Complicated girl

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do you know for a fact that she's not in a relationship?

since this sounds like an out-of-town trip....

maybe she is having troubles in her relationship and wanted you to cuddle to help her cope with w/e she is dealing with and the fact that it's a limited exposure (to you) that she can just use you for what she wants and then get back to real life.

that explains to me why she seems interested but not. i think she's using you to suit her purposes.

dont over think it. and dont worry exageratedly about what she thinks / wants. You know what YOU want, that's the important thing. You can spend five years thinking and deducing what is she thinking. It is better if you go find out, and learn from the experience. Dont take it so seriously, you'll meet plenty of girls in the future. If things fail, it's no big deal, happens all the time. If it works out, great, you won't be regreting in years to come to be cowardly and not exploring things.

When I was in a religion, I went to one of thier wonderfull parties where this lovely girl chatted to me and when we where sitting down on the floor she was leaning on me, she looked dreamily into my eyes and asked me to write to her.

Now normally if I girl likes me, they hav eto beat me with a stick and shout " I like you you idiot", ie, Iam a bit slow, but the above encounter had me thinking at last, Love had found me.

So, I wrote to her as required, Iam not that nieve to come across as to heavy or gushy to put her off, but obviously it came across in my letter that I though some sort of romantic relationship was on the cards.

She wrote back to tell me I had misinterpreted her.
I wrote back to say physical contact of affection and asking to be written too could easily be mistaken.

We did become real good friends and pen-pals after that but never romance.

So, I guess men want love from the opposite sex whereas women who get quite affectionate amongst themselves, can easily use that affection towrds men they find attractive as human beings they just want to be friends with?

I just thought of a possible factor...her parents. Perhaps her parents are telling her relationships (or just one with me) are bad, or influenced her in some other way. If that's the case...well I dunno how I feel then. Perhaps there might be hope in the future then.

Well I haven't said anything for two weeks. She knows how I feel, so I figured I'd leave the next move to her. She hasn't done anything, so I think I'll just send her a REALLY nice bracelet, and leave it at that. Besides, it's not like I'll never see her again. If I were to go so far as to damage the friendship we have, and we both decided to be camp counselors next summer (which may likely happen), it'd be eight weeks of total hell. Things are just too complicated for me to deal with.

Thanks again

Women are a little bit weird but so are men.

Spamming would be more productive if
you actually posted something.


Just a hint, from the master.

I would have put it as coy,
rather than otherwise.