What is the AS trait you have that people find sexy?

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Some one pointed out to me my complete acseptance and the fact i just dont care about silly lumps and bumps on my body. I lovve my body. and even when challanged i still love it. aparently i have no embishions..
aparently its sexy.

Apparently zilch. Dating record=0. I generally get the "you're too smart" reply a lot but that probably is a negative comment as nobody likes a know-it-all. Another entertaining anecdote was in an online chat in a roleplay forum for Werewolf: The Apocalypse (an old, really stupid White Wolf RPG that for some reason I felt like participating in), was when asked by one of the female gamers. "Are you single." "Yes. Why do you ask?" was my reply. "Because from what I'm seeing, you haven't the slightest clue whatsoever how to deal with women."

So yes...I *apparently* am hopeless and should give up forever when it comes to dating...

I don't think there is any AS trait that anyone would find even remotely sexy.

people seem to find my bluntness funny

My intelligence, my witty sarcasm towards the irony's of life, and my desire to learn (naivety).

About the whole "Hypnotizing Gaze" thing. I have some insight for ya'll.

When we (aspies) make eye contact and speak to people, they see our souls.

People rarely get the chance to look into a pure soul. And I kind of think our "souls" are what "hypnotizes" the masses. What I mean to get across is that most Aspies I have met in life share one thing in common, they are genuine.

A lot of people don't know what it means to be genuine anymore.

At least in my case, I feel when I make eye contact with a girl she knows everything. For the second she looks into my eyes she feels what I feel. It is very intimate for us.

In the past I had a girl cying during sexual intercourse. I asked her why and she told me it was my eyes. She couldn't stop looking at them and it made her feel safe, like everything I said was true and that I would never leave her...

I don't know, but I'd say it is very powerful, and wouldn't surprise me if that was an aspie trait.

-Zane

It is also why aspies actively avoid eye contact. It's not because they can't as all of the professionals say. It is because it has an entirely different meaning to us.

For some reason, girls find it attractive when I take things litteraly.

You have a point, there. I tried explaining this to my therapist. I told her I hated when I was seeing a doctor, and he kept trying to make prolonged eye contact. That is just way too intrusive to me, since I don't feel attracted to him!

Doctors are told to do that, too. It's a "personal care" concept. Make the person feel as connected as you can, as fast as you can, so you can get them out of there and on to the next paying patient.

What do you mean? I am curious to know more. What is the entirely different meaning?

I seriously am interested in this.

Yes, I get that. That I'm kinda young emotionally and sexually. Swearing I think is bad. That in 10th grade I didn't think anyone in my school did drugs. I don't feel that old.

Zane when I look someone in the eye I get a lot of things running through my head, it weird. And when I catch some one eye I think it mean much then then they do. It kind of hard to explain. i didn't notice it until I got older and I would purposefully not look into peoples eyes. If I need to I just look past them, most think I'm looking at them but some get that I'm just looking past them

Most of the girls at school say I'm creepy and stay away from me
as though I am carrying the plague.

So we have a deal: They don't bug me & I don't bug them. Simple.

Anyway, one girl said my just being there was sexy enough.

My edginess and sense of adventure, mixed with my kind heart.

pretty much everyone who's ever said anything about what's attractive about me says that I have a "charming awkwardness". Almost like a paradox...like "gracefully awkward"? haha. So, I guess that's a bit of naivety, mixed with being a little bit odd (missing the point, taking things literally, giving people blank, curious stares when they're joking) and hyper, but I guess being naive and odd becomes charming if you grin, don't mind (or at least ACT like you don't mind) if you're forever the one who's different, and "play up" how silly you are for being awkward

When I eat really tasty food, I bounce in my seat. Some guys think that's charming, especially if they cooked it.

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