Asperger's and submissive in relationship

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I never think about things like that, the future can tear you apart, so I just keep to the day by day

I don't think dates need to be planned out special things. I have no clue & no desire to plan a date out. I think both of us should make plans together. If there's something I want to do; I'd tell her & I'd ask her if there's anything she wants to do. If there's nothing neither of us wants to do; we can always watch TV or listen to music & talk & maybe get romantic after awhile like have intimate conversations, cuddling ect

Sorry if this is out of place, but I browse this forum because my boyfriend is HFA and I saw something I really wanted to comment on, so I made an account solely for that purpose

My boyfriend is the submissive partner in our relationship and it works very well for us. I am definitely not waiting for him to start becoming more dominant - if he did, it would probably lead to a lot of stress as I tried to adjust. Women are not a different species, and there are women who like to be dominant just as there are men who like to be dominant.

I like to hold a kind of middle ground in a relationship and I like for the person I date to be similar. I don't mind submissive partners or partners who are moderate, dominant partners will bring out my dominant side while a submissive or moderate partner will keep me in my moderate zone.

Kinky

Umm, I prefer relationships where the both parties are willing to reason with each other on things, so the power's balanced. But if I had to choose, I'd be dominant

Asperger people are naturally submissive?

Where did you get that theory from?

People with asperger's have, amongst other things, social difficulty - this has nothing to do with whether they are submissive or dominant in a personal relationship.

Furthermore, what makes you think it's better for a person with asperger's to be submissive? Are you really saying it's best for a guy to let his partner walk all over him, and tell him what to do because that's what makes the relationship work for people with asperger's?

I work equally with my partner but sometimes the pendulum has to swing so that when I need help he can lead and vice versa. In terms of D/s in the BDSM sense, dominating someone is about caring and giving. A submissive allows the other person to dominate. A dominant doesn't get to dominate just because and if it leads to really hurting the other against his or her wishes, that's abuse (re MissConstrue's blackeye - that's very sad).

I like dominating and playing very rough. I don't think people with AS will automatically fall into being subs. Either role is possible and potentially comfortable, partly because the social rules are well defined.

I'm all over the map.

I tend to be shy and introspective--notionally submissive characteristics. But I am a performer, and I have a job with a lot of responsibility--notionally dominant traits.

In my relationship we each have our strengths and weaknesses, and 'power' tends to shift depending upon who is the stronger in relation to the issue in question.

I've always been quite 'dominant' with the girls I've had, althuogh I'm in two schools of thought on this matter

In the case of my current girlfriend is (as has been stated above) quite content to just sit back sometimes and let me take care of her and even at times 'boss her about' (in a nice way)

Some may even say I have her on a string! But I've never used that to any (selfish) advanage and I will enderver not to in the future.

However she has made desidions herself so I don't really have her on a string! This I will return to in a moment...

That said however we still respect each other and although it's true that I can forsee it going into a relationship where I may be more 'dominant' than she is, but that seems to be something were we both seem to be happy in.

We've not really talked about this, but it's an unspoken 'agreement' that I get to wear 'the pants' most of the time!

That said I'm never nasty to her and so in fact it's really an reltionship between equals, even though I'm a lot mort asstutive than she is so in than sense yes you could say that I'm the 'dominant' partner.

On the other hand she tends ask me to buy drinks (and the like) for her, so she does happen to (also) have me on a string (as they say)! !! !

She is in fact (at times) a lot like Amy Rose as she sometimes sends me (what some may call) very needy and depedent text messages and phone calls (she's been hurt a lot in the past) from time to time and can be very clingly towards me, this means I have to be extra nice to her not out of 'fear' but rather due to the fact that she is a (almost) defendless young girl of 21 years who needs (and craves) a man to protect her, happly for her I took up the job and it's a blast!! !! !

The bottom line is that I play my part and she play's her's and we get along fine with that, yes it's old fastioned (and I don't want to diss more 'morden' kinds off relationships) but it works anyway and that's all that matters.

So really we dominte and submit to each other if you want to look at it that way

Goodbye Till Next Time

My ex-lover (now platonic roommate) is very stubborn, bossy, and defiant in real life but his sexuality is very much connected to BDSM on the submissive end with him wanting to be restrained in leather collars, wrist/ankle cuffs, and padlocks.

double old thread is double old...

Perhaps we can learn something from the Germans. Germans are more likely to have a mild form of Aspergers.