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I know it may be hard to believe that I would and you may think perhaps that I'm too spineless or whatever, but honestly believe me - I'm not. Here's a taster: -

Ok I've already said time and time again about this weird Heather situation, but that's not all: -

I'm at College for a third year and I'm at the end of my tether with it... also no real close friends there... not many friends... no one there can really relate to me at all... family are decent people who help but differentiating personalities means no one knows how to connect with me... and the one who I best connect with is at University in a different place in England...

No motivation for academics... feeling more and more paranoid about people around me...
Falling behind on my course and if this keeps up I'm bound to fail.

So yes - as you can detect it's not just the Heather thing at all... this would bust anyone... and I'm sure it'd reduce all your self-esteem to a much lower degree... I'm not even having those days anymore when I'm manically too confident in College... no more eccentricity in me atm.

I'd have to be superhuman to be able to... well... what do I do???

^^ become like me , embrace your autism and don/t be a NT-wannabe , a loner who is focused on his future career and care not much about close friendships or gfs....and learn to enjoy yourself.
I am sure that you are resistant to loneliness more than regular people...use this power.

I read 'Gulp'

I disagree with most people on this thread. The easy way out is to delete her, anyone can do that. It’s not to say you can't take a rest bite, but don't cut her out or you might not learn anything.

Read this:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt40751.html

I ain't an NT wannabe mate - I just have a drive to offer that lucky possibly NT person out there something fresh and unique...

As I've said several times before, I'm in the unpleasant situation of carrying a torch for somebody who couldn't reciprocate even if she wasn't in a relationship.

Having the wrong chromosomes sucks, and I often feel bitter about my awful luck ("married or gay" seems to be the default setting for the women I'm attracted to. It's almost as if I can sniff them out and am attracted by the scent of something I can't have...), but the two of us are still friends and we can still talk well enough.

Bottom line is, I love her to bits and I wouldn't want to lose her friendship. That means far more to me right now than indulging the insistent yammer ing of my own mating urge.

Yar deleting her would be the easy way out - and when there's all that other **** going on in my life too which is also nasty as hell then I might have to eventually just do that...

I'm feeling very disturbed right now - something's happening to me that is completely unnatural... it's tragic what's happening to me... I'm losing all of my self-esteem.
So I figured, being bold and strong as I can be, that I'd tell her exactly how I feel, and if clearly nothing will happen - then yeah sure I'll delete her.
It probably ain't just her that's doing this much damage to me... but this is the main thing I'd guess... I'm ridiculously bewildered. I must realize that I will probably have that self-esteem right back very soon.

This is sickening though... makes me cringe with disgust.

my goodness. . you read "Cosmo?"

give me a guy that reads "Scientific American" anyday!

^^^ Hi Merle,
How do you feel about Field and Stream?

and samtoo, I read somewhere that women are attracted to aspies as friends because we appear less neanderthal-like and more feminine, which explains why so often I was rejected for dates and told "I like you as a friend". And it wasn't to get rid of me.

IMHO, you need to tell this girl that you desparately want to have sex with her. All girls like to think they are sexy and telling them you want to get in their pants is the greatest compliment you can give them. But watch out in case you get slapped in the face.

And don't forget, the best advice I can give you is don't take my advice - lol

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It's really hard. I often really want to be friends with such women, but can't seem to tell my brain the right way to go about it in a natural, comfortable way.

I dont get friends-its far to hard in the long run

ROTFLMFAO!! !

If there is still an emotional attachment..."let's be friends"...can either result in anger issues or someone getting hurt. I've seldom seen it work...I've seen it "played" for benefits quite a few times unfortunately...not very nice at all.

Seriously...for your sanity...I think I would find another friend.

Field and Stream is my favorite kink, especially if they are in kilts with knobby knees!
oooh, heart be still!

Merle

I agree. I was in a situation years ago where a guy was going out with me "until something better came along". Because I didn't think anyone else would be interested, I put up with that situation way too long.

Because others thought we were "an item" they were put off. I could have met someone else who would have appreciated me.

For this reason, I would say it's not worth hanging around someone who isn't really interested because it is stopping you from having the chance to meet someone who does care.