Should I be disappointed that my gf makes fancy dinners?

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Can you say, "Humble-Brag"?  I am sure you can!

That would make me happy but I can understand how peoples taste in food are different.Most guys i know would not be dissapointed but some would be.I think this needs to be worked out mutually by a couple.

Oh okay, I thought that a lot of guys would want to do more with their gfs rather than help them cook and eat most of the time.

Do you watch TV afterwards?

Sometimes but not a lot of the time there is no time because the elaborate cooking takes too long.

Does she allow you to “mess” with her while she cooks?

Personally I would be fine with just cooking a meal and eating and watching tv and doing the internet and just be a homebody with a woman.However other people are different.

Well it seems that a based on people's reactions that my gf wanting to make long elaborate dinners is not a bad thing and I am making too big of a deal out of it. But why do people feel that way? Are a lot of people just gourmands compared to me and I am in more of a minority maybe?

Show us pics of her elaborate dinners.

I would but I don't know if she would be okay with that... But she tends to make more elaborate Asian dishes, which take a long time.

There are far, far worse problems you could have with her.

Emphasize (um...gently) your desire to occasionally see a movie with her, etc.

Find out if she can prepare something elaborate and wonderful that can be kept for a day or so. Then on the day you go out maybe the elaborate meal could be served quickly and allow time for the other activities.

That's a good idea, I can do that. Thanks.

I hope you find a way that you both can be happy together. (The older and more settled-down you get the better those meals are going to look, by the way.)

If she is nervous about making meals that can be served a day later than she might want to experiment with it. Until she is comfy with the process, maybe don't plan excursions for when the first few test meals come out.

(And maybe save some of the dessert for me.)

Oh okay. But what is it about people being so entertained by a partner's cooking if it takes up a lot of time?

Maybe even start with one dish as an experiment.

But it later dawned on me...is there something in her life that is really stressing her out, right now? (Hopefully, not you!) In which case the time spent in the kitchen might be necessary self-therapy. If that's it then tread carefully.

Note: My bride was born and raised in Texas but her Mother and Grandmother were French. My bride likes to cook, too, and the meals are often more elaborate than necessary for my taste. And I have very limited kitchen privileges. Generally, she's even happier cooking for me than having me make myself a sandwich or warming up a heat-and-eat something for myself.

Depending upon where your relationship goes you might want to emulate something I've negotiated. There is a "husband food" shelf in the kitchen, and one small area in the refrigerator with things I can be trusted with. When I'm on my own I can get a quick meal for myself.

I don't want to speak for double retired but I think what he's trying to say is a partner preparing a meal at home strengthens the bond between two intimate partners, builds upon the relationship and provides an opportunity for quality time and sharing.

From my perspective though, there are limits as home cooking is time consuming and stressful (even if one partner claims they find it therapeutic).