Has anyone never had a GF/BF before?

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Nope, not I.

Society just overrates sex and makes it look like a race: "get laid as soon and as often as you can, or you are not "with it"". Plain stupid. I guess we just go from one extreme into the other. In the past sex was taboo, now it has become a status symbol. It should be neither of both.

I'll be 30 in a couple of months and am batting 0. Actually, I've never even gone to the plate.

I had a semi-girlfriend at one point. It was a weird sort of relationship where she wanted me around just to have someone, and I wanted to have someone just to see if I was capable of love. She wasn't really at my level, though, and so breaking it off was actually a relief. Being asexual but still wanting a soul mate sort of relationship, I need to find someone who can keep up with me on a mental and creative level, as well as respect my boundaries while still being affectionate. The person in question met neither criteria, though I thought she did, or that I could maybe compromise. That won't happen again. I'll wait for the right person.

Count me out. I have been in two relationships in the past.

I think kiss has to ccome with real love. Isn't that weird? It's like assuming that in order to kiss me you have to stay with me forever. And that may scary you. I am an old-fashioned romantic lover. I like aspergers because tehy are sincere, and I HATE TO BE LIED TO.

Not really, but years later I learned that I don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. So 4 now, I'm sticking to Victoria's Secret catalogs.

Well, if she was mean becauser you fell in love with her, I would say that you are too good for her. Some girls look good, but that doesnt help when they are not good persons. Fortunately, when I have fallen in love with a girl, although mye feelings were not returned, at least she treated me nice and with respect.

after reading all this i have to admit i feel better.
I Had my first kiss 5 months ago.. and it was relly horrible and the guy treated me like crap.
Went out with him for a few weeks.
Met guy on holiday and although we werent really in a relashionship as such and werent official at tiems it felt like we were..
But yah i have to admit i feel beter since some of the people in this thread are older than i am and havent had a bf /gf or kissed anyone etc.
xxxx

I had a girlfriend once, but then she woke up.

I haven't had a girlfriend before. I have had female friends though.

I already am. Every one of them saw me as hideous and repulsive - well perhaps I am. Funny how ones over 40 have told me I looked "cute" etc. If they were young, they would look at me with horror and disgust, so they can just STFU. My advice to other males who have known nothing but rejection, is to avoid lies people tell you, in the hope of making you feel better at no expense to them, which is just a way of fobbing you off when they know no-one could be attracted to you but they don't have the guts to say that.

By the way, if any one of you ever hear that the reason you couldn't get a girlfriend is because "you have a negative attitude", run a mile from such lies: if you had something females could get out of you, they'd be quite forgiving of your alleged negativity.


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I prefer other Aspies.

But the only female Aspie at my school is a lesbian.

(I'm not homophobic. I'm just upset that this particular person is not available)

Last edited by Tim_Tex on 11 Oct 2008, 12:26 am, edited 1 time in total.

You're right, BPalmer. My parents lied... they said I'd be so handsome that I would have to "fend women off with a stick." How wrong they were...

what do you mean by "as a hobby"?

I'm 25 and have never had a girlfriend. It's nice to know I'm not alone on this, (all this time, I thought I was the only 25yo male virgin with no priors).