If you're a nice guy, should you just accept it?

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13 Sep 2008, 8:32 am

I've seen women complain about guys who compliment them too much, apologise for themselves or go too far out of their way to help them. The general sentiment at least among them is that it comes across as fake. I was very much inclined to behave that way until about a year and a half ago when that point reached me, now I'm more reserved. That said, in a sense I don't agree with them; I don't think it is fake, at least I really am that intimidated.

Then of course there are people who you like but can't imagine wanting to be in a relationship with. I can certainly relate to that. There are girls who I respected or admired but did not feel attracted to. That's not necessarily to do with their being "nice" in the first place.

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13 Sep 2008, 10:52 am

Not all women like jerks, of course there are a lot that seem to. Over time, those that do will get tired of jerks because of the way they act and they'll want someone that will treat them with love and respect. I don't know about everyone else, but my step brother acts like a jerk in front of women and while it does get him attention at first, he cannot keep a relationship. I believe it is because of the way he acts. He has told me that they mean nothing but notches under his belt and apparently they sense that.

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13 Sep 2008, 11:53 am

ive been looking for a woman who likes nice guys my whole life, cant find them. wher eare they hiding.
and if they do like us, wouldnt it make a bit more sense for them to make it a little more obvious cos obviously we dont see the signs.

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16 Sep 2008, 4:37 pm

Depends on what you mean by Nice Guy. There are two types of nice guys, and women like one type and hate the other. Here's a site with essays on both types. http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/ ... s/ng.shtml

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16 Sep 2008, 4:50 pm

Mishi_Sings wrote:

At times insightful (I've thought "I don't deserve you" before though I've never had the chance to say it), but frustratingly most of these don't describe me. To be honest I don't think I qualify as either a nice guy or a "nice guy". Maybe the latter until I grew up a little in the past couple of years or so.

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16 Sep 2008, 4:55 pm

Hector wrote:

Mishi_Sings wrote:

Well, if you've read the essays without feeling attacked, then I would say you're probably the sort of nice guy women would like to date.

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16 Sep 2008, 5:26 pm

We should accept it, no use not being a nice guy.

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17 Sep 2008, 4:44 pm

AngryJessman wrote:

most women are b*tches, they can't stand a Nice guy cos they are also weaker on the surface, a woman doesn't what to lose her "status", so you have to fake acting hard and strong whatever then you can let your gaurds down, a woman really wants someone who is a liar, but never lies to her, a cheater, but never would cheat on her, woman expect too much and want what they want and thats it, it's no fair

excuse me?
that not what I want AT ALL.
I want a nice guy. I want someone who I can trust and doesn't feel the need to act hard to try to impress me. its just bigheaded and rude. I am not a b*tch! how dare you.
I can't STAND those types of guys. Urgh. they so immature.

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