The online me vs the real me

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I think photos dont capture aspie 'dorkyness' (for want of a better word) that clumsy, niave thing we all have going on.

If only I can substitute the online me with the real me....

However, I suppose that anna, Shiggily and deadeye said it all. Those girls don't really like you but they are actually liking "you + high expectations - bad offline characteristics" or even "their imaginary prince embedded in you" in all cases they don't really like your well being.

I think people who fell for a someone online and only online are unable to find a partner in real life , otherwise they wouldn't fall for some illusion love or even just an online admiration. I think sometimes one tends to "love" or even "like" online, because he/she can't find love in real life.

women can correct me, but I have a half-baked theory...

I think that many women have sort of a 'man has a mystery', idea about the men they're interested in. They want to know details, they want to know 'what he's like', etc. I don't know if it reaches the level of CSI, but they want to 'solve' the mystery, until they know the guy completely.

One thing I think many women get over time is a 'BS detector'. If you're not acting like yourself, sooner or later they'll figure it out. And they may be pretty upset if you're passing yourself off as someone or something else. Usually that's a sign that you may be even worse than they thought.

That's sort of what I think 'being yourself' is supposed to counteract.

uhhh...maybe it's because non-verbal communication doesn't exist in online communication.

Maybe the online persona is the real you.

I notice being an aspie that I trigger BS detectors all over the place when I'm telling the truth or just stating facts.

If there's a solution, I ain't found it.

I agree, and I would also like to add that girls who date online (or dont pull in RL) might well have issues with commitment and not be able to follow through with their involvement.

Do you like the girls you have talked to online as much when you meet them, or are you disapointed in their reality too?


You know in the end you are just going to have to settle for me

This may be it... A text-based medium levels the playing field for us aspies, as it's nearly impossible to put anything more than a very basic level of subtext within messages...

There's no such thing, the real persona is the persona perceived by others in the physical world.

Unlike the girls, I don't "fall" for a girl before meeting them online.

I only liked 1 girl that I met her after talking her online for ages, but at the end she ended up dating with a friend of mine who was talking to her online too, he was in the same 'group' (a group formed by people who met through a local forum) . Couldn't stand a chance because she was obviously liking him since the first group's meeting.

I liked another girl but she lost interest once she met me.

I didn't even think to allow myself to like any of the other girls because they were obviously kinda disappointed and lost interest.

Last edited by LePetitPrince on 21 Jan 2009, 1:43 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Are you as funny in person as you are online? Women really like men with good senses of humor.

Quit hoping for a guy's persona created by your own imagination

My thoughts are the same in online and IRL but my reflex isn't fast in real life , what I mean that funny comments don't pop-up in my mind fast enough in real life and that makes a huge difference. Besides, I can be easily distracted if I am in a group and can't
"live" the flow of conversations fast enough.