Taking your time with someone you like a lot

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Hardley. Jerry's not a guy who rushes into things. He's doing what he feels comfortable with and obviously it must be working to some extent because the friendship is lasting. I don't see the problem with that.

Once again, there seems to be a rush to judgment. What matter is it, to you or to him, if it has been four days, four week, four months or four years? There is no template, no right way to approach people - and I disagree fully that the less risky approach is the better one - and to attempt to lessen what has value to someone because it doesn't jibe with your expectations is pretty weak in my opinion. As I said before, it took eight years for my fiance and I to start moving from platonic to romantic inclinations - be patient, be happy, be open, and have fun, Jerry. Love isn't convenient or immediate... it happens at its own time, its own pace.


M.

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I wouldn't either of my friendships with females to remain platonic honestly. They all make me happy and plus friendships often last longer than love. I enjoy all the attention I can get from my female friends. ^_^

And though this is risky (I personally recommend Jerry not to try this in his case) but sometimes friends give you "benefits" In Jerry's case, I wouldn't risk my friendship with her to get that.

^I agree with Fantom and makura^

Because taking time and patience is a key factor and element in love. Also not risking the chance of destroying the friendships is important because friendships are important to people like me.

On a positive note, saw her today at the Mason Platoon Dinner which was good and relaxing for me since we have not seen each other since early March. I gave her birthday card and she is saving it for her birthday (people do that often in the first place). We chatted a bit since we sat next to each other for the majority of the time at dinner. I was more of a listener than talker because it was enjoying to listen to the conversations going on at the table. When I had to go for class we friendly hugged each other and wished each other a good summer break. We'll try to keep in touch during summer and maybe hang out in the fall when time allows.

Sounds good, Jerry. You have no overt expectation, you seem to care about her as a friend and part of your life as well as having an open and patient interest in her, and you are being supportive of her... that's being a real friend, in my estimation. Don't be closed to other opportunities, but I hope things work out for you.


M.

^I am very open minded to other opportunities. Patience is a virtue after all. We are both real friends with each other since we got to knew each other better from Mason Men Home Basketball games through out this academic year. It is a growing friendship that is a very good one to have in life.

Also approaching the open and patient interest in her, I remained very calm while around her since it creates a good space for us to with each other about different things in life. Being a good listener and becoming good at conversations with her has helped me a good bit in my social life as well as developing our friendship.

Since the summer break for Mason is almost over. My friend and I will be seeing each other on campus for basketball games and other events. I actually like giving her some free space because it helped me relaxed a bit and most likely help her. I should bring up the NCIS episode with Abbey's Ex-Boyfriend being overprotective of her. That episode shows what happens when you are not respecting or giving enough space to someone.

I'm glad to hear things are going well, Jerry