why do guys (NT) want girls to be pretty?

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I don't know about this... but here's a thought... some girls who others think are "pretty", I could think are fugly... lulz, Paris Hilton, for example... pretty to me, isn't always pretty to everyone else, and vice versa. A lot of it, I think comes down to your own definition of pretty. I mean it's like, some people I know are attractive, but they're just not attractive to me.

That's true looks are actually really quite important to guys... I'm sorry we're such a shallow gender.

Although I certainly ain't really shallow. I don't really know I ain't lived long enough to know what really draws me in.

If that's a picture of you on your avatar, you're fine. The only thing I would advise is not plucking off the ends of your eyebrows because it is obvious that they're missing.

Looks matter to everyone. If anyone says they don't, they're lying. The people who aren't "shallow" are just less picky about looks, but they still care about them.

She looks perfectly fine to me--I didn't notice anything about the eyebrows.

I'll chime in on this one, too. Berserker, our avatar is very definitely attractive. At the very least, it's a well-done photo of whoever. Eyebrow alteration isn't generally something I would notice, either, mostly because I don't pay that much attention to my own small, cosmetic details.

On the topic, though, I will comment that for me physical attraction has almost never been a matter of consciously evaluating the merits of a particular potential mate. Far more often, physical attraction has felt more like a metaphorical fist to the gut, or kind of like something being turned on by a switch. If the conscious mind is involved at all, it was probably watching from the sidelines in confusion, and that's if I questioned at all what was happening. As I've aged, I've done a lot more questioning. I long ago stopped trusting physical attractions, especially overpowering ones.

Not true of all men....



Guys, her avatar is of Milla Jovitch in "Resident Evil: Extinction"...

But it does bring up a good point. I've talked to a lot of aspie girls who tend to think that they're a LOT less attractive than they actually are. I've seen pictures of some fairly pretty girls from this site who think tha they're repulsive. Also at least ten pounds heavier than they actually are. XD So go figure.

The ladies do seem to be under a lot of pressure to be pretty, and the pressure isn't exclusively from men.

If you look at any woman's magazine, they have pictures of pretty girls. And, if you look at men's magazines, they also contain pictures of pretty girls.

Women seem to spend insane amounts of money on makeup, jewelry, fashion accessories, stylish clothing, etc.

Is it really all for the benefit of men? Or are they primarily aimed at achieving or maintaining a particular status within their own gender? Or within their own minds?

I don't think that it is all necessary, or should be necessary, in finding a mate.

Women's magazines, too, include all sorts of sex tips: exciting new positions, how to turn on your man, how to make your husband lose biological control in the driveway. Really, it isn't at all complicated--all that you have to do is get naked beside him.

I dress for myself, and not for other people. If I look like Sid, instead of Flower Child Barbie, than that reflects who I am. I just happen to be a big, healthy tomboy who likes spiked hair and tapered jeans. I have no problem with my weight or appearance. The other women can do whatever they want. I'm not the one starving myself, skimping on my milk and dressing in a tasteless manner.

Sid :O)

crucial point. actually, i don't think Paris Hilton is anything special. I've met many girls that I find more attractive than her. I think women tend to forget that we don't all like the same things, or that, because I find a certain woman attractive, that doesn't mean I only find similar women attractive.

I once met an NT guy who said that he would prefer an average-looking wife to a beautiful one because then there wouldn't be so many men hitting on her (though I also know an unattractive woman, married with 2 kids, who has a very persistent suitor). I suspect many NTs think 'if I were rich, I'd go for a trophy wife, but I prefer one less fancy if I'm not rich, because then it's hopefully more reliable.' In my case, beautiful women put me off a bit because, as a general rule (obviously, there are exceptions), beautiful women tend not to have great personalities, apart from them being beyond my league.

Errm, is it just me, or does it seem like this type of thinking is destined for failure as looks rarely last past a certain age in life; everything changes. So in 20-25 years, only associating with goodlooking people with come back to stab you in the face. I'm not here to try to to force you to do this, but this type of thinking I would deem typical of a person who is young, and not a person who is all that experienced with life and the human race and is full of low self confidence and worth, no offense. If you have to only know hot people, only associate with them, to feel good about yourself and to feel valuable, then something is wrong and the whole situation just radiates insecurity. Most people dont like it when you're only friends with them because they look good, by the way.I used to be obsessed with tortured geniuses. it gets old as usually they think so highly of themselves, that they possess so much wit and insight that they barely know when they are wrong, arrogant and just down right unpleasant. Plus, many have the inability to see past their own agenda and become legend in their own mind, making it impossible to connect or feel anything towards them except distance.

I think if eugneics were to ever take hold, all the earth would have left would be a population of pompous a***holes whom nobody wants to be around after sex because all they'd be searching for is the perfect so and so instead of knowing and liking themselves...not very tantalizing.

I've never met a truly intelligent and "attractive" person who believes such things, especially as they age and grow wiser.

My thoughts on the whole thing are that first off looks matter to EVERYBODY.

Second off what person A may find attractive person B may be repulsed by. So Although looks and what makes people attractive is important to everyone when choosing a mate on some level, what exactly that may be is different from person to person. Because of culture and other such things we can anticipate SOME aspects of what alot of people are going to find beautiful but thats not a rule. I for instance find beauty in many things and forms, as do many others, some people only find beauty in forms others dismiss as ugly but in the end I think EVERYONE can find someone who finds them attractive and in my experience almost everyone with a little bit of polish is a verry attractive person despite whatever image problems they may have or what society may say and people react to it so you know its true.

Fatter girls do have evolutionary advantages in times of famine. So I come to the conclusion that richer men, with more resources prefer slimmer woman.

Generally man like shorter woman because they eat less and consume less resources. I assume that richer men prefer taller woman, as I have noticed that upper class woman are much more taller then lower class.

define pretty

Exactly!

The Pretty Face
Toward Standard Attractiveness

Bodywise the definition is more fluid. Somebody has already pointed out that in some cultures a fuller/fatter (not meaning obesidas) body is regarded as more attractive than a slim one. It's also subject to media and personal taste of course.