I dont think its possible to get a girlfriend here

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Excuse me, do you live in Tx? Sure there are exceptions, after all, not everybody thinks alike, but the consensus either wanted a country man, or some variation of Right-wing social status (Cop, Soldier, Christian, etc...). I have lived in other places and I have to say Texas was the most obsessed state when it came to being conservative. Have you even been to Texas?

No I have communist leanings-and isexual leanings lol

I am not welcome there
plus I am Canadian why would I go to the US?

Can I go to Canada?

sure everyone is welcome here

Well first of all, mon ami, I'm glad you're not resorting to online dating, because I would have to give you a long speech on why the idea is stupid if you did.

As for women, there is probably more of them then you notice, and you've just got to keep looking. Yes, it is a pain in the ass to look and to find romance, but hey, someone's got to do it. Otherwise you end up being lonely and miserable.

this is very different then what I am talking about. I'm saying you cannot get a girlfriend here because single women , that are interested in dating, are very very rare.

What you just described is being single because women in that area did not find you desirable, and if that was the reason then it stands to reason there were enough available women to indicate such

Just put out a personals ad in the paper.

28 year old aspergers guy looking for aspergers girlfriend.

Then again, how many people who read papers know about AS?

the women that have it do, and those are the only ones you care about, so the number of non-aspies that know of it is irrelavent

Those criteria are guidelines. It's more of a wish list.

Of course, you shouldn't lie and pretend that you are 6' tall or that you have a college degree, but you never know she might be more flexible than you give her credit for.

It might be that she's 5'10" tall and wants to be able to wear heels without towering over a man, but I think for most average height women, at 5'10" you're close enough... And as for college degree, it's not necessarily all about having the educational certificate and a well-paying job. A college degree can be taken to be an indicator of intelligence, whether you're intellectual equals. So, effectively she's roughly saying she doesn't want someone who dropped out of high school because the academics were beyond them, she wants someone who she can click with intellectually, have stimulating conversations with.

And also, a lot of it is about compromise. She might be searching for and finding guys who are 6' and college educated, but thinking it's a real shame that they don't share her interest in animated sitcoms... and they might be blond and she might be attracted to dark haired guys or whatever, you never know.

You've nothing to lose, why don't you drop her a line, emphasise the positive first, say something along the lines that you noticed she shares your interest in animated sitcoms, say which ones are your favourites, ask which ones she likes the most and why... and then mention that you noticed she ideally wanted someone 6' but you're 5'10" and just wanted to mention it up front.

If you were 5'4" then I wouldn't bother, but a couple of inches at that height? Unless she's really tall herself it's not really going to make a difference.

And as for the college educated, well, you're studying now aren't you? You're being college educated now, explain to her that you haven't finished your studies yet but because you share an interest you thought you'd drop her a line anyway...

She might have some very strict criteria (maybe likes animated sitcoms), some not so strict (not college educated yet but in the process) and some that she can compromise on (oh, well, just under 6' aint bad either).

It might be that her strict, not so strict and can compromise criteria don't sway in your favour, but you'll never know unless you ask.

Good luck!

Exactly, a good percentage of people read the paper. Alot of them have AS, are female, are attractive, and are single.
You might meet some girls who you click with.

Did you pull that little fact out of your ass, because I find it highly doubtful.

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Why do you find it highly doubtful? He says he lives in a large metropolitan area.

What percentage of the population is Aspie? What percentage of those Aspies are female (remember: there are more guys who know they have AS than girls), and what percentage of those Aspie females are single?

Don't give the guy false hope. He'll probably have to travel pretty far to get to the Aspie partner he's truly interested in and attracted to.

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Well, in my case I have lived in large metropolitan areas practically all my life, and I have never, to the best of my knowledge, met an Aspie girl in person. And I don't see many females around that are single and attractive - in fact I just know one and she's into girls. On WP at least, the vast majority of females past their teens are asexual, lesbian, straight and single but not looking, married or taken for the long haul - there must easily be twenty guys that are single and looking for every girl that is single and looking on WP. To say that there are lots of AS females around who are single and attractive is to give false hope.

He'll be exposed to better odds than by not placing the add. Limiting yourself to girls with AS doesnt leave many options.