Should you save sex for marriage?

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Not hanging your financial future on it. ^

Having sex with more than one person. (Assuming you only marry once?)

Having someone else to compare them to.

Not getting married too quickly.

Not letting physical lust cloud your judgment on marriage.

Thinking it will be a huge romantic deal when it really isn't.

Thinking they will satisfy some sort of romantic fairy tale all on your wedding night.

Disappointing each other on your wedding night and starting off unhappy.

Stuff like that.

I voted no. It's not something that I ever did. And as it goes now, I like being single, not celibate.

As for others though, I guess it does depend. I'm sure for some waiting is the right thing to do. No judgement, just not my cuppa tea.

I voted for It Depends. I have nothing against premarital sex as long as it's consential & the parties involved weigh the potential risks but I'm not against the idea of waiting till marriage either as long as both people are OK with that. As for as myself, I'm sorta on the asexuality spectrum & I'm not really fond of the idea of having sex outside a serious romantic relationship myself. I woulda been mostly OK with waiting till marriage or being married & never having. However I've had sex a handfull of times with my current girlfriend & we're not married because we're both disabled & it'll screw up benefits & I don't regret having sex.

Same reasons why I dislike waiting too. I think it also makes people sexually immature. There is a big difference between waiting until marriage in your late teens and early 20s Vs 30+.

I ran out of patience now. I've had one too many bad experiences where i get stereotyped as someone who is happy to enter into a celibate relationship because I'm quiet and keep myself to myself.

Celibate is another way of saying virgin right?

I have been celibate for TOO LONG and haven't even kissed a guy in years!

That is not my fault

I have been dealt bad hands in life and my dreams of love & marriage (and sex!) had to be pushed back in order to accommodate my current circumstances like taking care of my mom as her caretaker

This is no longer an issue since my mom is now in a permanent rest home

Besides from being my mom's caretaker I have gained valuable experience that will help me if/when it comes time for me to have a baby

For example thanks to her I know how to change diapers

So in the end taking care of her was worth it!

But it pushed everything back and as a result I am only now embarking on my search to find love!

Just a matter of finding the right man at this point

It's not necessarily the same thing. I've just had bad experiences with people waiting until marriage or never having done anything sexual before with no real desire to change anytime soon.

Generally speaking, if someone is a virgin and thinks "Ohhh, he/she is quiet and polite, I imagine he/she hasn't done it in ages and wouldn't mind waiting another 5 years"....then that's a just a sign of serious sexual immaturity that I will have an issue with. It's caused me problems in the past. I don't like being the last resort of a prude who's making far too much of a big deal of it. Initially meeting someone to actual sex can take a few minutes for some.

It's important to not let sexual immaturity get that bad.l whether male or female.

Some people might argue that having sex with someone after only knowing them for a few minutes is immature.

It can take time to determine whether or not someone is a creep. For me, it’d be weeks or, more likely, months but not years or even one year.

I would save it in Google Drive, good stuff.

^ I don’t even want to know what you’ve got saved in Google Drive.

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Yeah, that’s what I thought.

Unless explicitly stated otherwise one way or another with someone who has a mutual interest in doing the same, i find about ten dates or threeish months to be ideal. After that it gets awkward for me and risks running into a friend type relationship.

That sounds reasonable.

So what you are saying is that I should have sex as soon as possible so I don't get labelled as "sexually immature"

Is this correct?

Not gonna lie, that's a pretty immature reason to have sex with someone.

Having sex simply to say you've had it is the sort of logic kids often use when pursuing early 'contacts'.

Well I want it to happen SOON

I am tired of being a virgin