I won't play the dating game.

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Waiting around for a totally gorgeous woman to come along who is willing to overlook basic primal physical attraction for a quirky personality or a high intelligence quotient, and loves nothing more than spending every night discussing advanced metaphysics principles and playings Gears of War, will never lead anywhere.

Enter, mitharatowen!


Ok so maybe not 'gorgeous' but the rest works my husband's one lucky nerd.

Ok so maybe not 'gorgeous'

Isolationist hobbies rarely lead to wild, passionate love affairs.

They should make a video game about dating. Put it on the Wii, because of the sensory controls ahahaha. Maybe it would help Aspies with dating and stuff. Level 1 is just talking and stuff, level 7 is going into a bar and taking home a hot chick. Level 10 is porking Jenna Jameson with smooth moves. I would buy that game.

level 11 is banging the TV with the wii-mote...

I don't think I even know how the dating game works *shrug*
Never cared.

I'm always just me!

I don't think the "dating game" is as bad as many people make it out to be. The worst somebody can say to you is "no". Learning to accept rejection, get over it, and try again is an essential part of life.

... Men typically view love in the sense of sexual interaction with a woman. Now I know some guys are going to read this and say "Oh, that's not true of me at all", so let me put in this disclaimer that it is what psychology says, and in truth, it applies to almost all guys.

As I was saying men view sexual intercourse as "love". That's because, for what ever reason, we were physically/mentally programmed to become sexually attracted to physically attractive women. It is a male need (except for guys who are gay or celibate) that HAS to be filled in some way or another to be content and happy, otherwise, it drives a guy crazy with lust, and without any available outlet, he will do what he can to release such feelings, be it having many girl friends to surrond him, masturbation, or pornography, or perhaps any combination of the three.

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Now as for guys, if we aren't in a relationship for a long period of time, and our romantic needs aren't being met, we will go hungry. A guy who isn't being satisfied romantically (and I don't mean sex per se') is like a person who is starving and is looking around for anything to eat. They can't simply shrug off the feeling of hunger, it lingers in them, and they need to satisfy it in some manner or another because their body needs it. I think it is easier to "shrug" off love for a girl because you do have a degree of substinance. But for a guy, that hunger never dies, and we NEED our romantic needs filled. We simply can't help that we find some of you females sexually attractive to the point where it messes with our heads.

What I don't understand is why even here, in the midst of other aspies, nobody else has gone "I'm sick of this, this is BS, I won't conform to it, and I will take my luck doing things my way, and if I fail then so be it."

Well I have done that, just not as publicly as you I suppose . My friends are all aware I share the same sentiments as you though.

But yes not only have you described my current dating philosophy almost exactly, you also have the sort of attitude that I've been looking for in a woman. Hopefully you are very persuasive and your message spreads across the ocean. But if not...

Say you're attracted to someone that plays the dating game, would you be turned off and not want to date them?

(...) Life is too short to be an observer and not a participant.