Ideal partner

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lol, I kinda doubt she even exists. Half the things I said go smack in the face of nature.

The ideal woman for me is

Kind
Understanding
Intelligent
Is a gamer
Has at least one other common interest
Japanese (I like Japanese culture I find women with epicanthic folds sexy for some reason)
Is not interested in sex
Likes cats
Is a theoretical physicist or a military historian
Is a licensed pilot
Dominant, well moderately dominant anyway
Willing to help me get an accounting degree so I can finally leave three dregs of the white collar world (seriously there are some serious scum bags in my department that should be cleaning toilets at Burger King)

Last edited by ArthurDent on 04 Dec 2011, 9:02 am, edited 1 time in total.

That basically describes my idea man too lol

Hey, look, it's ideal partner thread number 32,464,368 on WP. Oh goodie. We really didn't have enough of these yet.

Intelligence, geekiness, kinkiness, and an interesting personality are what I find important. And a good sense of humour is essential.

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Probably not that high in number for this specific one. If you look at the dates on this ArthurDent resurrected a thread that died around the end of February 2005.

Right you are, sir. He is now King of Necroposting!

Now I don't feel so bad about posting to it but seriously I just wanted to get my idea of the perfect woman out there somewhere also as a newish member I wanted to explore and contribute my ideas and get feedback as I'm trying to figure out where if anywhere my personality traits fit in

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I think ArthurDent can be forgiven because he has a Douglas Adams character as his username

any luck finding that woman since 2005 tech?

Pretty sure I have too much baggage to be worth her time even if I did.

has your list changed

We all hasve baggage in some form or another! Hang in there!

-non-drinker/non-smoker
-no kids
-must like video games

That's about it.

It doesn't matter in the long run, though.

I feel there's been a lot of threads like this one already, but whatever.

- Caring
- Passionate
- Slightly more social than me, but not too social
- Understanding
- Share at least some of my interests (art, movies, traveling, politics, music)
- Intelligent

I feel that especially caring and understanding are important, because I tend to get bouts of depression despite the medications I am on. Especially in the autumn and winter seasons. When I do, I can be whiny, tend to want to be alone, lazy (impassionate about everything except for staying in my bed), hard to talk to (harder than normal), loose focus.
The whole idea about women wanting an alpha-male is scary to me, because even when I try my best I go through periods in which I feel like I need protection from the world, or at least someone who understands that I need to be left alone. Which doesn't exactly make me a good provider, parent and/or protector in those periods.

Yeah, right now its a division by zero. Back then I was in college, believed that the sky was the limit on my career ability (great grades and a lot of other things gave me that impression), I thought I could go pro as a musician because it was going incredibly well; in six or seven years I've not only run into all kinds of brick walls with my own potential but additonally found out that the few gaps that I thought might have been open to shoot through in the impossibility of other people were simply recesses in the wall (half the time them, half of the time an additional factor that I hadn't encountered yet - me). At this point I've kinda just thrown my hands up - nothing does or will work the way I logically think it should, to try and troubleshoot this mess is like chasing infinity. Being that's the case I'm just taking life wherever the flow leads me.


The trick is finding a point where I could actually set my bad on certain things and not destroy myself for not being THE perfect boyfriend, husband, or dad with the addition of realizing that my pickiness is mostly rooted in fear; knowing that I'm a complete alien in terms of how my emotions and thought processes work (among NT's or aspies for that matter). There's no roadmap available for any of these things at this point and I think that's why I need to just give up the race and coast a while until either something clicks, inside or outside, or just embrace life for what it is and will be if nothing clicks.

Reading over these last posts was interesting because it made me think back to where I was in March of 2005, too. I hadn't heard of Asperger's and knew I was different, but not why. I was 22 and engaged to be married to my college sweetheart, who didn't understand me any better than I understood myself. I didn't really know where we were going and was not listening to my instincts at all, but was plowing ahead with everything even though I was feeling totally lost, deep down.

It didn't work out, thanks largely to me screwing it up, and even though I've learned a lot about myself in the past six years or so, I'm at another point at which I'm feeling lost and questioning where I'm going and what I even want all over again. At least now I'm able to be honest with myself enough to admit I'm clueless, though, so I guess that is progress? lol

EDIT: I got off-track and didn't answer the original question. My ideal partner is now just someone I can be happy with and who shares similar values, goals and views on life. I'm not too picky beyond that.