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28 Feb 2008, 2:11 pm

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The only problem with that is that I used to be around her all the time, especially through high school... Now that we're both in college, I'm lucky if I get to see her more than twice a year (I do talk to her online alot, though...)

All the better. You wouldn't want your feelings confused with just being a friend. And under these circumstances, it'll be clear to both of you what that get together may mean.

Just...do something. Trust me, if you don't do anything and she ends up falling away from you, you'll never get over the regret...

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28 Feb 2008, 2:16 pm

I misread "Libertarian" as LIBRARIAN ! !

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28 Feb 2008, 2:17 pm

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Seconded.

Not doing so would be a disservice to whomever your future partner may be, because if you don't try your best to get with this girl, she'll have a hold on your heart forever. Even getting crushed would be better than a life of wondering "what if...?"

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28 Feb 2008, 2:22 pm

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I misread "Libertarian" as LIBRARIAN ! !

Librarians are undateable. The whole nasty lot of them.

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28 Feb 2008, 2:27 pm

jfberge wrote:

Zincubus wrote:

I misread "Libertarian" as LIBRARIAN ! !

Librarians are undateable. The whole nasty lot of them.

Well, probably half of them are aspies.

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28 Feb 2008, 2:32 pm

To be honest I can't think I'd want to be a friend of someone like you. Referring to women as 'females' is a horrible way to term people. It has overtones of viewing people as a slab of meat.

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28 Feb 2008, 2:36 pm

jfberge wrote:

Zincubus wrote:

I misread "Libertarian" as LIBRARIAN ! !

Librarians are undateable. The whole nasty lot of them.

But, but! Something about librarians...so hot. :oops:

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28 Feb 2008, 6:55 pm

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ToadOfSteel wrote:

How do you think I feel now? The two primary feelings I've had in the area of romance are regret (for the reasons you stated) and helplessness (because I can't bring myself to take that course of action)...

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28 Feb 2008, 10:30 pm

I can definitely see such a big difference in political philosophy as important. She probably doesn't merely disagree with your politics intellectually but finds them morally repulsive. Many people on the left consider libertarian ideals to be very discompassionate.

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29 Feb 2008, 5:04 am

Bluesummers wrote:

jfberge wrote:

Zincubus wrote:

I misread "Libertarian" as LIBRARIAN ! !

Librarians are undateable. The whole nasty lot of them.

But, but! Something about librarians...so hot. :oops:

It's the Aspieness. :wink:

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29 Feb 2008, 6:28 am

Personally, I don't think I could into a serious relationship with someone who has opposing political views to mine. There'd just be to many potential problems down the track. My guess would be that the girl you approached is working by similar logic.

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29 Feb 2008, 9:53 am

Opposing political viewpoints is fine... it's how you deal with said viewpoints that makes or breaks a relationship. Can the two of you handle your differences maturely? Then it would be perfectly fine. On the other hand, if you can't, then there's no sense in continuing the relationship...

Political viewpoints are subject to change. True love is forever...

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29 Feb 2008, 10:01 am

Political viewpoints? :roll:

What if your a misanthropist who thinks all political systems ultimately fail due to the introduction of the flawed human element? WTF DO I TELL WOMEN THEN?!

Or I just shut up about politics, which is what I do, and everything goes just fine.

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29 Feb 2008, 12:00 pm

gwenevyn wrote:

I do think there's a good chance she was telling the truth. When a woman is that specific regarding "why not", I don't think she's lying.

Politics can be a major dealbreaker. Political views can reflect our priorities and how we expect to live our lives. For instance, I would never knowingly date someone who supports abortion or someone who does not support any programs benefitting the poor or disabled. Don't most people wish to have partners who have similar political views? We choose what we believe is most intelligent or virtuous. I like having a partner whose choices I genuinely respect and admire.

Of course we can also have a healthy amount of respect for an intelligent individual with opposite views, but I do not want to live with that sort of conflict--would you?

I totally agree! I wouldn't want to live with someone with different views as me. Leads to a lot of arguments and that isn't good for the relationship. Of course there will be disagreements but I wouldn't want to force my views on someone else that just didn't agree at all with what i was saying!

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01 Mar 2008, 4:32 am

ToadOfSteel wrote:

In an ideal world, I'd agree. However, I think it's a bit more complicated than that. As an example, if two people with radically different views (which I don't think is necessarily so in this case) married and got as far as having children, I can imagine quite few debates like what kind of a school to send them and just how to raise them in general. All these things can understandably create a lot of tension in the parents relationship.

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01 Mar 2008, 10:16 am

As long as you could agree to disagree (which, yes, would be very difficult if your viewpoints were that far apart), there wouldn't be a problem.

Raising kids is another story completely, though... you would have to agree on certain ground rules beforehand...

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