

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27 Jun 2021, 11:54 pm

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Oh well I would be in it for the long haul so I want her to be on the long term relationship page if that is what you mean.

In that case you will have to compromise her immaturity and see how it goes.

BTW is she an aspiring film maker/actress?

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