This is how I see it is, and this is how it is.

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Alrighty then. I have been fairly harsh in some of my advice, but you know. It seemed like the only way to get the point across.

There used to be a men's discussion, but it was discontinued, and the contents were moved to the adult forum.

People.

I'm not one to get pissiant or anything like that, but unfortunately I think this needs to be said, after some of the postings I've seen, I feel this needs to be said.

I'm seeing way too much complaining on here. Now I'm not getting on your case for that, but for the fact that you're making yourselves all into hopeless cases here. Some of you, more so then others, and I find that annoying.

I'm not the type to name names, but I will point out a few topics that I find a bit of an off scale nuance. One of them being the whole discussion about how one of our fellow members here feels like women are conspiring against him.

My answer on that topic stands to as this: "You need to grow up and realize that this is real life, that the chips have fallen where they will, that this is not a soap opera where you go up to the person and tell them of your intent. The fact that you let that happen to yourself, shows that you are not mature enough to be in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex, because you feel the need (and this is what I'm seeing from that topic) that you want to sleep with whoever is available and somehow validate yourself. I need you to take a look in the mirror and realize that you don't need a relationship to be happy right now, what you need to do is realize you are a remarkable person, who just needs to grow up a bit and everything will be good."

The next topic that comes to mind is the topic that almost looks and sounds exactly like the whole conspiracy that women have, only he thinks that it's almost like a double standard for some reason.

My answer to that is: "You came on too strong when you said that you were interested in pursuing a relationship with her, and her way of saying issues was that she wanted to be nice to you without making you feel bad that she out right rejected you. Maybe she did have issues, but the fact that you came off right off the bat and told her, is not the smartest thing you could have done, you wait for a while before telling someone that, otherwise they'll just think you're a desperate kid who wants and seeks love and attention and that relationships are for you to feel better about yourself."

These two come to mind as the most important that need to be discussed here, because of the fact that you're getting worried about not being able to get in a relationship, and it bugs you. You're obsessing way too much, about something that is so insignificant that yet for AS it's a big deal, and you're putting yourselves out there as the fact that you are desperate.

there are other things to this, but the main fact to this, is that there is one thing that can be done, let go, devote yourself to bettering yourself and making yourself more presentable, that way, you won't give off the aura of someone who is desperate, who is wanting a relationship for the sake of wanting. Become a new, bold, envisioned man.