A lot of those "red flags" seemed to be either completely trivial or things that people with AS could not avoid:
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#10. He has no hobbies other than watching TV
#25. He calls his mother everyday and for every thing that comes up in his daily life
#29. He doesn't like to go to social places like bars, where there are a lot of people and possible attention on you from other men
#37. He mentions how he has a high IQ, and not many people "understand him."
#40. When you ask him why he's so quiet, he says, "I only say what needs to be said." He mentions the beauty of silence, and how so many people fill up the air with unnessessary vocalizations. BARF.
#42. He is a film critic, a history major, and poet. You are almost intimidated by his "artsy" side. He is intelligent, well-versed, and well educated. You think to youself, "How did I snag such a GREAT guy?" As time goes by, you notice that his film reviews (especially historical war films) and poetry are the ONLY areas he "comes alive." You wonder why he has such a strong connection to certain things, yet emotionally he's aloof.
#48. Is over socially opinionated. At first you think he's well educated, and become intrigued some of the odd facts he knows. Later you realize all these facts add up to the whole, "fighting the good fight" mentality. He's always trying to seek justice, prove wrong, pinpoint facts, find the irony, uncover the conspiracy, etc. His brain is infatuated with this s**t. It's all part of the "holier than thou" mindset, how he has everything "figured out" and you should feel proud to be with such a brave man. GAG.
#50. If you ever once, just for one second, see a frightening, mad, staring-eyed look on his face that isn’t the result of something at least as horrifying as him having just been bitten by a venomous snake (i.e if you’ve just suggested you both visit some friends of yours) then no matter how fleeting it was or how deeply you think you care for him, either run for the hills or change the locks (depending on whose house it is). Ignore this one and it could cost you your life.
#56. Over 30 with no car, no phone (cell or otherwise) and/or a history of changing residences and/or jobs multiple times in the last year.
#59. Despite his obvious mental angst [or perhaps because of it...] he completely rejects the idea of professional therapy as a sham, preferring to confide in YOU, because, well, YOU are so much better at understanding him and his troubled life than some overpaid professional "quack."
#65. Men who have juvenile hobbies such as comic book or action figure collections. This is a huge sign that they're not all the way grown up.
#78. Something about him "creeps out" or unnerves other friends or family members.
#88. He/she talks about looking for a "soul mate" or "someone to complete me".
#91. He has no friends of the opposite sex.
#92. He has no friends period.
#93. He has people he calls "friends" but he very rarely, (or *never* calls) them, goes out with them or does anything with them.
#94. His "friends" are total flakes, crackpots and emotionally disturbed people. (Healthy people attract Healthy friends. Unhealthy people attract UNhealthy friends.)
#95. He/She abandons his/her current "friends" at the start of your relationship, and practically never sees them, never does anything with them anymore - he/she is completely focussed on YOU.
#96. He has no spine- lets you do whatever you want, never says NO. Says things like, "Whatever you do." or "It's up to you."
#98. He thinks WWF wrestling is culture.
#109. He seems like a "lost puppy" in need of care. (Get help for yourself for even being attracted.)
#120. He is constantly "down" and has a variety of excuses - his back hurts, he doesn't get enough light, you are keeping him awake at night so he doesn't get enough sleep, he hasn't had enough to eat that day, etc.
#133. She doesn't eat. [not sure if the author means anorexia or is just ranting about skinny people]
#136. Over 30 and still living at home.
#137. His/her whole social life revolves around his/her parents.
#140. His entire wardrobe consists of clothes from trade shows like Comdex, bearing the logos of software and gaming companies.
#144. She still calls her mother every time she has to make a major life decision.
#145. He/she says things like "you're everything to me. I can't live without you."
#149. He shows signs of pennypinching. For example, a guy who only goes to the rep theatre because he has a special card, and then won't even buy a popcorn but eats out of your container all night and shares your soda. Then won't even go out for a beer after, even if it's a weekend. His clothes are ten years old or more.
12 Aug 2007, 5:59 pm
