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14 Sep 2008, 1:56 pm

ProtossX wrote:

no you dont get it

I want attractive girls to come up to me an be like so would you like maybe go out on a date like in a shy quiet tone

thats completely different then someone you dont like coming up to u an like basically beggin for a massage an being moody an rude

im saying why dont girls i like show a really shyness an take the first move u dont have to be aggressive that i dont like but just be like hey whatsup u know somethin like that an win me over with a move like that a shy quiet move

u see what im gettin at now? i got this whole philosophy tons of stuff is going on in my mind an just wow im so glad i can get out here on WRONG planet

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You can not control the actions of others. Your whims have no effect of their actions, nor should they. YOU are only able to affect yourself, so if you're not happy... you need to find the change in yourself and your world. Either that, or continue waiting until you find someone who somehow knows what you want. Good luck with that. When I read your posts, I do not find philosophies - I find these arbitrary constructs of petty demand and expectations, and this sense of entitlement which, quite frankly, should not exist.

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14 Sep 2008, 3:21 pm

I think women should be the ones who approach guys. And guys should look into plastic surgery if they aren't attractive by women's standards.

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14 Sep 2008, 3:28 pm

You cannot succeed with a double negative, ProtossX. One of you has to be aggressive, or nothing will ever happen.

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14 Sep 2008, 3:41 pm

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....I wouldn't want to dance with you Protossx. It's because you're a jerk wallowing in self pity.

But the big question is... would you want to dance with me?

Even if im the absolute worst dancer in the world?

I'd choose the worst dancer in the world over self pity wallower.

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14 Sep 2008, 5:23 pm

ProtossX wrote:

its just way too easy for them to still get things going on without doing anything while if a guy does nothing we get nothing lfie aint fair at all i wish i was a girl sometimes would be so much easier to date period.

There is nothing easy about it. Anyway, you wouldn't want to be me, because I have been avoided and rejected by about the fourth guy now. Which is just about every guy I considered so far.

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14 Sep 2008, 9:11 pm

Although I'm apalled at such poor use of the English language, I think what ProtossX might have been trying to say is why aren't more girls prepared to meet a guy halfway, instead of waiting in a passive manner for some overconfident jerkwad to come and swipe her off her feet, which in my experience in the clubbing scene, is pretty prevalent. Indeed, it seems to be extremely common NT behaviour. God damn those gender roles
Clubs and bars, unfortunately, are hives for NT behaviour because they are set up in such a way as to encourage and emphasize social interaction. Wonder why you don't randomly meet fellow autistics at your local trendy nightspot that often?
Indeed there are plenty of girls out there who do not exhibit that sort of behaviour, but usually they've got far better and more interesting things to do than sit around passively waiting for Johnny Beefcake to come and pick them up!

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14 Sep 2008, 9:26 pm

well sure, guys are usually the ones that have to step up to the plate. But when it comes to controlling/abusive relationships, women are more often the victim. Ok, so it sucks to be a shy guy. But imagine being a shy girl trapped in a relationship with the wrong person and being too dependent and submissive to do anything about it. That would suck too.

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14 Sep 2008, 10:40 pm

Meowpurr wrote:

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Meowpurr wrote:

....I wouldn't want to dance with you Protossx. It's because you're a jerk wallowing in self pity.

But the big question is... would you want to dance with me?

Even if im the absolute worst dancer in the world?

I'd choose the worst dancer in the world over self pity wallower.

So, umm... would you?

RogueProcess wrote:

Clubs and bars, unfortunately, are hives for NT behaviour because they are set up in such a way as to encourage and emphasize social interaction. Wonder why you don't randomly meet fellow autistics at your local trendy nightspot that often?

Indeed there are plenty of girls out there who do not exhibit that sort of behaviour, but usually they've got far better and more interesting things to do than sit around passively waiting for Johnny Beefcake to come and pick them up!

I'd have to agree with you there...

The women I've gotten along with the best are the ones that I meet doing things like work trips with my church to build houses and stuff. Women that go on those types of trips are usually the better type of women in terms of personality anyway...

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14 Sep 2008, 10:57 pm

Cyberman wrote:

You cannot succeed with a double negative, ProtossX. One of you has to be aggressive, or nothing will ever happen.

Noone has to be aggressive. It's possible to ask someone out without being aggressive about it. Assertiveness helps, but it's a totally different thing from agressiveness.

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14 Sep 2008, 11:11 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:

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You cannot succeed with a double negative, ProtossX. One of you has to be aggressive, or nothing will ever happen.

Noone has to be aggressive. It's possible to ask someone out without being aggressive about it. Assertiveness helps, but it's a totally different thing from agressiveness.

What I'm saying is that they can't both be shy. I do not see the logic in a shy guy rejecting all the non-shy girls when they are the only ones who will ask him out. It's pointless to wait for shy girls to ask him out, because they never will. When ProtossX gets to be my age and single, he may regret the decisions he's made.

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14 Sep 2008, 11:13 pm

ProtossX wrote:

I want attractive girls to come up to me an be like so would you like maybe go out on a date like in a shy quiet tone

I want the Goodyear Corporation to decide to give me one of their blimps. It would be really fun to ride around in.

But I don't think it's gonna happen. I better figure out how to get along without a free blimp.

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14 Sep 2008, 11:25 pm

CanyonWind wrote:

ProtossX wrote:

I want attractive girls to come up to me an be like so would you like maybe go out on a date like in a shy quiet tone

That's better than my pizza analogy...

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15 Sep 2008, 3:15 am

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15 Sep 2008, 4:13 am

CRACK wrote:

well sure, guys are usually the ones that have to step up to the plate. But when it comes to controlling/abusive relationships, women are more often the victim.

"Victim"? Ha ha ha! They need to stop pulling that "victim" BS, and take responsibility for their own actions. If a slut gets her head beaten in, it's probably her fault for rejecting the guys who would've been more likely to treat her with respect.

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15 Sep 2008, 5:40 am

BPalmer wrote:

CRACK wrote:

well sure, guys are usually the ones that have to step up to the plate. But when it comes to controlling/abusive relationships, women are more often the victim.

There are lots of nice women who'd say its our own fault for going after total sluts instead of them, it's a vicious cycle.

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15 Sep 2008, 6:13 am

ProtossX wrote:

I can see what you mean, but I think your problem is understanding how a girl would do that isn't how a guy would. If a girl is interested, she will often be silly around friends in front of you rather than coming up and asking. (just an example, and it depends on the age of the girl.)

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