I don't belive anyone with AT/AS has gotten married

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I'm going to make a rather sketchy comment here-

I don't believe anyone who truly has AS has been successful in marriage without giving up part of what makes them AS.

How can I possibly have "given up part of what makes [me] AS"?

Isn't that a little like "giving up" part of what makes me mammalian? Or sentient?

AS isn't just a pattern of behaviors; it's an underlying difference in neuroanatomy that gives rise to those behaviors. You can try to suppress them, but they'll come out in some other form.

In point of fact, one of the things that makes my marriage successful is that my wife has never asked me to suppress any part of my personality - after all, it was aspie ol' me that she fell in love with in the first place...

My AS friend married an NT girl, it lasted a few years because his traits can be severe at times.

i do think your wrong. obviously the nt would have to really understand and love you for you.

I am 16 years old. ive been in a few relashoionships (with nts) but they all ended horribly. i believe it was because none of them ever understood me. However i do believe there is someone out there.

I dont even know anybody else whos as aspie (apart from you guys on wp i guess but yoo know!)

I think Nts and aspies do get married. Things have changed over the years after all. The only thing im questioning is that if a nt and aspie do get married is do they have children who are also aspies? That is all im questioning.

much love
xx

Only had the one child, Angelgirl, and she's a Kanner's autistic. One data point isn't nearly enough to reach a conclusion; however, since evidence strongly suggests a genetic component to autism (current suspects are on chromosomes 2, 11, and 16), it would be reasonable to conclude that an aspie has a higher-than-average chance of having a child on the spectrum.

I've found, though, that it's been a blessing for my daughter - since I'm on the spectrum but able to speak, I get to intervene with the NTs on her behalf, explaining things like sensory overstimulation and the role of stimming in mental stability.

i'll tel straight out I haven't read any other replies. I am in a prettty permanent realationship with my gf. I like her a lot and can live with her from day to day without wanting to pull my hair out. She is in love with me, and I am with her, but my feeling of love is defiantly not as strong as I think it should be. I've just settled that my "relational feelings" as na's might. And my gf IS non-aspie she has bi-polar as do I so there is a bit of a connection there she has a lot of aspie friends so i think that helps.
Hope I helped somewhat.

ProtossX, you are still relatively young and I think some day, you WILL feel love.

Well, my father did (he's stereotypical AS), for obvious reasons. It didn't last, but then, not much does.

I'm sure there are AS/NT marriages. There are AS/AS marriages, too, including a couple from WP.

Tim

I don't know if my dad is AS but he is close. My mom is slightly unhinged aswell. They've been together for about 30 years now...

There are a lot of eccentrics on my dad's side of the family, but I am the only diagnosed Aspie.

Tim

my mum and dad have been married for 3...5? years, my dad clearly has aspergers and my mum has managed to put up with him lol, nah not just put up with, you can tell my mum loves my dad, so it happens, bill gates clearly aspergers, he's married

Yes, I think Aspies can get married, especially borderline Aspies. As the old saying goes, there's somebody for just about everybody.