My ex-wife is dating someone exactly like me.

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maybe trying to elicite a response from him cause she misses him?

/shrug

all batches r crazy NT or no

No, I don't think so. I believe she just wants to twist the knife a bit more. If he could only ignore her, she might wake up to herself and stop being so stupid.

Oh, I ignore her with grandeur, but she still never gets over me. (Not bragging, it's simply true.)
We avoid contact with each other for months on end, but then one of us will then write or call the other to see how they're doing.

Ah, that's your big mistake. I always say a clean break is the best.

I think that most people tend to date the same type of person over and over, so it's not that unusual. They don't necessarily look the same, but they have the same temperament and dispositions.

Case in point: my ex left me for my best friend, a guy who's probably more like me than anyone else I've known. Either she has a type, or she's very lazy about finding new mates.

I agree.

My exes are nothing alike.

Ex: 6'2", light eyes, skinny, shop worker, loves heavy metal music, very outgoing. His goal in life was to continue working in a shop, maybe have me work as a waitress and pop out a few kids.

Husband: 5'11", dark eyes, bigger guy (not fat), engineer, loves folk music, aspie. His goal in life is less chaos, lol. He's content to let me chase any dreams I want, like college, where my ex didn't like me going to school.

My point in all of that is that I didn't choose a guy like my ex. My husband is my ex's opposite in almost every way. Sounds like she wishes she had you without the unpleasant parts. Kind of like wanting to start over. Maybe she lives in a fantasy world.

The important thing is not to let her drag him back into her insane world of fantasy.

Well, I guess what I'm really asking is, why would she tell me that she's dating a guy like me? Sure, it's fairly normal to date people like your ex, but is it normal to tell your ex every time you do?

If you're an Aspie (which I believe she is), then why would you write your ex, and directly state that you're now dating someone who looks and acts remarkably like them? And why would you do this pattern over and over again, guy after guy, and tell me about each one? She's done the same thing several times before -- not just the dating of someone similar, but the writing me to tell me about it. What's up with that? What does it mean? I never know how to react to her when she tells me this, yet she seems to be looking for a reaction.

It doesn't really matter, it's just strange.

everyone in texas looks the same

She could be perseverating and might think you genuinely care and want to know. If there was some way you could convince her that you're not interested, she might back off (perhaps???)