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06 Sep 2007, 1:10 pm

WatcherAzazel wrote:

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If she occasionally sat in your lap, yes, even I would pick up on that kind of a clue.

I actually have seen cases where a girl does that to a guy who's just a really close friend, and it meant nothing.

Well, okay. Maybe if it was one of those lascivious lap dances that some men actually pay money for, then THAT would constitute a strong hint of interest.

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06 Sep 2007, 6:46 pm

I've often had women sit in my lap,
without (I think) meaning anything.

But yeah, even clothed genital rubbing
is probably a good sign.

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06 Sep 2007, 8:15 pm

calandale wrote:

I've often had women sit in my lap,
without (I think) meaning anything.

But yeah, even clothed genital rubbing
is probably a good sign.

So there you have it. If you are interested in an Aspie man, then it will take more than merely sitting in his lap. You will just have to stimulate his penis before he catches on.

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06 Sep 2007, 8:37 pm

Pretty much.

I mean, I had someone rubbing HERSELF
against my leg, but still don't think that
she was interested.

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06 Sep 2007, 8:43 pm

If a girl started sitting on my lap, I would likely interpret that as a sign of interest.

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06 Sep 2007, 9:20 pm

TheBladeRoden wrote:

If a girl started sitting on my lap, I would likely interpret that as a sign of interest.

If a girl sat in my lap I'd probably get a boner and then she'd get mad at me.

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06 Sep 2007, 9:56 pm

pandabear wrote:

WatcherAzazel wrote:

pandabear wrote:

If she occasionally sat in your lap, yes, even I would pick up on that kind of a clue.

I actually have seen cases where a girl does that to a guy who's just a really close friend, and it meant nothing.

Well, okay. Maybe if it was one of those lascivious lap dances that some men actually pay money for, then THAT would constitute a strong hint of interest.

Not in this case, really. The girl told me that the guy is pretty much asexual.

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06 Sep 2007, 9:59 pm

I asked the last guy I dated out, but I knew he liked me before I did it. I'm betting the problem most of the guys here would run into is that you don't give the girls you like any signals whatsoever that you're interested in them. Just like a guy, most women wouldn't make the first move unless she had a reason to believe you'd say yes. She doesn't know you're an Aspie; she's just as scared of rejection as you are.

If you want women to make the first move, you're going to have to give them clues that you like them. Isn't that the crux of the original issue of why you want women to do the asking in the first place - you don't want to make the first move and risk rejection? It's an effort on both sides no matter who makes the first official move.

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06 Sep 2007, 10:35 pm

You have someone in specific, in mind?

I know one, who damned well should.

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07 Sep 2007, 8:08 am

Spot17 wrote:

If you want women to make the first move, you're going to have to give them clues that you like them.

If we made any of the moves suggested here, we'd be arrested.

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07 Sep 2007, 8:22 am

pandabear wrote:

calandale wrote:

I've often had women sit in my lap,
without (I think) meaning anything.

But yeah, even clothed genital rubbing
is probably a good sign.

So there you have it. If you are interested in an Aspie man, then it will take more than merely sitting in his lap. You will just have to stimulate his penis before he catches on.

I have a very odd story about that :oops:

and no I don't think she was really interested either, maybe that one is for the adult section.

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07 Sep 2007, 8:33 am

0_equals_true wrote:

I have a very odd story about that :oops:

and no I don't think she was really interested either, maybe that one is for the adult section.

Oh, do tell.

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07 Sep 2007, 9:24 am

pandabear wrote:

0_equals_true wrote:

I have a very odd story about that :oops:

and no I don't think she was really interested either, maybe that one is for the adult section.

Oh, do tell.

I do sort of want to, to know to know what others think in what capacity it was for. Pretty odd to say the least. So I might put it in the adult section it is pretty embarrassing nonetheless.

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07 Sep 2007, 11:08 am

i would prefer someone didnt ask me out but we just knew we were ment for each other and went out anyways

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07 Sep 2007, 12:22 pm

I say its great if women ask me out. I'm terribly shy and I have a hard time making the first move.

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07 Sep 2007, 5:29 pm

calandale wrote:

Pretty much.

I mean, I had someone rubbing HERSELF
against my leg, but still don't think that
she was interested.

Me too (although much to my embarassment, only one part of me knew how to respond. The rest of me was terribly confused...). However, before she could stick her tongue down my throat (and given the enthusiasm with which she'd been grinding her crotch against mine, I'm pretty sure she would have done), her husband literally peeled her off me and started knocking seven shades of shiznit out of her.

I have awesome luck with women.

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